Hi Everyone,
Just checking in - I have not written because I don't want to whine or bring my misery to anyone. I don't want to be or sound like a downer. Not sure if that made any sense -
First, I want to thank God that my dh is okay and alive. That goes without saying. Again, without sounding like I am not grateful - what keeps me going right now is that I know it could have been so much worse. I do ask myself, "what happened". Things were going good/well. My oldest son got the job he had applied for months before our cruise and at the time we did not know if he would get called before it. He is in training - We did everything we were supposed to do and even w/working and if any extra money was there, I have always lived frugal, beneath our means and on a budget. Luckly because of this, we have some savings. They always say have at least 6 months of savings for emergencies. You hope whatever you save is for the future/retirement/children, etc.
Okay - the test results are not encouraging. He cannot go back to work. There is too much damage in the interior wall/lower bottom of heart/scar tissue, etc. There is a leaky valve (which we don't know if it was there before or the cause from the heart attack). He did have a silent heart attack before also. His heart which should be operating on 60-75% (don't quote me on the #s), is operating on 36%. They are not sure if they will have to put in a defilbrillator down the line.
We have a long bumpy road ahead of us. This is not what we wanted to hear and dh did not want to stay home at 48. We now have no income coming in until SS approves which does not start til 6 months after injury. What is not encouraging is that they deny almost everyone the first time. That is where I worry that this will drag and can take two years even with a lawyer. Once they approve, he can also apply for his disability pension at work. In the meantime, we will consult w/a workers comp lawyer also. I worry about benefits down the line for us, and many other things that I do not want to get into without getting more upset. Things just have to be on hold for us for a while.
Again, please I just wanted to update. I love reading about a dvc resort in Hawaii, the two cruise ships and everyone's good news here. The weather has been hot and humid here also. It's hard to wear summer clothes in October.
Just some prayers and pixie dust that everything goes smooth here and we don't have to fight for everything. Thank you so much for listening/reading.