kids not ready for disney but going

[GOOFY4DONALD]

were worried about the parents watching them at disney because 1) they're going to a wedding and 2) their a lot of people their and my grandmother is always going to be worried about the kids



and yes i'm legit and i dont care if any of you agree with my family but i jsut want advice, please do it so the kids can have better trips

First you don't want them to go now you do want them to go. I think your story is changing. Also if your sis doesn't know how to watch her kids when there is a lot of people around then they have more problems then Disney. You also stated the grandma is worried about Disney because they are going to a wedding? What does the wedding have to do with dangers of Disney? I assume they aren't dropping off their kids at the front gate when they attend the wedding.

 

[Allison]

I'm also trying to figure out how going to a wedding would distract you from watching your kids at Disney World.

 

[saratogadreamin09]

ok, i dont want the kids to go but i do realize that i'm not changing my aunt's mind so i'm helping hre seek advice. She asked me for advice because i've been to disney a lot and she knows that i go onto forums like these.




she would like to know the answers to the questions


can you just answer them to help the kids have a better time?????

 

[livndisney]

were worried about the parents watching them at disney because 1) they're going to a wedding and 2) their a lot of people their and my grandmother is always going to be worried about the kids



and yes i'm legit and i dont care if any of you agree with my family but i jsut want advice, please do it so the kids can have better trips

So now you want advice, to help the kids have better trips? But you have been to Disney over 20 times what don't you know about Disney?

I have not seen anyone say they did not agree with your family, but rather people are questioning you due to your grammar and previous statements.

The advice given is sound. If your Aunt has concerns about her child's health, she should speak to a Doctor, not the Disboard.

 

[vcgirl925]

how to help her 3 year old that is afraid of anything bigger then her?

take it slow and start with the smaller things first.

• 
  Meet "people" characters before the suited ones. Like mary poppins and cinderella instead of buzz lightyear and woody. Meet the people characters first and slowly warm into the others. If she freaks out, don't take her to see those.
  
  Start on the small outdoor rides first. Go on the teacups, cinderellas carousel, poohs playful spot, dumbo...etc. Then go to the bigger not scary ries like winnie the pooh, it's a small world, the jungle cruise, see how she does and then slowly move into the bigger rides.

how to help her 5 year old with epilepsy and keep him safe?

Seek a doctors advice, go slow, and let him be a kid. Obviously the same rules apply, you have to keep your eyes on your kids.


which rides her kids would be comfortable on? See above

and what are the opions on the downtown disney resorts?

I have no idea on that one. I've only stayed within the parks one time in the past.

 

[AlleyKat]

If I thought it was a real person I'd be talking about chlorine in the gene pool.

Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity. I'm purchasing my own popcorn stand for this one!

 

[saratogadreamin09]

how to help her 3 year old that is afraid of anything bigger then her?

take it slow and start with the smaller things first.

• 
  Meet "people" characters before the suited ones. Like mary poppins and cinderella instead of buzz lightyear and woody. Meet the people characters first and slowly warm into the others. If she freaks out, don't take her to see those.
  
  Start on the small outdoor rides first. Go on the teacups, cinderellas carousel, poohs playful spot, dumbo...etc. Then go to the bigger not scary ries like winnie the pooh, it's a small world, the jungle cruise, see how she does and then slowly move into the bigger rides.
  
  
  

how to help her 5 year old with epilepsy and keep him safe?

Seek a doctors advice, go slow, and let him be a kid. Obviously the same rules apply, you have to keep your eyes on your kids.


which rides her kids would be comfortable on? See above

and what are the opions on the downtown disney resorts?

I have no idea on that one. I've only stayed within the parks one time in the past.

thank you


the girl loves jojo from jojo's circus so they would like to have her be able to meet jojo by the end of the trip, they would like to have lunch at hollywood and vine on their last day their


she's not a big fan of the princesses(because she wants to know why she isnt one) but hopefully she'll want to take pictures with them


they're going to start slow with the boy then see what triggered what, he doesn't get bad seizures but they can still effect what he's doing

 

[pigletto]

my aunt asked me for advice so i'm trying to give her some


sorry for being a good niece

 

[imthatgirl]

whew...i just read through this whole thread and all i can say is ...are you serious...come one...seriously??? do you really think everyone here believes for one minute that you now want to help your aunt? when this morning all you wnated to do was stop them from going, that you had this change of heart and talked to her and now she wants your help, the person whe didnt wnat her to take her on children on a vacation?

listen, its perfectly normal to be jealous of them, hell im jealous of every one of the thousands of people there right now, and of the millions of people that go and dont think to take me....but in the end, i get over it, you will too. leave them alone.

 

[mamaLori05]

my dd has gone twice (once for her 1st b-day and this past trip for her 3rd), and ds has gone once. Both times have been very magical and many memories made.

Your niece may just surprise your aunt and not be afraid of anything. My advice to your aunt would be to let your niece lead a bit. If she seems frightened by a character, then don't get in line to see that character. As for the rides, well there's pleanty of tame ones to start out with. Basically all of fantasy land. I'd skip the Snow white ride though. That one is kind of scary.

As for the kiddo's getting lost. I wouldn't worry too much about that. Not as an attack, but just as a parent, sometimes it may not seem like the parents are keeping a close eye on the kiddo's, but they probably are. I may not be holding my dd's hand all the time (because it's important for her to gain independance as well), but you better believe I know exactly where she is. That whole eyes in the back of your head thing is true. Seriously though, when you have kids you just get used to watching/doing/listening to two or three things at the same time. If you or your aunt are that worried about them getting lost in Disney, they do sell bracelets, tatoos, etc that your aunt can put her info on (ie cell number).
They also have security camera's everywhere in Disney. It's probably the saftest place to be with kids. Any story I've heard of children getting lost ended happily and quickly. There was a thread on here once about it, and most of the posters said the parents were surprised at how quickly they found the missing child....within a matter of seconds.
Not sure what advice to give on your nephew, except that again there are a lot of cameras and staff at Disney. if anything would happen, they would have the help he needed there as quickly as possible.

 

[Eventer98]

23? I'm thinking not. Her writing skills put her a lot younger than that. I suspect that someone's getting bored over summer break.

I think it's someone who wants a thread centered around her

BUT to answer the OP's question......................if these parents have not lost their children yet then I think they can handle THEIR OWN FAMILY in WDW!

I have had DH's grandmother try to give me unsolicited advice on my son. I nipped that in the bud REAL quick and have had no issues since. I can't imagine if a young girl, WITH NO KIDS OF HER OWN, was trying to convince me not to take my kid to Disney!!

 

[polynor]

I'll admit I'm a little suspicious myself of your post.
In the chance you are legit -- there's several other discussions on how to to acclimate young kids to Disney -- as well as lots of guidebooks.

Kids get scared -- parents should be able to use their judgment on whether it's real "fear" or an issue of control (my son throws a tantrum to get control - not because he's scared).

And if they're worried about wanderers -- there are child leashes. But, that's another controversial topic.

 

[hmdavid]

Best advice I can give you is to word your posts more carefully in the future.

I cannot offer any advice on epilepsy, but this is an issue that your cousin will likely always deal with and I am sure that your Aunt and Uncle realize this. I am sure that they want life for their child to be as normal as possible despite his illness. Your Grandma sounds as if she is very overprotective and controlling. Many grandmothers are this way. I am sure that she is worried, but she needs to realize that no matter how close your family is, her children are grown and need to be allowed to parent their children as they choose. They sound like good parents and I am sure they will do a great job!

As for advice on taking a 3 and 5 year old to Disney I have recent experience. When we went in March, my 3 and 5 year olds wanted nothing to do with any kind of character (i.e. Santa, Easter Bunny). Once we got to Disney, they could not get enough of the characters there. The best way to ease the kids in is at a character meal like Crystal Palace. They are the perfect age for the Pooh characters. Also, if the litle one enjoys Jo Jo, she is at a meal at Hollywood and Vine in DHS.

Many of the rides will scare them, but that is ok. I am sure their parents know to only do what their kids can handle. Disney with toddlers is completely different than Disney as a teenager, and I am sure your Aunt and her husband will recognize that. It is not possible to do everything and they will likely spend most of their time in Fantasyland at MK. The kids will most likely enjoy Animal Kingdom, too.

As for the kids wandering off, it can happen, but I am sure that the parents will do all that they can to prevent it from happening. If the children do wander away, and I know his from personal experence, the CM's are trained very well to locate the missing child and it is very important to locate a CM as soon as possible.

Hope this helps and your relatives have a great time.

 

[twooley2]

we only are trying to have a say in it because

1) the 5 year old has epilepsy and we dont want anything to happen to him


2) we want them to have a good trip because they've been married for 7 years and never been on a vacation

3) we're concerned about the kids getting lost and things like that because they are so young and clingy

ok so young children are clingy on the norm, that can be a good thing if worried about loosing a child as they might be less likley to un-cling and wonder off. Am I missing something here? Epil;epsey could be an ongoing medication adjustment. That may never be totally foolproof. I say you live once. Now on the side of a wedding. Whos wedding? Who invited who?

 

[saratogadreamin09]

the wedding is for my uncle's best friend and yes the kids are invited


and also, i'm not jealous of them at all because i go to disney 4 times a year so i dont get jealous at others going


thanks to those who gave advice, i'm sorry that i confused many but its just very complicated with my family sometimes

 

[The Disney Bunch]

she is asking me because i've been to disney many times and i've been with young kids
she wants to know:

how to help her 3 year old that is afraid of anything bigger then her?
how to help her 5 year old with epilepsy and keep him safe?( and yes she's talked to her doctor but she wants to know about the safety in disney)
which rides her kids would be comfortable on?
and what are the opions on the downtown disney resorts?

ok- this is the first solid bit of information you have given - The epilpesy part- she needs to talk to her doctor - about the rides - there is a diability board here & you would be better off asking this type of a question there since there may be someone there with experience - this is a family board & there may not be too many mothers who have this type of experience. Also- she can talk to cast members while she is there - they can tell her what Disney feels is ok for him to ride.

The 3 year old - this is not a Disney related question - encouraging the aunt to not go to Disney just for this reason just doesn't fly - this is something that ALL mothers have to deal with - it comes with time - again she can talk about her fears with her pediatrician or friends who have children but I kind of find it hard to believe that she is coming to you for advice on this since you are young with no kids - unless you happen to be a developmental pediatrician & we don't know this.

You can certainly give her your option on Downtown Disney - Again if you have been to Disney as many times as you say you have been, then you have been to DTD & can give her your opinion on DTD & really don't need our advice on it. I personally don't care for it & don't feel that there is too much for kids there but again that is my opinion.

good luck- it sounds like your aunt & uncle are going because of the wedding anyway - be supportive - be encouraging - be excited when talking to the kids - take the little girl to the Disney Store & talk about what fun she is going to have there - I am sure, as any parent will tell you, that you aunt & uncle will be second-guessing themselves until they get home from this trip. All parents wonder if they are doing the right thing. But they really don't need people around them telling them that they cannot do something because the group decided it wasn't right for them. They are the parents. Don't be subconsciously telling them that they are bad parents for wanting to give their kids this experience.

 

[thegrimdwarf]

I think if your aunt is truly looking for advice, you should give her the DIS address and tell her to come ask questions herself. But I'm betting there's going to be some really good reason why she can't - like she has no computer, or internet access, or something like that, right?

 

[noodleknitter]

Point her towards the disAbilities Board. They are angels there. And then "butt out."

 

[rt2dz]

like i said my family is very, VERY close and i'm only trying to help my aunt and gather advice

Your family might be close, BUT they did not ask for your or anyone else's in your family permission to take their children on vacation. You have given your opinion and from what you say they are ignoring it, so obviously, they don't really care.

The closest of families can become quite distant when family members start to and continue to butt her noses in where they don't belong. Close families support. And if they cannot support, they at least keep their silence.

IF your aunt and uncle are asking for help/advice on what to do (and you started this thread asking on how to talk them out of it because you, your grandmother, & the rest of your family thinks they shouldn’t go), you have been given a great number of resources to pass on to them that will allow them to make good choices while at Disney.

 

[DisMN]

the wedding is for my uncle's best friend and yes the kids are invited


and also, i'm not jealous of them at all because i go to disney 4 times a year so i dont get jealous at others going


thanks to those who gave advice, i'm sorry that i confused many but its just very complicated with my family sometimes

Sometimes having no boundaries within the family can make for great confusion.

I hope you're able to find the info you're looking for to help your relatives have a great time on their vacation....a vacation sounds like something they dearly need.