Kate Hudson & Hubby split...........

[Blondie]

I wish I could say I'm surprised.

I never heard her say she wasn't a fan of monogamy but I have heard that his band members don't like her because she crimps his rock star life style.

I remember reading something similar about Eddie VanHalen and Valerie Bertinelli. They stuck it out for a while before calling it quits.

 

[deekaypee]

She doesn't really have much of an example to go on. I like Goldie Hawn and I think she has made some funny movies, but she herself is divorced twice and has lived with Kurt Russell for 20 something years and won't marry him.

Whoa! I'm not sure I agree with the cause-effect you imply in this sentence, let alone the implication about living-together-but-not-married. I've certainly known children with divorced parents who have happy marriages even though--and indeed because of--their parents' divorce. And a 20-year committed relationship isn't something to dismiss simply because it doesn't have a marriage license attached to it, is it? Or is this a sins-of-the-parent suggestion?

I saw her on "The View" as well and I certainly did get the vibe that all was not well. She did mention that she was very young when she got married. She also talked about looking at other guys, saying "I'm married, I'm not dead." They talked about how all the guys on her latest movie set were so enamored of her. She just seemed to gloss over all the marriage questions and I really did get the "I am unhappy in my marriage" vibe coming from her.

Tracy

See, that's interesting. I didn't get the vibe at all. The discussion about looking at other guys came up because The View co-hosts had been talking about such things earlier. And it was the co-hosts who asked her about marrying young (a question she gets in many, many "women's" media venues. If I remember correctly, she spoke very positively about her marriage.

And yes, she did gloss over her marriage, but she was on a press junket for You, Me and Dupree. As a matter of fact, the little tidbit about her co-stars being enamored with Kate showed in many of the interviews about the film--one of those scripted stories that makes for good press. I didn't treat that seriously because I'd already heard it/read it a half dozen times before I saw The View. And Kate's been pretty reticent about her marriage in the past, so I thought nothing of her statements.

As for the whole "I'm married, not dead" statement, I believe she was indicating her agreement with Joy Behar's outlook. The earlier debate about relationships had something to do with whether a man's looking at a Playboy was a transgression of some sort, about whether being attracted to someone, about fantasizing about who isn't your partner is somehow unfaithful and will lead you down the slippery slope to adultery. Joy said no, Elisabeth said yes, Barbara Walters and I were bored with the conversation. Kate just seemed to indicate that attraction to another person besides your spouse is natural. I didn't see this as an indication of anything but her belief system, a belief which reflects mine (which is probably obvious).

But what's most interesting to me about this thread is the assumption that 1) the exclusive is true (understandable, given People's reputation); 2) the separation automatically means divorce (a little trickier); and 3) that the reasons have to do with issues of monogamy/attraction to others or their relative success. The reason I find these assumptions so interesting is that they reveal so much more about us DISers than about Kate/Chris. Geez, even the fact we're invested enough to post is quite revealing; I'm even beginning to feel a little silly spending so much time and energy on this post! It must be because I find Kate so darn cute.

 

[Seahunt]

I wouldn't be surprised to see her with Owen Wilson right away- I thought there seemed to be some major "vibes" going on between them during one interview I saw

Especially when he kept bringing up how she looked in a bathing suit - that kind of attention probably is very seductive....notice I said "probably" as my 50+ pooh self in a bathing suit couldn't tell you for sure!

 

[georgina]

What is it with all these Hollywood couples?

I don't think it is just Hollywood. Don't half of all marriages in this country end in divorce? For the most part I don't pay attention to these stories and wish the press wouldn't dwell on them either.

 

[MrsKreamer]

I am not surprised. I saw her in an interview recently and she was asked about unwelcomed house guests(a la Dupree) and she made a face when she said she was used to Chris's rocker firends always crashing on her couch. As a new mom myself, that would really bother me too.

 

[momof2inPA]

When a couple breaks up after one films a movie I always wonder who the filming one slept with while on set. You know it happens-- Brad Pitt, Jessica Simpson, etc.

 

[RSoxFan]

I'm not surprised. I read an interview with her right after her son was born. They asked her how she would feel if her husband ever cheated. She said something like "I don't care what he does during the day as long as he comes home to me at night."

Not usually a sign of a long-lasting marriage.

 

[KimR]

I don't think it is just Hollywood. Don't half of all marriages in this country end in divorce? For the most part I don't pay attention to these stories and wish the press wouldn't dwell on them either.

And of those that don't, I'm sure there are more than a few couples who stay together primarily for financial reasons. I think part of the reason so many celebrity marriages fail is that the people involved don't have the same financial concerns as the rest of us.

 

[HOGFAN]

And of those that don't, I'm sure there are more than a few couples who stay together primarily for financial reasons. I think part of the reason so many celebrity marriages fail is that the people involved don't have the same financial concerns as the rest of us.

you are sooo right. they dont have to worry about how their lifestyles will change.

 

[bigmerle1966]

I really like Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick, so I hope they can survive her having a hit show!

They work their home life around whoever is working. While she works he will try not to, he stays home and takes care of the kids and then while he is working she will do the same. This way they can have a home life together. I think they are one of the couples with staying power.

I think the reason some Hollywood couples have such problems is they each have to big an ego and can't allow their spouse to have their time in the spotlight.

 

[ZipaDeeDooDah]

To be honest, although I liked them (Kate and Chris) as a couple, I never "got" them as a couple, KWIM?

 

[Seahunt]

I wouldn't be surprised to see her with Owen Wilson right away- I thought there seemed to be some major "vibes" going on between them during one interview I saw

WELL! My post of 8/14 was right! I just saw a magazine cover that says they (Kate Hudson & Owen Wilson) are now together as a couple!

I THOUGHT he seemed a little too "infatuated" with her in his interviews

 

[disneynutt1225]

To be honest, although I liked them (Kate and Chris) as a couple, I never "got" them as a couple, KWIM?

ITA!

 

[Disney Doll]

I always thought they were an odd couple. She seems so sunny and happy, and he seems to have the "brooding rock star" persona going on.

I think the age difference is always an additional strain. Isn't he more than 10 years older than her?

I think they level of disparity in their "celebrity" status is probably an issue.

I think "celebrity" in any marriage adds additional strain that we normal folks can't comprehend.

I think the ease with which anyone can get a divorce these days makes most folks much less commmitted to making it work, particularly young folks, particularly those with money, since the financial impact of divorce probably isn't as much of an impact for them, if you KWIM.

Like everyone else, I feel sorry for the kid. If it's handled right, he should be OK, but I can't help but think that even the best divorces have a negative impact on the children to some degree.

 

[PaulaSue]

hummm, which one is Owen?

I like the dark haired brother. The blond seems so goofy...

 

[Jennifer S]

Owen is the blond

 

[GoodFairies]

She definitely made a lateral move in the looks department. Doesn't she know you're supposed to trade up?