It sounds to me like your biggest problem was the timing of this trip.. The parks were way too crowded - thus you ran into more rude and pushy people..
The first time we took my DGD was just before she turned 3.. It was the beginning of September (we were down there on 9/11).. The last thing we wanted was to deal with crowds and there weren't any.. Of course after 9/11 we practically had the parks to ourselves..
The next time I took my DD, her DH, and my DGD (as their Christmas present) it was the beginning of December 2006.. Again - no crowds - and we had a great time..
Researching and making lists and planning and deciding what you want to do are all very important - but the single most important thing is timing..
I would just try again - at a less crowded time of year..
The first time we took my DGD was just before she turned 3.. It was the beginning of September (we were down there on 9/11).. The last thing we wanted was to deal with crowds and there weren't any.. Of course after 9/11 we practically had the parks to ourselves..

The next time I took my DD, her DH, and my DGD (as their Christmas present) it was the beginning of December 2006.. Again - no crowds - and we had a great time..

Researching and making lists and planning and deciding what you want to do are all very important - but the single most important thing is timing..
I would just try again - at a less crowded time of year..

