Kid's bday party RSVP ?'s

[suzannews]

Thanks for the stories everyone. I will ask my daughter, who is going to be 9, if anyone said yes or no in class. I thought 2 weeks was plenty of time to give the invites out, I was afraid if we gave them out earlier, they would be forgotten. The last 2 invites my daughter received, one was given on a Monday for the party the following Sunday and the second was given on a Friday for the party the next day Saturday, lets not even go there.

 

[WhenUwishUponAstar]

what kills me is when you track down the parents and they tell you YES YES we will be there and then don't show up! This happened with 3 guests last year. (none of them were emergency's they just forgot)

 

[cats mom]

This topic came up with some friends not too long ago. I was surprised at how many people said they only felt they needed to RSVP if their child was going to attend and if they did not call the assumption should be that their child would not be there. SHEESH!

I always call one way or the other - except when I don't see the invitation. More than once my kids have left invites in backpacks and forgotten all about them. My DS missed a party for his best friend from pre-school that way.

 

[sha_lyn]

I was surprised at how many people said they only felt they needed to RSVP if their child was going to attend and if they did not call the assumption should be that their child would not be there. SHEESH!

I've never heard any different than you respond if you are going to attend. No need to respond if you are not.

 

[lindajo]

But RSVP MEANS "answer one way or the other". Ther really isn't any interpretation at all. REGRETS ONLY, means you only have to call if you ARE NOT going to be there. I'm really not sure where the confusion is coming from...

 

[wilderness01]

Ok this has happened to us as well. It really ticks me off. What do you do if you invited someone to your party, they no called, no showed and then you were invited to a party for someone in their family? Do you do the "right" thing or do what was done to you? I know this is petty, but I am tired of always doing the right thing and then being pooped on! The party I am talking about was my daughter's first communion party? No call, no show. Was at the hairdressers getting their hair done. The other person, who knows where they were. Never heard a thing from them.

 

[lindajo]

Originally posted by wilderness01
Ok this has happened to us as well. It really ticks me off. What do you do if you invited someone to your party, they no called, no showed and then you were invited to a party for someone in their family? Do you do the "right" thing or do what was done to you? I know this is petty, but I am tired of always doing the right thing and then being pooped on! The party I am talking about was my daughter's first communion party? No call, no show. Was at the hairdressers getting their hair done. The other person, who knows where they were. Never heard a thing from them.

I think you would feel much better if you did the right thing and responded to their invitation. Some people just don't get it, and they never will, no matter what you try to do to educate them.

 

[grinningghost]

I've come to the conclusion that not many people know what an RSVP is. EVERY birthday party I had for DD, I had the same problem. Nobody RSVPing! I very clearly wrote on the invitations the RSVP date and still nothing. And then on party day, a bunch of extra kids showing up. I wasn't prepared for them with food, drinks or party bags. Made me CRAZY.

 

[tkd lisa]

Update on DD's. She had ONE child call and RSVP out of the 7 she invited. One told her at school she couldn't come. One said that she probably could come. I spoke to 3 of the other moms, two within the last few days. Those two said they'd be there. The third one was alway a maybe. The two definitely be there's were NO SHOWS! DD ended up with 2 kids, plus her and her brother. Of course I still had to pay for 8, since that was the minimum. When I called one of the moms who was definitely coming, it was "Oh, we forgot". The other one just said "we went to King's Dominion." Well thanks for the thought, huh! Arrrrgh! I told DD this was her last big party. It's just not worth it!

 

[disneychrista]

Originally posted by tkd lisa
I told DD this was her last big party. It's just not worth it!

This is what I did. Just not worth the hassle or expense.

 

[elgerber]

Originally posted by mrsv98
Oh, do NOT get me started on this one!

OK, I am breathing deeply, I guess you can tell that this lack of consideration really gets my goat!

ITA! This is a huge pet peeve of mine, people who don't RSVP. You can try sending out reminders, but without calling them, there may be no way to find out if they are coming. I have this issue every year, and it really ticks me off.

Erika

 

[suzannews]

Originally posted by tkd lisa
I told DD this was her last big party. It's just not worth it!

I am the OP.

I told DD the same thing. Maybe next year we will take 1 or 2 friends out to dinner with us or something similar. This way I don't have to worry about minimums and planning and paying for people who don't show up.

I will be sending an email to a few in DD's girl scout troop that I have email for and I have DD asking some kids at school if they are coming or not.

My husbands attitude is "whatever" but I am stressed!!!!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Whats your experience with RSVPs?

Originally posted by disneychrista
My experience those that are coming RSVP those who aren't don't.

Yep, that is the trend these days!

I am taking my 13yodd to Six Flags with 8 friends for her birthday. Do you think I talked ANY PARENTS??? NOOOOOO....

 

[poohtown]

at my daughters 7th birthday, I not only had a couple people not RSVP, but they showed up at the party with siblings. (and these are not people I know - classmates)

at my daughters 8th b-day, we only received a couple responses so I sent out reminders (I basically took blank cards and wrote the information again and added in case the first one was lost in the 'normal backpack clutter'. I must of guilted everyone because everyone called within two days. I was, however, upset to hear them all say 'oh, I just forgot to call' or 'no, we didn't loose the card, we just figured you'd know we'd come'. How the heck would I know that?

I always make sure I respond as quickly as I can and ask the parent for suggestions for a present.

Thankfully we are out of the party mood now. For her 9th b-day we had a sleepover with only close friends and that's how it will be from now on.