Just a vent

[Serena]

My sister's husband drives me nuts sometimes. I can't seem to figure out his thinking on some stuff. It makes no sense.
He won't put my sister and the girls on his insurance at work. He says that my sister's ex is supposed to have the girls on his, but he doesn't have a job most of the time and can't afford it anyway. My sister is supposed to provide her own insurance no matter that it will cost her 3 times as much as if he put her on his.
His insurance is really inexpensive but he just won't budge. I don't get it.

He makes so suspicious sometimes. He won't put anything in writing that has both their names on it. Everything has to be 50/50 unless it has to do with his son in Chile.

I get the feeling most of the time that he loves my sister, but the other times, I think he just wanted his green card.

 

[Pam]

He sounds like a jerk. I can understand your frustration. How does your sister manage to put up with his childish and selfish antics?

Green card, huh? Well - that does explain a lot . If I were your sister I think I would call the office management of his work and ask for everyone to automatically be put on the health plan.....

 

[mrsgus06]

I totally agree with Pam,

Can your sister not call the human resource office and automatically have them added? I know some companies only have open enrollment once every year (unless newly married, parents, adoptive parents or divorced) so he may be waiting on that. My ex is also suppose to have ins on my two oldest, but I am lucky to receive child support every other month. Does your BIL not know how important it is to have coverage?

 

[DiaDeGuadalupe]

That does sound strange. You'd think that everyone would be on his plan since, as a *family*, it would be more economical. From what you posted, it seems like he thinks his *family* is only his son in Chile and himself.

 

[Shugardrawers]

My DH is required BY LAW to carry ins on his DD. If he had a job that didn't offer it, too bad, we'd have to pay astronomical premiums on our own. His ex DW can't figure out why we don't cover HER as well. Your DSis's DH has a point, but only to a point. It IS their father's responsibility, however, if he's not meeting it, when he married your DSis he took on that responsibility, it's a package deal. And for the life of me I don't understand not covering, at the very least, his wife. My exhole kept everything 50/50. It was all his or mine, no ours. I found out later it was because he wanted to be able to make a hasty exit. I hope that's not the same for your DSis.

 

[Serena]

Next time she asks, or I can gently bring it up, lol, I'll mention what you guys have said.

My computer went haywire, that's why I wasn't able to respond before now.