Just found out TDY :(

[surfergirl602]

Welcome to the military, hun. Hugs! Six weeks will fly by, trust me. I would plan special things for myself that last time my hubby was gone - and it was when our fourth was just a month old. He's seven months now, and a lot harder than he was as an infant. He's leaving at the end of the month for a few months (again).

I would set a goal... as soon as the kids are in bed, I'm going to read that new book I got, in the bath tub. I've bought an xbox game during one TDY, for myself, and played it. It was the first time I had ever used the xbox. I've stayed up really late and read books, I've started working out so that I could be all hot for when he came home, lol, just find things that you enjoy and you'll be amazed at how fast the time will go by.

 

[surfergirl602]

OP, you absoutlely positively NEED to take an OPSEC class. The things that are told to you are TOLD TO YOU. They are not mean for the internet nor for the general public.

I understand wanting some sympathy for your husband being gone and this your first TDY but you have to get a filter in your mind. The things that your husband or his unit share with you is for your personal information and not for the entire world let alone the damn militas in Haiti.

Believe this or not but there are people and groups that their pure job is to google military things day and night waiting for this type of information.

If Quantico has stopped offering an OPSEC class and I know that they haven't, then you let me know. I will make a spot for you in one of my classes. You will get an eye opener like you won't believe.

It is perfectly fine to share your husband is going away. It is not fine to share where, how, why, and how long. If a bad guy can answer all the questions then you post too much information. ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS WHEN POSTING ANYTHING ANYWHERE ON THE INTERNET!

I hope your time apart flies by. I really think it'll be better than you imagine. Enjoy getting to know the other spouses, especially ones who have done this before. Listen to what they have to say as they are a great resource.

I second this, and third this. I've just read some of your other posts, and there is way too much information in yours posts, and that concerns me, one milspouse to another. If I were to put that info out there, my DH's commander would have his hide. I know better of course, and what is said about his job, his rank, and where he goes is just between us. I strongly urge you to edit out this info from your posts.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

ENOUGH! I wrote something on your officer leaving the military thread last night but decided to delete it.

You say that you are not saying anything secret, but you just mentioned the
-number of Marines
-location they are going to
-date they are leaving
-location they are leaving from (not in this exact post, but inferred from other posts you have made)

Even if it is in some type of newsletter on base (what?!?!), you shouldn't be posting it in a public forum.

But I am not very concerned about that because...

Something is very very wrong here. There are way to many inconsistencies with what you say in your posts. You have a lot of terminology/concepts/regulations wrong (not just in the post, but others)
Marines do not go TDY. They go TAD.
What kind of "8 year contract" does your Dh have? Never heard of a Marine officer with that. Officers have the ability to resign their commission.
There are so many "just odd" things you have posted.



I don't know what your agenda is, but something is not right.

By the way, about a month ago you posted your husband's real name, but have since edited it
http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?p=39243712#post39243712
I saw that before you edited it. And I remember.
I don't think you'll find a Marine by that name and rank stationed where you claim your husband is stationed...

Wow this is very harsh. I have no agenda as you say. My husband says TDY instead of TAD for a specific reason having to do with how he entered the Marines. I think you can figure that one out without me saying it.

My husband does have a "contract" of 8 years because of his specific obligations that were part of his training and education. I think you can figure that one out, too.

Yes officers have the ability to resign their commission, but that wan't my question. I am new to all this, I have only been married to my husband and live where we live for 8 months. So far I haven't heard of an officer leaving. I asked how common it was because of our specific situation.

I won't say anything more about what's happening in Haiti. I only know what I'm told.

I don't think you'll find a Marine by that name and rank stationed where you claim your husband is stationed.

Please don't accuse me of "claiming" anything. After scolding me for constantly posting too much information, I'm not stupid enough to give you the specifics of this.

Wow I have grown up A LOT because of this. I'm not used to being questioned like this and I don't like the tone one bit.

To the posters who posted kindness, thank you so much!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Wow this is very harsh. I have no agenda as you say. My husband says TDY instead of TAD for a specific reason having to do with how he entered the Marines. I think you can figure that one out without me saying it.

My husband does have a "contract" of 8 years because of his specific obligations that were part of his training and education. I think you can figure that one out, too.

Yes officers have the ability to resign their commission, but that wan't my question. I am new to all this, I have only been married to my husband and live where we live for 8 months. So far I haven't heard of an officer leaving. I asked how common it was because of our specific situation.

I won't say anything more about what's happening in Haiti. I only know what I'm told.



Please don't accuse me of "claiming" anything. After scolding me for constantly posting too much information, I'm not stupid enough to give you the specifics of this.

Wow I have grown up A LOT because of this. I'm not used to being questioned like this and I don't like the tone one bit.

To the posters who posted kindness, thank you so much!

Mrs. Darcy I am really trying to be kind when I say this so please do not think of it in a snarky tone. You post way too much personal information. Not even in just this post but in other threads. I haven't been posting much but I do like to read about different things and you stuck out to me because you put everything out there. The internet is a big public place. It is not a group of your personal friends in your living room. I don't think that you realize how easy it is to put it all together if someone wanted to. I personally am not that talented but there are many that are. You should be aware of that. Posting all that you did in this thread alone could get your dh in trouble with his job and people God forbid hurt. I know that is not your intent but I think you have to be more aware of this simply for the sake of safety. Not everyone is a nice person with good intentions. You are a young bride and no doubt excited about this new chapter in your life as you should be. I am also sure that there is some sort of learning curve being a military spouse and it cannot be easy. I think a good step might be to talk to your dh before you post some stuff to make sure it really is okay. It would be a good start. Again- I am not being snarky at all. I simply think that you are a young woman just starting this chapter and are hitting some sppedbumps along the way.

 

[monkeybug]

And the constant referral to being an officers wife (for example, she didn't "tell her neighbor" about her pregnancy, she told the "other wives in officer housing" or something similar).

Mrs. Darcy, I don't mean to be harsh or sound unkind, but this is something I notice with your posts too. Maybe your just really proud of your husband and his accomplishments? (as you should be) It does come across like you REALLY want everyone to know that your husband is an officer though.
It's just that constantly referring to your husbands rank can seem a bit...tacky. (for lack of a better word)
I try (probably slip from time to time) to never mention my husbands rank or whether he is officer/enlisted unless someone asks me directly. I just don't think it has any place in my personal dealings with people or with other military wives. It's not a part of my relationships, it's a part of his, KWIM?
Not trying to be scolding or anything so I hope it doesn't come across that way!

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Mrs. Darcy, I don't mean to be harsh or sound unkind, but this is something I notice with your posts too. Maybe your just really proud of your husband and his accomplishments? (as you should be) It does come across like you REALLY want everyone to know that your husband is an officer though.
It's just that constantly referring to your husbands rank can seem a bit...tacky. (for lack of a better word)
I try (probably slip from time to time) to never mention my husbands rank or whether he is officer/enlisted unless someone asks me directly. I just don't think it has any place in my personal dealings with people or with other military wives. It's not a part of my relationships, it's a part of his, KWIM?
Not trying to be scolding or anything so I hope it doesn't come across that way!

monkeybug, I'm ashamed to admit that I have mentioned he was an officer too many times because it went to my head. I will learn to be more humble about it, since I see now it's tacky and disrespectful to other service people. I'm embarrassed over it and I won't do it anymore.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

monkeybug, I'm ashamed to admit that I have mentioned he was an officer too many times because it went to my head. I will learn to be more humble about it, since I see now it's tacky and disrespectful to other service people. I'm embarrassed over it and I won't do it anymore.

Eh- Don't be embarrassed over it. You are a proud wife. There is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes you just want to shout things from the mountain tops because you are excited or proud. We have all been there.

 

[monkeybug]

monkeybug, I'm ashamed to admit that I have mentioned he was an officer too many times because it went to my head. I will learn to be more humble about it, since I see now it's tacky and disrespectful to other service people. I'm embarrassed over it and I won't do it anymore.

Well don't be too hard on yourself! This military thing is as much of a learning experience for us wives as it is for our husbands!!
They should send us to bootcamp too. (but ours should have manicures and chocolate, not push ups and mre's)

 

[lovemygoofy]

Well don't be too hard on yourself! This military thing is as much of a learning experience for us wives as it is for our husbands!!
They should send us to bootcamp too. (but ours should have manicures and chocolate, not push ups and mre's)

Several years ago now, I was working with a LTC's spouse organizing a military formal. Anyways without fail every single conversation somehow had not one or two but probably five sentences that started "My husband LTC xxx said,wants, thinks or whatver. I'm telling you I've never seen a spouse that referred to her husband in such a way lol Then one day she said " xxxx thinks...." and I was like who the heck is xxxx and she said my husband. I said oh I thought his name was LTC

 

[monkeybug]

Several years ago now, I was working with a LTC's spouse organizing a military formal. Anyways without fail every single conversation somehow had not one or two but probably five sentences that started "My husband LTC xxx said,wants, thinks or whatver. I'm telling you I've never seen a spouse that referred to her husband in such a way lol Then one day she said " xxxx thinks...." and I was like who the heck is xxxx and she said my husband. I said oh I thought his name was LTC

LOL!!! I have a friend whose husbands first name is BMC!! What were their parents thinking giving them such odd names? Must have known they were destined for the military!

 

[Swalphin]

I am still trying to find anything about the UN Peacekeepers in Haiti being killed. Our church has sponsored a group who is heading down for Spring Break and I am scared to death for them. If anyone can find a link I would appreciate it.

 

[manning]

The enemy is listening. Always.

And that means reading too. Facebook worse invention ever for people who don't know how to filter info.

Yes, keep it quiet!! This goes back to Vietnam. I worked in a unit that sent troops to Vietnam. We would fly them in. We had an undercover soldier working next to me trying to find the leak. Someone was feeding flight schedules and the enemy was firing on the planes as they landed. They knew when they were coming.

 

[manning]

Several years ago now, I was working with a LTC's spouse organizing a military formal. Anyways without fail every single conversation somehow had not one or two but probably five sentences that started "My husband LTC xxx said,wants, thinks or whatver. I'm telling you I've never seen a spouse that referred to her husband in such a way lol Then one day she said " xxxx thinks...." and I was like who the heck is xxxx and she said my husband. I said oh I thought his name was LTC

This happens in civilian life too. In one of my jobs I had to deal with executive spouses. You would be surprised how many of them tried to take on their spouses authority. Some had to be told by their spouses to tone it down.

 

[cm8]

When I saw her mention the 8 year contract I assume it is related to the fact that her DH is studying for his PhD. You have to "pay back" 3 years for every 1 year of school that Advanced Civil Schooling pays for (or at least my DH did in the Army for his PhD) and that extends your requirement for time served for officers. If he had the military pay for his Masters and PhD then there would be a "contract" type of obligation and he couldn't just resign his commission until after that time was served.

I had no clue that Marines went TAD and not TDY. Learned something new! Can we all not use the same acronyms??? LOL

And yes, OPSEC needs to be reviewed or learned. There is WAY too much info out there. Just because the details are out there in the military community doesn't mean they are for public broadcast. Remember this is a public forum with a worldwide audience (and not all of the world likes the US military). Many more people read here than post. Better safe than sorry.

I honestly don't think there is any agenda here. I think there is just some naivete' on the part of the OP.

 

[wtccheermom]

So I have read this entire thread and I really think that the OP made a mistake posting the information but I am sure she meant no harm. As for complaining about a 6 week TDY that I found that strange but if this if the first time she has been away since they were married than I can understand why 6 weeks must feel like forever but OP let me tell you this you will soon get used to it and it becomes a normal way of life. Since we have moved to my husband’s new duty station he has been TDY 8 out of the 11 months we have been here and when he is working on post it is very long hours so we just do our thing and if he can join us he does if not than that is OK to. As for talking about his rank that too is probably due to you being a new wife I was the same way when my husband got commissioned and was a lowly 2nd LT. I thought that was the coolest thing ever fast forward many years later and well the new has worn off and it is job like any other. I promise you will get use to it and it won’t be so bad because it is six weeks of no cooking and your amount of laundry will be cut in half!

 

[monkeybug]

So I have read this entire thread and I really think that the OP made a mistake posting the information but I am sure she meant no harm. As for complaining about a 6 week TDY that I found that strange but if this if the first time she has been away since they were married than I can understand why 6 weeks must feel like forever but OP let me tell you this you will soon get used to it and it becomes a normal way of life. Since we have moved to my husband’s new duty station he has been TDY 8 out of the 11 months we have been here and when he is working on post it is very long hours so we just do our thing and if he can join us he does if not than that is OK to. As for talking about his rank that too is probably due to you being a new wife I was the same way when my husband got commissioned and was a lowly 2nd LT. I thought that was the coolest thing ever fast forward many years later and well the new has worn off and it is job like any other. I promise you will get use to it and it won’t be so bad because it is six weeks of no cooking and your amount of laundry will be cut in half!

AND you get 100% control over the remote!!!
There are some benefits to this crazy military life. Cheesy lifetime movie marathons, with no complaining from your husband, is one of them.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

Several years ago now, I was working with a LTC's spouse organizing a military formal. Anyways without fail every single conversation somehow had not one or two but probably five sentences that started "My husband LTC xxx said,wants, thinks or whatver. I'm telling you I've never seen a spouse that referred to her husband in such a way lol Then one day she said " xxxx thinks...." and I was like who the heck is xxxx and she said my husband. I said oh I thought his name was LTC

The only time I refer to my husband by rank is when he is at home and isn't paying attention to me. If I yell his rank he always answers "Ma'am??". It's more like a nickname at this point. He's up for promotion right now and I will still probably call him by his current rank since that is what I am used to yelling when he isn't paying attention.

 

[lajones81]

Yes, keep it quiet!! This goes back to Vietnam. I worked in a unit that sent troops to Vietnam. We would fly them in. We had an undercover soldier working next to me trying to find the leak. Someone was feeding flight schedules and the enemy was firing on the planes as they landed. They knew when they were coming.

Wow! That is really sad and scary!

 

[natenapril]

Mrs. Darcy, I don't mean to be harsh or sound unkind, but this is something I notice with your posts too. Maybe your just really proud of your husband and his accomplishments? (as you should be) It does come across like you REALLY want everyone to know that your husband is an officer though.
It's just that constantly referring to your husbands rank can seem a bit...tacky. (for lack of a better word)
I try (probably slip from time to time) to never mention my husbands rank or whether he is officer/enlisted unless someone asks me directly. I just don't think it has any place in my personal dealings with people or with other military wives. It's not a part of my relationships, it's a part of his, KWIM?
Not trying to be scolding or anything so I hope it doesn't come across that way!

 

[irishbosoxfan]

The only time I refer to my husband by rank is when he is at home and isn't paying attention to me. If I yell his rank he always answers "Ma'am??". It's more like a nickname at this point. He's up for promotion right now and I will still probably call him by his current rank since that is what I am used to yelling when he isn't paying attention.

So are you guys waiting for that list that was supposed to be out on Tuesday but now we have to wait till the 25th??