Kicking Myself Repeatedly

[MississippiMom]

I think at this point the so called damage is done. If you continue to kick yourself you'll only feel resentful and this will not be a good vacation. Take it as a lesson learned. You and your wife have a daughter that is a year old. Focus on her reactions to everything. I'd also be focusing on the grandparents and her and the rest of the family. Life is short they won't be around forever. I doubt WDW is going away.

I'm willing to bet that you will be back to WDW sometime during her childhood. Then just make it a trip for your immediate family.

This poster has the right attitude. Don't worry about it anymore and enjoy the trip.

 

[artemis4]

it's late in the process for you. I'm now a member of the tough Disney love club. Because of a trip JUST LIKE the one you are describing. It made thing horrible for me. People thinking they could just express a preference a week or a month before we leave.

With any group that is larger than my immediate family. I do trips by publishing a google calendar. I will-
o make ADRs and include anyone that wants to be included
o make FP+ for anyone that wants to "go to the same park"
o do any planning for events like desert party
o include any special things, like make sure we get to A&E, or are in a good spot for MSEP

But once I make my plans they are set... if you decide you want to do something else, then you are on your own.

If you don't want to eat at Kona on Thursday, then you are on your own.
If you don't show up by 6:15 for Boma on Friday (for the 6:25 ADR), I don't include you when I check in.

Every group has a cell phone these days, so if you are running ~5 minutes late and want to hook up you can call/text me.

I love how you describe this, a "tough Disney love club."

We have a 3 family/13 person trip next year. My sister is the de facto coordinator, but in reality, I'm the woman behind the throne, so to speak. Before we even committed to this trip, we started the tough love stuff. My sister had a 30+ person destination wedding that she coordinated, so she completely understands this concept of tough trip love. I've already decided we need a face to face planning session late this fall. I'm going to use your tough love principles during that. Thanks for posting this.

OP, since it sounds like you already canceled the FP, I would encourage you to listen to the advice of the poster who suggested letting it go and focusing on the good of the vacation instead. You can't change what is done, so learn from it and move forward with peace.