Just found out we are having Baby Boy#3.. Why is everyone saying "Sorry" to me??

[Grendalynn]

Hello all Disney Families!

We just found out last Tuesday that we are expecting Baby Boy #3 in October! While it has taken me a week or so to come to terms with this, as horrible as it sounds, I am looking for some insight as to what life will be like with 3 boys.

I am tickled to think that I will have a great bunch of little boys in my life, I also think that we yearn for that pink stuff - DH mostly. Everyone kept saying to us when we first found out that were were pregnant, "Oh - trying for a little girl, eh?" Well, Yes and No, I thought. "Doesn't matter, as long as its healthy" is all we always said. But now I am not sure what to think. Was I kind of disappointed that is a boy?? Should we try for #4 being a girl later down the road or stick with our 3 kid limit???

I have had so many peple act like they are disappointend for us or that I should be disappointed that we are having anther little boy. They are like, "aww, really?" or "are you OK with that?" Well, the higher power was ok with giving us another little boy, so I guess I should be too!! Not to sound super spiritual or anything, but what can I say?

I am sure this sounds so selfish as there are many great people out there that would do most anything to have a child of their own, be it a boy or a girl. Please don't flame me, I am just looking for a little insight, advice or whatever anyone wants to throw at me, rescpecfully and nicely of course!!

I am the 4th of the 5 girls in my family (no brothers), so I guess its only natural that I get DS#3. I could take after my parents and keep trying for the Girl, but I don't think 5 kids are in the cards for us. Not to mention I never had a brother, so a boy wasn't in my parents cards either. I already have the blue stuff from our first 2 boys, all the boys toys, can understand their mentality and such. Not sure if I would know what to do with a girl at this rate??!! LOL Thank goodness I have 4 nieces that I can get my girl/pink fix with them, then send them home.... ha ha .... Junior High should be easier for us, or so I hope. I rememeber what my sisters and I put our parents throgh. My poor dad - no wonder he was so grey haired so early!

I am not really sure what I am looking for here, except maybe a little insight, advice or stories or what not. I have accepted that we will have another darling little boy. But whats with everyone thinking I should be upset by this? Its healthy and thats should be all that matters .....

Does anyone have any great site out there for Baby names? Now I know what kind of name I am looking for!!

 

[Anthony1971]

why not 3 Boys????
easier in the long run --somewhat-- you can buy three of everything
Anthony is a nice name - since my wife will not let me name my son that (due in less than one month )
Good luck

 

[minkydog]

People are stupid This should be a happy time in your life and they're making stupid comments. I hope their faces break out!

Nothing wrong with 3 boys and no reason to "keep trying" if your family is complete. I come from a family of 4 girls and 1 boy and I heard this all my life,"Aw, only one boy..and all those girls." My parents were just fine with "all those girls" AND the one boy and never regretted any of us.

Boys love their mamas.

Boys like to do stuff, like dig and camp and swim and hammer things.

You will be the Queen Bee in your household.

Enjoy your new baby. You have a good attitude--a healthy baby is what we all want, regardless of gender. Leave the stupid people to their mutterings

Cathy--mom to John,19, Eleni, 13, & Christian,11, and foster mom to Eric,19

 

[katyjeka]

I know EXACTLY how you feel. We are the parents of 3 daughters, and if I heard one more time, "I bet your hoping for a boy", when I was pregnant, I think I would have "lost it". We are actually thinking of one more, and I'm secretly wishing for another girl. We have alot of nephews, whom we love dearly, but I'm so comfortable with our girls and very happy with what God has given us. All I can say is CONGRATS, and treasure each of your blessings. I do know of so many couples who would be happy with just one. Not everyone is as lucky as we have been. Enjoy your wonderful family. Janice

 

[dzorn]

Congradulations!!! Just remember there would be no guarantee that #4 would be a girl. So base and future decision on if you want another child not a possible girl. I like the name Andrew, but we had a little Rachel instead. When Rachel was born everyone was surprised we decided to stop our family expansion at two girls and not try for a boy, just do what your heart tells you!!

Denise

 

[java]

I have 3 boys (and one girl) But the kids go B/G/B/B in ages. And after I had my dd I can't tell you the number of people that said "Oh you're done now" Um No see our family plan wasn't just to have a boy and a girl. But I can understand your feeling of wanting a girl-I know the cute clothes, dolls ect...While boys are physically tiring...where do they get that energy from Girls can be emotionally draining. There is always some crisis of some kind in my dd(8)'s life. My boys are big mushes. They are the huggy kissy kind of boys. And oh yeah they love their Mom. So kick back get some rest and start thinking of boy names. You know now that I have 2 little boys close in age I do dress them similar(not the same but similar) and we get a lot of "Oh look how adorable they are" comments that fill that cute girlie void. And as for having a 4th to try for a girl you know how that will turn out.........so if you can handle another boy go for it. But wait until this one comes along before you make any decisions.
Names.... well I have a Dylan, Logan and Noah.(their middle names are traditional- Matthew, Peter, William) I really wanted to name my last one Zane but it got the nix by my DH.( he thinks it is because I used to like Billy Zane.....please now if I was naming him Johnny he would have a point because I love me some Jack Sparrow) With older children it was harder to come up with a name because a lot of names now remind of someone- Like the annoying kid on the bus or the kid with the runny nose or .... you get my point.
Anyway no sorries here just a great big
CONGRATULATIONS!!

 

[TwinTinks]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!
I know it's difficult, but don't let other people get you down with insensitive remarks...they probably don't even realize how they sound. We have 2 girls and when I tell people we would like to go for a 3rd, their next comment is "oh, you want a boy." (either that or they tell me I need to hurry up because of my age...but that's another story). The truth is, a boy would be nice, but a another girl would be awesome too! I have everything girl already and like you said, AS LONG AS IT IS HEALTHY!
Here's one link for baby names: http://www.babynames.com/
Let us know what kind of names you have mind!

 

[JennyW]

We have one girl and one boy. I lucked out, I think. But I think it had to do with my husband's exercise activities. He was quite active when our daughter was conceived, but not so much when our son was conceived. I think the body heat from exercising killed off some of the male sperm. Seriously. There is a science to this.

You can do things to increase your chance of having a girl, but the only sure way is to adopt. It's more important that you have the size of family that you want than to get a girl for sure. What will your boys think if the only reason you try for number 4 is to see if you could get a girl? I totally understand your wanting a girl, though. I would be the same way if I didn't get lucky with one. =)

jenny

 

[LISAVWL]

CONGRATULATIONS!
I'm sorry the people in your life are not happier for you and being more supportive. This happened to my family as I had my last 3 babies within 3 years and our extended families thought they were too close together. We were just happy to be blessed with 4 healthy babies -- DS12, DD4, DS 2 1/2, DS 1 -- especially after thinking we couln't have any more after our first. As far as the whole 3 boys thing, I guess that's just the way is was meant to be so count your blessings and try to ignore those "well inteneded" comments from others.
Boys names I love: Jason, Ryan, Connor, Dylan & Tyler -- I am a little biased on the first three!
Good luck!!

 

[lisajl]

Congratulations! Good luck with finding the right name for him. It just seemed to get harder for us to find a name.
We had our DD and then tried for 8 years to get pregnant. Finally...got pregnant and had a boy. My inlaws were crazy about it!! Then when they found out we were not going to name him after his father, grandfather, great grandfather they practically disowned us.
Then we were surprised with another boy....he is in a class by himself. I love having three kids...nice even number our Pastor told me. (he had three also)!

Good luck and best wishes on the new little one!

 

[XYSRUS]

First, Congratulations! Kids are great! I have four boys(hence my username) and love it. Yes, people will say all sorts of stuff to you but I think they are really just looking for something to say. First and second pregnancies are greeted with congratulations and then after that they just don't know what to say or in my family's case say nothing at all...but I digress. Thank G*D for your baby. I agree He sends us what we need, not want. As a prvious poster said, boys love their mom! My husband calls them my minions! Take it all in stride and enjoy!

 

[disneyherewecome]

I have 3 boys and love it!! I get so many compliments about them it's crazy. I actually think if I were to get pregnant again I kinda hope I get another boy. (even though I wouldn't care) I think i was just meant to raise boys. I also seem to have a lot in common with them since i grew up kinda a tomboy. It's great b/c they pretty much all get along and like to play the same things so far. They are 5,4, and almost 2 so i like to dress them similar at christmas and things like that, not crazy just blue sweaters and jeans. We are going to disney and I got them all the same shirt from DISNEY. It'll be great you'll see.. as for names my boys are Kevin, Keaton, and Grant.

 

[magicmouse2]

Congrats - you join Victoria and David Beckham in raising your own footy team I have 2 girls and a boy and would have loved another boy - DH wouldnt allow another though. Girls fight like wildcats, at least boys get it over quick when they have differences! And its cheaper for wedding costs ! Seriously though any child is a blessing Dont let narrow minded people get you down.

 

[homemaker]

I think it is great that you are having your 3rd son. I have 4 sons and would not trade them for a girl any day. Yes we tried for the girl with our 4th because we thought it would be nice. We are just thankful that they are all healthy. Our last son came 6 weeks early and I thank God everyday that he is now 18mts and doing great.
I do get lots of comments about having so many boys. Some people are even rude about it. When I was pregnant with #4 a stranger asked me, "what are you going to do with 4 boys?" I simply said,"the same thing I do with 3, LOVE them." I work part time at The Childrens Place (for the 30% discount)and some of the customers were horrible when I was pregnant. I think most people just don't know what to say. Now we just ignore the comments and enjoy our sons.
Since I know how hard it is to find good boys names here are ours: Riley Michael, Avery Tyler, Gavin Alexander, & Cooper Ethan. After 4 boys we are fresh out of names. Good luck with the name search.
Enjoy and have a great pregnancy

 

[ksumn1]

I can't give you any advice about life with boys because I am the Mom of 2 DD's (7 and 3) Every time I found out the baby news it took me a day or 2 to accept and actually believe it and at least a week to fully process it. I think because of the enormity of what's happening. It definately is a big event wether it's your 1st, 3rd or 8th baby . I do understand your feelings on maybe having another. I would LOVE to have another baby, hopefully a boy, but DH says 2 is enough for the moment. He actually wanted me to have my tubes tied with last DD because he was done. My response "It works both ways...Snip Snip!!" Strangely enough, he's never brought it up again. However, in the 3 tears since he has mentioned once or twice that IF finances were OK, and IF I could get a job in my field (so far no luck) it might be nice to try again. I don't feel that my baby days are over. I look at DD and it's very sad to think that she could be my last baby. So I DO understand how you feel. But only time and your heart will tell what happens. SO I say enjoy those little boys and best luck to you!!

Oh, and I remember what I was like in Middle and High School so I've already arranged for them to move to my MIL's house when they hit puberty until they graduate high school !!

 

[lnh'smom]

People are stupid This should be a happy time in your life and they're making stupid comments. I hope their faces break out!



I cannot stop laughing. That is the funniest thing I have ever heard!

By the way, how do people quote other posters & it prints in a yellow box thingy? I don't know how to do it. (obviously! ) Maybe someone could pm me since my question doesn't belong here

 

[Ariel8676]

Congratulations!!!!!!! I'm the Mommy of 3 awesome little girls 4,3,6 months. I too heard all of the same things..and it really started to piss me off that people were more concerned with the fact that the baby was not a boy, and not that our daughter was healthy and growing well.
On the day we found out the sex with #3 i even had a very close friend say "oh so sorry..dh must be so upset"..WHAT..umm no he was actually more excited than i was..lol
We also get "so are you gonna try for that boy"? Nope..IF we do decide to have another baby it will be because we want to have another baby, and NOT because we are trying for a boy.
Sorry to go on such a rant, but can you tell this bothers me a bit..lol I have learned to just smile and be nice and pretty much just laugh it off now. Some people just don't think before they speak and don't realize that the things they say are hurtful.
So have fun with your boys, it will be great, i LOVE having 3 of the same sex...

 

[budbeerlady]

I have no idea why others cannot keep their thoughts to themselves! As the mom of an only, I think most people speak way before thinking and most days I really want to say something outlandish. You are very lucky, and blessed to have 3 little gentleman and maybe someday 3 wonderful daughter as their wives.

Good luck with a name! I always wanted to name a boy Tristan David since Brad Pitt was such a good looking Tristan. (But then he'd be a little hellion to live up to the name.)

-

 

[disneyherewecome]

oh yeah...i forgot the people that say to me when talking about my 19 month old "HE is to pretty to be a boy, just think what he would look like as a girl" that annoys the heck out of me!!!!

 

[Plantlady]

I have three sons, and wouldn't change it for the world. I can't imagine how a little girl would fit into our "manly" house. Plus, now, I can claim the right as the "only girl" in the house. I have been asked a million an one times if we're going to try for a girl, starting immediately after my youngest was born. Just comes with having all of the same, I guess.