Karma? 14 yo boy's parties

[golfgal]

Poor kid, he sounds like a lonely boy trying to make some friends, admittedly the wrong way, but he is 14 and it sounds like he has never really had any friends.

 

[Magic Mom]

Actually,for the birthday boy with the broken leg,it could be a VERY good lesson.A broken leg at that age isn't a huge deal,and maybe it could get him thinking about behaving the same way in the future.Yes,that whistle was the karma train coming through.

So if he hadn't uninvited the OP's son he wouldn't have broken his leg?

 

[Magic Mom]

What the kid did was awful behavior. But you know what's even more awful? A GROWN woman gloating over a kid's injury. I'm glad your son is willing to forgive and forget - he obviously didn't learn it from you.

 

[twinklebug]

So if he hadn't uninvited the OP's son he wouldn't have broken his leg?

None of us can tell what would have happened if things had gone differently in the past. If we could I think there might be a lot more sadness in the world... or, perhaps, happiness knowing that we've averted disaster.

For example: If my tire goes flat as I'm heading off to work I'll be late, anxious and probably unhappy about it. But what if that delay caused me to miss being in a car accident?

Personally, I know this skatepark and have had a child injured there before. From what I've heard they have an ambulance visit about once per week, we sign waivers for our kids to use it knowing that skateboarding and stunt biking is dangerous. IF DS had gone would crisis have be averted? Maybe, it's very possible DS would have been with the boy showing him how to do the ramp instead of another novice. Then again, I think someone was bound to get hurt - although I don't think I've heard of anyone breaking 2 bones there before. That was horrible.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Actually,for the birthday boy with the broken leg,it could be a VERY good lesson.A broken leg at that age isn't a huge deal,and maybe it could get him thinking about behaving the same way in the future.Yes,that whistle was the karma train coming through.

Well I have to disagree with you saying that a broken leg at that age isn't a big deal. DD (13) broke her leg at our schools' Fun Day last year, sliding down the big inflatable slide. She broke two bones in her leg - one of which was on a growth plate. She had to have surgery to put screws into her leg and had to wear a long leg cast for 8 weeks. She had to have weeks of physical therapy after the cast came off and still had to use a wheelchair when we went to Disney.

We still have to have her checked every three months to make sure the leg is growing the same as the other leg since she broke it on the growth plate.

BELIEVE ME - BREAKING A LEG AT THAT AGE CAN BE A "BIG DEAL"!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Karma?

I don't believe in Karma. The kid had an accident. It is just as likely to happen if your DS was there than if your DS was not there.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Yikes. I get being really annoyed at what the kid did but something about this post disturbs me. He's a kid and he did something stupid but to think it might be 'karma' that he was seriously injured is kind of...yucky

Things like this always amaze me that the parents let this bully/brat get away with doing what they did! They should be ashamed of themselves and of the son they raised, to condone actions like this.

Wait a minute. Why are you bashing the parents? Do you really think the parents knew what he did and were OK with it? The kid is 14. I bet he did what most 14 year olds do, he lied. (I'm sure many posters will say their 14 year olds don't lie. We all know DIS kids are perfect.)

The kid's parents may think the OP's son declined the invite.

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What the kid did was awful behavior. But you know what's even more awful? A GROWN woman gloating over a kid's injury. I'm glad your son is willing to forgive and forget - he obviously didn't learn it from you.

 

[twinklebug]

Well I have to disagree with you saying that a broken leg at that age isn't a big deal. DD (13) broke her leg at our schools' Fun Day last year, sliding down the big inflatable slide. She broke two bones in her leg - one of which was on a growth plate. She had to have surgery to put screws into her leg and had to wear a long leg cast for 8 weeks. She had to have weeks of physical therapy after the cast came off and still had to use a wheelchair when we went to Disney.

We still have to have her checked every three months to make sure the leg is growing the same as the other leg since she broke it on the growth plate.

BELIEVE ME - BREAKING A LEG AT THAT AGE CAN BE A "BIG DEAL"!

This is what I've heard. Children, boys in particular, tend to keep growing until they're about 18 to 20. To have an injury to some major bones like that could cause more than just down time and pain. This is something that cause an entire lifetime of pain if not healed properly (leg, joint, back issues etc)

For it to happen at a place where we know it's potentially dangerous (skiing, skateboard park etc) is one thing, but on an inflatable slide just isn't something we'd think about happening. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter and hope she's doing well.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Hey, isn't Karma a religious belief?

 

[Rora]

Karma certainly isn't "payback", IMO.

Honestly, a broken leg really isn't a big deal. I've broken a ton of bones (ankle, 2 elbows, a wrist, mulitple fingers, etc) and while it's definitely been painful, it's not a "serious injury". Yes, I've had the surgery and had pins put in.. it was all okay. I got a fun pink cast and got to miss school.. everyone signed my cast.. I felt pretty cool, to be honest. Most kids enjoy the attention they get after breaking a bone. I'm a 3rd grade teacher-- see it all the time.

Now, if the OP had posted: The boy was hit by a car and died-- karma? Then yes, we could all point fingers and call the OP the "bad guy", say she's gloating, etc. In this situation, I don't think the OP is the bad guy at all.

So, is it karma? Yes. In a perfect world, the little boy would take stock of his situation and realize the lesson behind his broken leg.. but, he won't .

 

[MushyMushy]

Hey, isn't Karma a religious belief?

I dunno. I'm an atheist and believe in karma, so it's not religious to me.

Does that mean that I can talk about it and the rest of you can't?

 

[Magic Mom]

None of us can tell what would have happened if things had gone differently in the past. If we could I think there might be a lot more sadness in the world... or, perhaps, happiness knowing that we've averted disaster.

For example: If my tire goes flat as I'm heading off to work I'll be late, anxious and probably unhappy about it. But what if that delay caused me to miss being in a car accident?

Personally, I know this skatepark and have had a child injured there before. From what I've heard they have an ambulance visit about once per week, we sign waivers for our kids to use it knowing that skateboarding and stunt biking is dangerous. IF DS had gone would crisis have be averted? Maybe, it's very possible DS would have been with the boy showing him how to do the ramp instead of another novice. Then again, I think someone was bound to get hurt - although I don't think I've heard of anyone breaking 2 bones there before. That was horrible.

So I wonder what your son did that Karma was paying him back for.

 

[Jennasis]

Karma is supposed to be a balancing out of the universe. In this case, the "punishment" (so-to-speak) certainly did NOT fit the "crime". Frankly, since the b-day boy got it so much worse, I'd be worried about how the universe is going even this one out in regards to the OP and her kid, expecially when you factor in the gloating on a public message board.

Just something to chew on...if you believe in such things.

 

[Magic Mom]

I dunno. I'm an atheist and believe in karma, so it's not religious to me.

Does that mean that I can talk about it and the rest of you can't?

 

[twinklebug]

So I wonder what your son did that Karma was paying him back for.

Well, if Karma exists, that's a good question that as a mom I do wonder about.

 

[mdsoccermom]

Karma certainly isn't "payback", IMO.

Honestly, a broken leg really isn't a big deal. I've broken a ton of bones (ankle, 2 elbows, a wrist, mulitple fingers, etc) and while it's definitely been painful, it's not a "serious injury". Yes, I've had the surgery and had pins put in.. it was all okay. I got a fun pink cast and got to miss school.. everyone signed my cast.. I felt pretty cool, to be honest. Most kids enjoy the attention they get after breaking a bone. I'm a 3rd grade teacher-- see it all the time.

Now, if the OP had posted: The boy was hit by a car and died-- karma? Then yes, we could all point fingers and call the OP the "bad guy", say she's gloating, etc. In this situation, I don't think the OP is the bad guy at all.

So, is it karma? Yes. In a perfect world, the little boy would take stock of his situation and realize the lesson behind his broken leg.. but, he won't .

Really? Because my daughter has broken her arm badly twice since May and it's a huge deal. It means she has missed a season and a half of soccer - games, tournaments, practices. It means she was in a full arm cast most of the summer. The last thing she has felt is cool.

 

[MushyMushy]

So I wonder what your son did that Karma was paying him back for.

Could have been karma or could be a life lesson of some sort. It doesn't mean that her son did anything wrong per se, just that he has something to learn from this.

 

[DisneyMomx7]

Karma certainly isn't "payback", IMO.

Honestly, a broken leg really isn't a big deal. I've broken a ton of bones (ankle, 2 elbows, a wrist, mulitple fingers, etc) and while it's definitely been painful, it's not a "serious injury". Yes, I've had the surgery and had pins put in.. it was all okay. I got a fun pink cast and got to miss school.. everyone signed my cast.. I felt pretty cool, to be honest. Most kids enjoy the attention they get after breaking a bone. I'm a 3rd grade teacher-- see it all the time.

Now, if the OP had posted: The boy was hit by a car and died-- karma? Then yes, we could all point fingers and call the OP the "bad guy", say she's gloating, etc. In this situation, I don't think the OP is the bad guy at all.

So, is it karma? Yes. In a perfect world, the little boy would take stock of his situation and realize the lesson behind his broken leg.. but, he won't .

Well lucky you. My dd did suffer - it wasn't any fun. The orthopedic surgeon said it's one of the worse breaks when you break the bone in the leg on the growth plate. Try having a long leg cast from May 28th to July 28th during the hottest summer ever when you have an inground pool and have to watch everyone else swim. Having to go to school in a wheelchair definitely wasn't fun. I can't believe you would think that anyone would want to have to go through this. Do you think it's "fun" to have to worry that your leg will grow at the same rate as the other leg?

If this is really your attitude I'd worry about having you teach my kids!

 

[luvsJack]

I wanted to address your comment as it seems to be spot on with this boy. A few years back he moved from a city to our small town where like most towns, being popular is extremely important to most kids.

This boy has been trying hard to be noticed by the "cool" kids to the point he was recently contemplating trying out for football next fall and trying to talk DS into doing it with him. While I'm all for equal opportunity for all kids (my eldest was into the sport all of his school years) for a boy to try out in HS when he's never played the game before is ..... questionable, and most likely will end in pain of one means or another. DS said he'd be there for the boy if he really wants to try out (with 2 broken bones I don't thing it's even a question anymore) But DS refuses to try out himself since he played in Pee Wee and has a small taste of what they go through as well as what the kids are like. To clarify: the "cool kids" I've been talking about, many of them are known bullies & are "star" football players. Scary combo. Makes me wonder if they're bullying this boy.

DD has been dealing with this a bit with her bf. Her friend has a high need to be accepted by the "populars". The other girls actually like both dd and her friend but the friend just feels like she has to push dd out of the picture. Anyway, dd put up with it twice and finally put her foot down. She told her friend that she would always consider them friends but she didn't have to put up with that stuff and wasn't going to anymore. After her friend realized that she was in danger of losing dd as a bf, she changed her ways.

This age is so hard as they try to find their place in the hiearchy of jr. high.

Your son just needs to be assertive enough to let his friend know that this was his two strikes, one more and he is out. But, to also let him know that they will always be friends. (dd told her friend that she would always be there for her if she needed her, but she wouldn't be around to be walked on and have her feelings hurt)

You have a lot to be proud of--your son is really being the bigger man here.



Edited to Add: Broken bones in teens can be a very big deal. Just because one breaks something and it heals nicely and causes no problems does not mean it will be the same for all kids. They are growing and that can and does effect it quite a bit.

 

[sandramaac]

What the kid did was awful behavior. But you know what's even more awful? A GROWN woman gloating over a kid's injury. I'm glad your son is willing to forgive and forget - he obviously didn't learn it from you.

I so agree with this comment. What the young kid was a knuckle head move, it was un kind and thoughtless. And it showed a lack of perception on the kids part to realize that you are hurting someones feeling. But to insinuate that because he made a bad choice-HA, god got em and broke his arm. I am sorry but I feel your comment was worse than what that kid did-- you sounded vindictive. So imagine what your karma is going to be, what are you going to have answer for in this situation for gloating over the fact that a kid was injured getting what he deserved. Look at the big picture in life, and maybe you will learn something from this, and not worry about if a young kid got what he deserved. Heck, maybe if he is mean again to your son karma will kick again and maybe then he will break an arm and a leg!!!

In grade school I was bullied by an awful girl, JUST HORRID. And for no reason other than she just didn't like me. She would follow me home from school, beat me up, threaten me--it was terrible. She made 7th and 8th grade a living nightmare for me!!!! But if I go by you theory-karma maybe she got what she deserved because last year she died, suffering horribly for years, living in a wheel chair in a body that caused her pain and suffering. But heck, according to you she got what she deserved!!!! Do your self a favor, say a prayer for the kid and his mom, hope his heart is touched by the spirit of love, and I will do the same for you.