Jennifer and Luke's PJ/TR NY/WDW HM 6/6/2010,Wedding photos up! 12/08

[figment fan21]

It is really hard... i understand you want 3 but like sara said... dont feel obligated. Just take alittle while to think about it. Dont make any decisions on what others have said to you.

 

[shippedtosea]

That is a tough decision....I think you need to take some time to think it over and decide. It's okay to want three...I have 5 and we're having a destination wedding. I also like the look of a slightly larger wedding party... even though it does lead to extra costs for gifts and such and it's more people to keep track of.

You shouldn't pick someone simply out of obligation. You should pick who you want to stand up beside you. The type of person that would get so upset and cause trouble because you didn't pick them, is the same type of person that would cause trouble being in it.

Thanks hun! I guess I have it stuck in my head that I wanted 3...I completely hear what your saying about her causing trouble....I really need to think this over

It is really hard... i understand you want 3 but like sara said... dont feel obligated. Just take alittle while to think about it. Dont make any decisions on what others have said to you.

Yeah I guess I still have a lot of thinking to do....I have been thinking about it for like the last 3 months buuuut still...can't make a choice. I am so bad a decisions.

 

[shippedtosea]

Hey all! Sorry I haven't been around that much...and when I am....I always have something to complain about...today is not....COMPLETELY a complaint! this is in two parts...because it is long

Okay so a couple things have happened...

My shoes are still totally lost! I have talked to my mailman and he is on the search! but I have gotten a full refund...so now I guess i'll wait a bit for them to show up? but I have to start looking...I need my shoes for my fitting in December

My mom has starting freaking out on me...its kind of common around this time of year...she called me yesterday because she had a day off...and was like I went and got a dress fitting and ordered my dress! which is great..but my first reaction was...I'm coming home in a month....why didn't you just wait? But I didn't mean it as mean...or why did you order it? I just would never want to go to a bridal shop alone...thats uncomfortable...AND she got it at my bridal shop where my dress is!? I'm not mad I was just surprised. So of course she freaks out and is like i'll call and cancel it...which clearly wasn't the point. We already decided on the dress and color...I just thought she'd want me there. But she was mad then and said I was yelling...which I wasn't

THEN she started on the bridal shower. Now i'm sorry but I do have to be there so it needs to fit my schedule as well? right? So I am coming home in December for my own version of a planning section...and I said I want it to be on January 3 or 4 (Saturday or Sunday) she gets mad and says WHY can't I come home in April? Its too close to New Years.....Now I don't think the weekend after New Years is that big of a deal...I am not asking to have it between Christmas and New Years...(which would be crazy) and its not on New Years day....am I being unreasonable???? I am a student I can't imagine coming home so many times! I have had plans to come home December for 2 weeks and then a couple weeks before the wedding to have a final fitting and cut and dye my hair..for like 3 days!. I just don't want to fly home AGAIN. its too much, with school and work. It is for me...so shouldn't it be around when I am home? So after we have a little bicker about the date...she starts on me about my bridal party....why haven't I decided....why is it taking me so long... which is a problem for me as well so I don't really need to be reminded! Seems like everything I was going to say was wrong....

Now I don't think I have been too crazy..ALL I requested was it be when I came home in December...and that it not be covered in pink! (I really don't like pink...or lavender!) I just don't want it to be like crazy girly. I told her about Scarlet’s Bachelorette party, it was an English tea party and she also mentioned Brunch...which both work for me so I said either sounds great use your judgment...but now she just keeps freaking!

Sorry about all that whining..I love my mom but I have a lot going on here and she doesn't understand that. I have also had a really bad week...which doesn't help


Next....me and DF actually talk about Wedding stuff!

 

[shippedtosea]

okay so ANYWAY..after all that...I decided me and DF needed to sit down and talk about Wedding stuff....which DF is not always excited about...so I texted him and warned him and he said okay...

Well I had to touch on a subject he hasn't wanted to talk about since the summer and I don't really know how to talk to him about it. Okay so DF isn't the most...social person.... he says he has never felt extremely close to friends...not like I have with my friends...also all his friends are people he has worked with (which seems to bother him..) SO its not like he has anyone he has know for most of his life...or been close to for a long long time. Maybe its a guy thing...maybe its an English thing...i'm really not sure I just know how it is with him. Now I know I am DF's best friend...its very obvious...soo.....when I brought up the subject of GMs he got very upset...and has for months. I don't want to upset him...but I thought he would want to have his friends up with him. His theory is that everyone who is coming from England he has spent time with and is just as close with all of them....so why single out 2 people....he doesn't feel like he should or wants to. Which I can't fight him on...it’s just a little...upsetting...I want him to have close friends. So after he got really upset and was yelling (he yells instead of getting upset..) He said he didn't want anyone. Which my first response was....we already asked my brother...which his response was he can still be in it...which of course I was thinking how will this work...? So we talked about how we will have to set it up. My brother won't be standing up with him? but will walk in with him and they will sit together before everything starts? (again this seems weird to me....) Then the girls will walk in alone...and the only one who will stand up with me is my MOH (is this crazy?) so she can hold my flowers and such...or I guess she could just sit? I'm still fuzzy on this because it’s confusing for me. DF wants to have our rings...displayed in shells on the table with the sand ceremony and memorial picture...and then he will get the rings when they are asked for? (still....seems weird to me?) DF also mentioned that he thinks that I should have the 3 girls...and he thinks that the other girl should be in the wedding party and its the right thing to do...SO I guess after that statement...That’s my choice decided..

Okay so I’m sorry I’m still really confused at the details....Maybe some of you can give tips. I don't want to upset DF but...I still want it to look nice?

so to...lighten up the wedding stuff...me and DF started on our wedding cd! and almost finished the whole thing! and agreed on everything! which for us is a big deal....I usually can't keep DF's focus on wedding stuff for more then 45 mins. So we still want to add songs because right now its at 17...and we still have room. We need more....song about us now...because we have no mixed tapes for the present. I wasn't going to post the list because its not finished but....I think this post needs a little happiness!! So just incase you don't remember....me and DF are doing a cd with a timeline. it is based off of mixed tapes we have given each other and timelines our relationship....so its not all happy songs..because we were alone for a lot of it...and so some of it is about desperately missing someone. I will try and break it down for you a bit! (I am also terribly bored at work!!) This will also help me see what we are missing

So me and DF have been together 4 years since April (wow!) but had distance for 2 years!!

1. First Day of my Life-Bright Eyes : this song expresses how our lives kind of started when we met each other and how they were such a mess before

2. Sealed with a Kiss- The Eyeliners So this is my song for realizing that I liked DF...I never shut up about him but I was dead set on we weren't serious and I didn't love him...and blah blah. so my friends were ready to kill me.

3. Modern Love- Bloc Party: This is DF's song for not thinking he was good enough but wanting to be the best he could be.

4.Love Song- Tilly and the Wall : so this song represents the moment of us realizing we were in love and telling each other

5. Everything I am- One True Thing :After us dating for 3 months I moved away. So this song is my dedication to loving him even though i'm leaving

6. Old Brown Shoes- Beatles: Directly after me leaving we were determined the distance would be fine and we were still okay with it

7. Bonnie Taylor Shakedown- Hellogoodbye: So if you don't know this band...they are very silly...but we love them. so this us living in distance..and not understanding why we have to be apart and remembering how nice it was when we lived near each other

8. Atlantic- Thrice: So this is DF's lonely song...its kind of sad but it talks about how even though you’re lonely, realizing how life isn't the same without theme

9. Miss You- Rocking Horse Winner : So DF came in September to see me...but it was very short and then I was left in a new city at school missing him. So this is a song hoping and waiting for when he would come next in December. (little did I know we would then get engaged!!)

10. Rest of my Life- Unwritten Law: so this is our...getting engaged song..

11. Rest Your Eyes- Azure Ray : So now we are back in distance after the engagement... we are going through a very painful time and I make the choice to move to England...and this is my way of saying it will be okay soon...just be patient

12. Let's Stay Together- Al Greene : The move to England went....badly and this was the worst time in our relationship...so this song is getting over the fighting and working through it

13. Would You Come with Me- The Elected So..I decided to move back to America...and Asked DF to move with me

14. Soundtrack for Our Movie- Mae So now this is the point where we live together! and we are remembering all the good times and looking forward, and feeling how much we are in love

15. Going to Port Washington- Mountain Goats This represents our many adventures living together plus its about Long Island where I grew up!

16. All over Again- Johnny CashThis is one of my favorite songs and singers...its about falling in love over and over no matter what

17. I will Love You-Fisher This song makes me cry....Its pretty much about promising to love each other til the end of time.

I'm sorry if this is crazy long and I am boring you all! haha I highlighted the songs so if you don't want to read my explanation you don't have to! This experience was really good for me and DF...we were both getting kind of teary eyed..

Well the next few weeks will be crazy for me..its thanksgiving and my birthday so...sorry if i'm not around much. We are going to the Circus tonight! so excited

 

[Boardwalk_bride]

I'm sorry to hear you have been having so much stress lately! I think weddings do really bring a lot of stress, but I am sure it is all worth it in the end

I understand your concern with the bridal party. I think the best advice I can give you is to stop worrying about traditions, or how things normally look. Maybe some may think it is weird, but it would be more weird to have the groom uncomfortable, you know? Just do whatever you want, and don't worry about how it looks! I hope this helps a little, but I can understand it being difficult.

I don't really know too many of your songs on your CD, but I really love how each had a meaning behind it. It makes it so special, the fact that the two of you choose them together, and that each has a meaning...it is really cute!

Happy almost birthday (unless it has passed than happy late birthday). When is US thanksgiving? If it is this weekend, than happy Thanksgiving!! Enjoy your turkey!!! I wish I could make it to the US for that sale day (I feel like it's called "black" something...black friday?)

 

[pezaddict231]

That is terrible about your shoes, I can't believe they were lost! Sorry your mom has been aggravating you. I have the same problem with my mom. DF says I shouldn't even answer the phone when she calls because it always makes me upset. I think they mean well but sometimes when they say things it just doesn't come across right. And they definitely don't get the concept that you have other things going on!

Okay...onto the wedding party. I don't think it would look weird to have an uneven wedding party. We actually have 5 girls and 4 guys because DF couldn't think of a 5th guy he wanted to have as a GM, so I was okay with that.

I can understand if you DF doesn't feel close enough to anyone to ask, but in that case I think you should have your brother as the Best Man. You can have the entire bridal party sit, I think that would look better than just having the MOH standing. I'm going to have my girls walk in by themselves. I like it better that way and everyone wants to see their dresses and stuff anyway. The GM's can walk in beforehand and stand with DF. Or some can escort the Mothers/Grandmothers and then take their place. When they walk out we're going to have the Best Man walk out with the two MOH's and then the rest of the GM and BMs. For your recessional, you could have your brother and MOH walk together and the other two girls individually and I think it would look fine.

The rings could definitely be set up with the unity candle, I don't think that would be weird at all.

 

[shippedtosea]

I'm sorry to hear you have been having so much stress lately! I think weddings do really bring a lot of stress, but I am sure it is all worth it in the end

I understand your concern with the bridal party. I think the best advice I can give you is to stop worrying about traditions, or how things normally look. Maybe some may think it is weird, but it would be more weird to have the groom uncomfortable, you know? Just do whatever you want, and don't worry about how it looks! I hope this helps a little, but I can understand it being difficult.

I don't really know too many of your songs on your CD, but I really love how each had a meaning behind it. It makes it so special, the fact that the two of you choose them together, and that each has a meaning...it is really cute!

Happy almost birthday (unless it has passed than happy late birthday). When is US thanksgiving? If it is this weekend, than happy Thanksgiving!! Enjoy your turkey!!! I wish I could make it to the US for that sale day (I feel like it's called "black" something...black friday?)

Yeah...being in school isn't helping the stress!! Thats where most of it has come from...

Yeah...thanks for the advice. I know I need to just chill out but DF totally freaked me out and I am just worried how it will look. and also how to do the program....I don't want to extremely draw attention to the fact he is alone...UNLESS....I somehow phrase it so that everyone in the party is for us. and not just me....I don't know how to word that tho...any suggestions?

Aww thanks. I didn't think a lot of people would know the songs...but I thought i'd at least explain the cd. I really enjoyed making it with DF. He was so cute about it.

Thanks hun! My birthday is actually Dec 2...but I got an early present! hehe. Thanksgiving is next thursday and yes black friday is the day after. there are a LOT of deals online. Try amazon, Best buy and Target. I don't see why you can't get stuff shipped to canada!

That is terrible about your shoes, I can't believe they were lost! Sorry your mom has been aggravating you. I have the same problem with my mom. DF says I shouldn't even answer the phone when she calls because it always makes me upset. I think they mean well but sometimes when they say things it just doesn't come across right. And they definitely don't get the concept that you have other things going on!

Okay...onto the wedding party. I don't think it would look weird to have an uneven wedding party. We actually have 5 girls and 4 guys because DF couldn't think of a 5th guy he wanted to have as a GM, so I was okay with that.

I can understand if you DF doesn't feel close enough to anyone to ask, but in that case I think you should have your brother as the Best Man. You can have the entire bridal party sit, I think that would look better than just having the MOH standing. I'm going to have my girls walk in by themselves. I like it better that way and everyone wants to see their dresses and stuff anyway. The GM's can walk in beforehand and stand with DF. Or some can escort the Mothers/Grandmothers and then take their place. When they walk out we're going to have the Best Man walk out with the two MOH's and then the rest of the GM and BMs. For your recessional, you could have your brother and MOH walk together and the other two girls individually and I think it would look fine.

The rings could definitely be set up with the unity candle, I don't think that would be weird at all.

I know...it seems crazy that the shoes are missing! I still keep hoping they will show up! haha. I wish my mom would just calm down. She keeps saying i'm freaking out....I am trying to do everything rather...DIY and save money...so I don't think I am freaking out...I get more upset about school then the wedding lately! oh well...mothers will be mothers!!

Thanks for your suggestions. I have already suggested that my brother be best man and DF has gotten REALLY upset. He doesn't know my brother that well..(which is there reason we are going there for thanksgiving so they can at least talk before the wedding!) He is extremely sensitive about it all..I do want the BMs to still walk in...and we do have a flower girl. I mainly will have to figure out my brother because DF says he can not stand with him...and he can not walk my SIL down...Do the boys normally walk down at some point? So while I like that idea...DF will have a heart attack. I need to figure some way that all the wedding party is for all of us? does that make any sense? I need to come up with a good plan and way to phrase this and then pitch it to DF. He is friends with my MOH and BM and obviously my SIL is family....

I need to figure out a good setup for the rings...i'll look for pictures or something...

Thanks dear!!

 

[shippedtosea]

Not tooo much to report but I finished printing the invites! They are etching so they are printed one by one....so yeaaaah!!!

Okay soo....I found this ebay seller who was selling the Disney Fairy Tale wedding watches! I have no idea how he got them...I've never seen them before except for people who have gotten them from Disney...but I bought them and they arrived and they are sooooo pretty....I love them I don't know how much DF will wear his...but I got them pretty cheap and I can convince him to wear it on our anniversary at the very least! I might see if my mom wants to give them to my grandma to give us...she is going to get a bit confused with the whole registry thing...so if she has a gift to give as well she might feel better! If you haven't seen the pictures of them let me know and i'll take some!

 

[pezaddict231]

Hmm, well the most important thing is that you and your DF feel comfortable with how the BP is set up. If it really upsets him that much, than I would say let him have it his way. You can have all members of the BP walk out separately at the end, no one will really even notice, their eyes will be on the both of you!

I hope they find your shoes, that is so crazy! I know what you mean, I'm trying to DIY a lot of things too and it's stressful, but worth it when you see how it turns out.

Oooh can't wait to see the invites, hope you post some pics soon!

Glad to hear the watches are pretty! I look forward to getting mine, but I know what you mean, I doubt my DF will really want to wear it that often...maybe for anniversaries!

 

[shippedtosea]

Hmm, well the most important thing is that you and your DF feel comfortable with how the BP is set up. If it really upsets him that much, than I would say let him have it his way. You can have all members of the BP walk out separately at the end, no one will really even notice, their eyes will be on the both of you!

I hope they find your shoes, that is so crazy! I know what you mean, I'm trying to DIY a lot of things too and it's stressful, but worth it when you see how it turns out.

Oooh can't wait to see the invites, hope you post some pics soon!

Glad to hear the watches are pretty! I look forward to getting mine, but I know what you mean, I doubt my DF will really want to wear it that often...maybe for anniversaries!

Yeah...I talked to my mom and of course she was confused...just like I was and then said that we should just take my brother out of it completely....which I don't like at all.. and DF already said he wants my brother in the wedding because he is family (and DF doesn't speak to his step sisters anymore) so its important.....I need to figure this out

Still no sign of my shoes....siiiiigh...it too me sooo long to actually decide on a pair that I don't know what I will do now. The invites will look very similiar to what I have already posted because I have no inserts for them yet! haha...I did cut all the mats for the backs and started on the graphics for the inside of the invites sooo....hopefully in a week or two I can start showing those! In 2 weeks I get to use my school's scoring machines sooo...I will have lots of folded invites and CD books! yayayay! I will show pictures then.

 

[BecBennett]

Any chance your DF is close to any of the girls you want as BM's? You could have your MOH and one of your Bm's on your side, and your brother and other BM acting as a groom's woman on your DF's side?

Or alternatively, I was in a catholic wedding, my memory is a little hazy, but for most of the ceremony, the BP was sitting in the front row of the church, and the bride and groom were on separate chairs sort of near the altar.

Any hoo, we did stand up with them at one stage, but it was sorta like this:

Guests - Seated in the pews


Priest - Standing on the floor

Groom Bride - One step up

Groomsmen Bridesmaids - 3 steps up



That doesn't make as much sense as it does in my head, but it sure was fun creating... Anyway, my point is, if the BP is standing behind you, either closer to the guests, or further away from them, it wont be as obvious that there's a different amount on each side of you.

 

[shippedtosea]

Any chance your DF is close to any of the girls you want as BM's? You could have your MOH and one of your Bm's on your side, and your brother and other BM acting as a groom's woman on your DF's side?

Or alternatively, I was in a catholic wedding, my memory is a little hazy, but for most of the ceremony, the BP was sitting in the front row of the church, and the bride and groom were on separate chairs sort of near the altar.

Any hoo, we did stand up with them at one stage, but it was sorta like this:

Guests - Seated in the pews


Priest - Standing on the floor

Groom Bride - One step up

Groomsmen Bridesmaids - 3 steps up



That doesn't make as much sense as it does in my head, but it sure was fun creating... Anyway, my point is, if the BP is standing behind you, either closer to the guests, or further away from them, it wont be as obvious that there's a different amount on each side of you.

Its so..complicated...I have mentioned stuff like having some of my friends on his side..but he gets upset again. He is not the type to really show sadness so he just gets angry....its the only thing he doesn't want to talk about. I would say that the only one DF is kind of close with is my MOH and....well...she is mine... I have said she can be both of our best people...but he didn't like that much either...

Thanks so much for your diagram! hehe it made me laugh. I know what you mean but the venue for the ceremony is flat and there is no where behind us....so...if they were to stand anywhere that wasn't next to us..no one could see! Every option that seems to work...keeps getting shot down! its stressing me out. I was looking at one of the Disbrides and all her pictures of her DF (now DH) with his boys....and it made me sad that my DF won't get that! there is a SMALL possibility that the girl he considered to be the closest with might come...but we can't rely on her..she is very flaky and has no money..so...chances of her def telling us she is coming...in time for her to get a navy dress that fits (and I like...)....is pretty slim. I originally didn't want her in the wedding...but if it will make DF not have a heart attach anytime I mention the wedding party I would take it!!!

i'm going away tomorrow for thanksgiving! So I hope you all have a good one. I am spending it with my brother and SIL (BM) whom has been driving me a bit mad....so should be totally interesting! haha

 

[shippedtosea]

hey ladies! so...I am back on the search for the perfect necklace because my fitting is coming up! so found a seller on etsy that I love her necklaces so here are 3 different ones. she seems pretty easy going and will let me buy a couple and return what I don't want! tell me which you like!

I don't know which will look best with the dress....the last one is a one of a kind so I'd have to get it asap. the others can be made again. Do you think the first one would be better with 2 strands instead of 3?

lots of opinions please!!

 

[pezaddict231]

My favorite is the first necklace! I like the jewel best on it. I kinda like that it has three strands, but maybe you could get it both ways since she'll let you return it? You'll want to see them with your dress to be sure.

 

[shippedtosea]

My favorite is the first necklace! I like the jewel best on it. I kinda like that it has three strands, but maybe you could get it both ways since she'll let you return it? You'll want to see them with your dress to be sure.

I think I like the first one the best as well. She said she could make it with 2 strands. I think I may order the first and last one and take a look with the dress (and of course pictures for you ladies). hmmmmmmmmmmm

 

[BecBennett]

Before I finished reading your post I was thinking to myself that I like the brooch from the 1st one, but the necklace from the 2nd one, so I think I prefer just 2 strands... But they're all pretty!

 

[shippedtosea]

Before I finished reading your post I was thinking to myself that I like the brooch from the 1st one, but the necklace from the 2nd one, so I think I prefer just 2 strands... But they're all pretty!

I like the way you think! hehe I think I am on the same page. I do want 2 necklaces to try on just in case I hate one. and then I have to buy one blindly without my dress





this morning I opened my email and......I got our
Club level welcome letter!!!!
I am very excited. it reminded us that we are almost at our 180 days! and can book stuff sooon!!! I am SOOOOO excited. me and DF were suppose to decide everything last night but as my neighbor forgot to pay the internet AGAIN....it was down all day...so instead we cleaned the whole apartment! Also we got this form to fill out so we can get everything we want! it says on it that because we are club level....we can do the Harambe Wildlife Reserve for small parties? Anyone ever done this?

Also because we had no internet I couldn't finish and post BUT I am almost down with the inside of my invites! I worked all weekend! I just got this electronic drawing tablet...and it is awesome and made my life soooo much easier..it was my early B-day present to myself! hehehe

Also I have 2 choices for BMs necklaces and will post later for you to choose from!

 

[pezaddict231]

Yay! That's so exciting! Which hotel are you staying at again?

We've never stayed club level before but we're going to do it for the wedding and I'm so excited! I haven't done the Wildlife Reserve but I'm thinking about it. It seems a shame to skip it when we probably won't get the chance to do it again.

That's great that you're almost done with the invites!

 

[shippedtosea]

Yay! That's so exciting! Which hotel are you staying at again?

We've never stayed club level before but we're going to do it for the wedding and I'm so excited! I haven't done the Wildlife Reserve but I'm thinking about it. It seems a shame to skip it when we probably won't get the chance to do it again.

That's great that you're almost done with the invites!

We are staying at the Wilderness Lodge. We have never stayed at club level either! so it should great! I will let you know how it is! (tho I am only a few months before you!)

I will hopefully get the invites up this weekend. I think this week will be crazy

 

[pezaddict231]

Aww, I love the WL! That was where we stayed our first trip together and it was really great, I think you'll love it! I've also heard great things about their club level.

Definitely! Even thought it's only a few months it'll be good to know if you liked it or not. I'm a huge animal fan so I think it will be fun.

Yay, can't wait to see pics over the weekend. I hate those busy weeks that interfere with wedding stuff!