Just got home from the hospital and I'm feeling so sad..(Sorry - quite long..)

[TeresaNJ]

So sorry C.Ann for everything you and your DD are going through. I totally understand how hard it is when others don't understand. My son suffers from severe anxiety, and his "father" just doesn't get it, as well as others in the family. It can be very frustrating. I too wish I could make everything better with a kiss and a hug, but all we can do is be there for our children and offer all the love and support we can. Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job.

 

[Serena]

You know we're here for you. Let me know if I can do any more.

Your daughter and family of course have my thoughts and prayers.

I know you love your sil to death and he loves you and your daughter. Meet with him, talk with him, cry with him, he's scared, and he doesn't know what to do or to think. As long as he's willing to try to understand, and be supportive, you can help him learn more about it.

 

[4nana]

I want to add how very sorry I am that you, your daughter and family are suffering. I cannot imagine watching a child go through this ordeal and not be able to make it better. Honestly, just breaks my heart. You are a wonderful mom and strong person C.A. and your dear daughter is so blessed to have you.

From all I've read about your SIL and how much he loves her, I am willing to bet he is in denial and shock. If he has never experienced anything like this, he is probably very scared. Once he sees her and starts to be educated about this illness, he will realize she needs all the medical attention, love and support he/drs./family can munster up. I think he will come around and do all he can to help.

All your Dis friends are certaintly keeping positve thoughts and praying for you and yours. Take care of yourself, little gdaughter, DH and try to stay strong and keep the faith. There is light at the end of the tunnel honey. God will not let you down and your daughter's guardian angel is with her at all times. God Bless ^i^

{{{{many hugs}}}}
~ Sandie

 

[helenabear]

Wishing you all the best as well as your DD and all your family.

 

[2bemarried]

C. Ann.....you'll all be in my thoughts and prayers. Over the last year and a half my mother has been severly depressed...and I understand where you're coming from as to knowing what depression is and how it effects someone. My father was clueless and expected my mother to shrug it off. I think your SIL is probably same way. He'll see that this is a deep mental issue that she can't control and I'm praying that he'll be completely supportive.
Again your family is in my prayers.

 

[DocRafiki]

(Is that not the norm?? Wouldn't most parents be supportive, informed, and want to help? )

I don't think that's the norm at all. I can't think of any depressives or manic-depressives that I know who don't have serious issues with at least one of their parents. I don't think I would have wanted any contact with my mother if I were hospitalized. Your daughter has a lot going for her.

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by DocRafiki
I don't think that's the norm at all. I can't think of any depressives or manic-depressives that I know who don't have serious issues with at least one of their parents. I don't think I would have wanted any contact with my mother if I were hospitalized. Your daughter has a lot going for her.

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I'm very sorry to hear that you had such a bad time (re your post on my original thread).. Maybe it's a little easier for me to understand what severe depression is because I had a bout of it myself, but I would HOPE that even if I hadn't, I would still be there for my DD and at least TRY to understand..

Whatever your problems were, I hope you were able to get the help you needed.. I can't even begin to imagine how my DD could get through this ALONE!!

 

[Rutt and Tuke]

 

[minniecarousel]

C.Ann - you have our support. I'm betting that her DH will come around. Hang in there.

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by minniecarousel
I'm betting that her DH will come around.

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

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From your lips to God's ears!!!

I truly believe - with ALL my heart - that he "wants" to understand - and "wants" to help her and be supportive - BUT - he was raised in a family that believes depression is NOT a real medical condition (just a sign of weakness and laziness) and you can't change a 32-year old mind-set overnight - you know?

I'll continue to work on him though and I won't stop until he either "gets it" or tells me to get the heck out of his life!!!!!

 

[pilgrimage]

My prayers are with you. You might find the support of a Steven Minister helpful. This is a national program of trained volunteers to support and encourage people going through challenges. They are like guardian angels. Contact a local church--many Presbyterian, Methodist, and Episcopal churches in our town have chapters.

 

[palmtreegirl]

Prayers for your DD and your family. Your DD is very lucky to have such a loving and supportive mom.

 

[KimRaye]

C.Ann, the first few days, to a week, could be pretty hard, I know.

May I suggest that you attend the family meeting anyway? If only to be there as someone else in DD's corner?

Hopefully, your DD will SOON feel the relief that she should feel from taking care of herself and, seeking this treatment. I'll pray she does.

 

[WhenUwishUponAstar]

Cann I am praying for a healing and in your DD life as well as her DH.

I'm going to pray for peace and strength for you

 

[Melora]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.... and good thoughts.. lots of them

 

[Brer_Papa]

C. Ann...you are a terrific Mom.....

I will pray for strength, guidance and healing for you & yours....

sending you best wishes and good thoughts....

 

[Planogirl]

People so often don't seem to understand this condition. They think that a person is just sad and should be able to "shake it off." When it doesn't work like that, it becomes frightening. It becomes part of the unknown and that is always scary for people particularly when it involves a loved one. With education, they do come around but only if they're willing to be educated. It so often takes a lot of time though.

C.Ann, you are an understanding and loving person and your daughter is lucky that you are there.

 

[hockeymom7691]

C.Ann,

I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking about you and your daughter and keeping you in my prayers.

I think it's hard for anyone who hasn't gone through depression to realize that you can't "just shake it off". If you could, you would! Hopefully her husband will realize this after the meeting and research.

You are a wonderful Mom & remind me of my own Mom. She would be there right by my side & very supportive.

Keep us updated.

Annette

 

[minnie56]

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[Chattyaholic]

Hugs and prayers for you and your daughter.

I guess I'm kind of like your daughter's husband, I just don't understand severe depression at all. I mean, I feel sorry for someone who is going through that, but I just don't understand it. I look at what all my mother-in-law went through with her illness (ALS, Lou Gehrig's disease) and how it debilitated her body but yet she kept up the fight and never ever let it get her down. She was the most positive person I've ever known. And for her to go through all that and remain positive, I just don't understand someone who gets depressed. I went through a little of what you're going through, with my mother. She had to have a breast removed last spring because of cancer and she went into a depression after that. She was in a mental health unit for awhile and I went to visit her and was as supportive of her as I could possibly be, but I just didn't understand. I still don't, actually. But I'm thankful that she finally pulled out of it. And I do hope and pray your daughter will get better too.