Glo, I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

I didn't respond yesterday because I was so mad!
[stepping on soapbox] I hate it when men misuse the word "proud" to mean "insecure"! Your husband's not "proud" in any real sense of the word. He cares more about what the neighbors think than about caring for his own family! A proud man does whatever it takes to meet his obligations. A proud man doesn't lean on anyone, including his wife working two jobs. A proud man takes
any job, as long as it's legal, to meet his obligations to his family, and does it to the best of his ability. A proud man knows that there is no shame in gainful employment. An insecure man knows none of those things. Unfortunately, and I have no way of knowing if this is true in your case (and I am not giving you specific advice!) some men don't learn the true meaning of "pride" until they're kicked to the curb. And often the women discover, in the same sense of Remmy no longer having to deal with a negative coworker, that even though they may be carrying more of the load, it's easier without the anchor. [/stepping off soapbox - sorry if it's harsh!]