I've been recently stressing a bit over the friends and family that my fiance and I intend to invite and the situation with inviting or not inviting their kids.
It's not that I dislike kids or don't want them there, but when we considered the type of wedding we wanted and the extra expense of having the kids at the wedding, it seemed to us to make a lot more sense to not have children under the age of 15-16 years old at the wedding.
My fiance has a number of relatives that have a total of around 20 children under this age. If we have kids at the ceremony then they'll make a lot of noise and be restless the whole time because it's what kids do, they get bored at weddings. I remember when I was a kid, I did the same thing! We don't really want this interruption when people should be focused on the wedding, especially when it's costing us nearly $3000 for that event! We don't want to look back on our videos in years to come and relive the kids making a lot of noise and being restless if that makes sense.
At the reception and dessert party we have planned an adult event that is rather formal and people will be drinking there, which I don't feel is really the type of event you should have children running around at. It will also add an additional ~20 people to our already tight budget (we originally wanted ~50, but have ~80 people on our list so far!).
Ours like many Disney wedding couples is a destination wedding, we're from Australia but many of the families that will be attending are from the US and Germany. Since we announced our wedding will be at WDW there is a certain expectation that people will be bringing their kids with them on the vacation, which is perfectly fine with us and we encourage it. But we're concerned that there is also an expectation that the kids will be invited as well.
We are unsure how to approach the topic and don't want to upset people and make them think that their kids aren't welcome to come to Orlando and WDW. It's making me lose some serious sleep at night!
Can anyone here make suggestions on how they did approached the subject?
It's not that I dislike kids or don't want them there, but when we considered the type of wedding we wanted and the extra expense of having the kids at the wedding, it seemed to us to make a lot more sense to not have children under the age of 15-16 years old at the wedding.
My fiance has a number of relatives that have a total of around 20 children under this age. If we have kids at the ceremony then they'll make a lot of noise and be restless the whole time because it's what kids do, they get bored at weddings. I remember when I was a kid, I did the same thing! We don't really want this interruption when people should be focused on the wedding, especially when it's costing us nearly $3000 for that event! We don't want to look back on our videos in years to come and relive the kids making a lot of noise and being restless if that makes sense.
At the reception and dessert party we have planned an adult event that is rather formal and people will be drinking there, which I don't feel is really the type of event you should have children running around at. It will also add an additional ~20 people to our already tight budget (we originally wanted ~50, but have ~80 people on our list so far!).
Ours like many Disney wedding couples is a destination wedding, we're from Australia but many of the families that will be attending are from the US and Germany. Since we announced our wedding will be at WDW there is a certain expectation that people will be bringing their kids with them on the vacation, which is perfectly fine with us and we encourage it. But we're concerned that there is also an expectation that the kids will be invited as well.
We are unsure how to approach the topic and don't want to upset people and make them think that their kids aren't welcome to come to Orlando and WDW. It's making me lose some serious sleep at night!
Can anyone here make suggestions on how they did approached the subject?
BUT if I were attending a destination wedding at WDW AND if I had children, I'd expect them to be invited, too. The only thing I can think to suggest is to arrange to have babysitting (I.e., send the kids to The Neverland Club and offer to pay for it)
