Sorry about you MIL situation. I have a similar one. My In-Laws are retired and could care less about spending any time with their grandchildren. Very frustrating.
We're here for you.
My DH and I are concerned that his parents are heading this way... they announced months ago that they had no plans to see their first grandchild until Thanksgiving, when they would be out that way already. But I think they're grumpy with my BIL's wife's parents (who jump to do whatever when asked... but are also quite pushy and obnoxious!).
Like, Easter last year. BIL asked his parents if they'd visit for Easter. IL's hemmed and hawwed. BIL asked HIS IL's if they'd visit for Easter, too. They said yes, bought plane tickets, and made arrangements. By the time my IL's said "okay, we'll come", they were told they'd have to stay in a hotel... so they flat-out refused to go.
We're all afraid that they're just not going to visit their grandchild because they'll have to stay in a hotel. Or that Jen's parents were there first. Or something equally as insane.
Now, my DH is running his THIRD marathon. We got final absolute confirmation that my ILs will NOT watch him run. We invited them to the one in Detroit; no go. We invited them to the one in Toronto; absolutely not (but my dad came!). Disney? DISNEY NO WAY NO HOW IT IS DISNEY!!!!
...way to make your son feel appreciated (not). At one point (before they waffled, some), they said "Well, we'll go to Florida when you're there, but if you want to see us, you'll have to come to us." I think DH said "...no." My parents are, on the other hand, going to be there. This is my dad's second trip to watch my DH run!!
(I'll let you know what my parents are like when MY brother's wife gets pregnant... but, in the meantime, my bro's FIL has turned out to be a decent human being, to everyone's surprise - he called one day and said "I've been laid off for next week. I'm going to come up and do household projects for you guys" and then did so! He put down a new kitchen floor, made new cabinets, and chopped down three trees... in THREE days!)
Thanks For the support guys!!
NO she is not going with us. I will not cut our trip short for her & Chuck says he IS NOT paying for her. SHe not only doesn't have the gramma gene she doesnt even have the mom gene. It hard for me because my mother is with my kids everyday & if she doesn't see them she calls them. Mil hasn't even talked to them since Sept. she only lives 20 minutes away!! She hasn't seen a single DD basketball game this year, didn't call about report cards or trick or treat. My other sister who lives in DC even called them about that stuff plus her 2 grown kids!! My niece that lives in Baton Rouge textmessages my DD at least 2x's a week to chat. HOnestly I swear I'm done venting!! BUt between this situation & my hysterectomy on fri I am about ready to jump outta my skin.
Wow, a full hysterectomy!! They didn't waste time with that!! I'll be thinking of you! No, you don't needed the added stress of family weirdness. But I often think all families are weird, we just manefest it all differently! My family is very clingy, which makes me nuts, and my DH's is too hands off, which makes me nuts!