Jack and Jill Shower

[monkeyboy]

what exactly is it?

 

[snoopy]

I'd like to know the answer to this too. We got invited to one once, and DH flat out refused to attend anything called a Jack and Jill shower, so I never found out.

 

[tkyes]

Sounds like a couples shower to me. Just a guess.

 

[Rippington'sFan]

Well since "showers" are usually just for "Jills" if you invite the guys it becomes a "Jack and Jill". To the best of my knowledge it's as simple as that. Correct me if I'm wrong.

 

[stinkerbelle]

From MY understanding...INSTEAD of the bride having a shower, the couple has a 'jack and jill' (or a 'couples shower')

tickets are sold to this event, (so yes, you have to pay to get in) and all money raised goes towards the couple.

usually it's dinner/dancing, maybe a raffel will be involved (more money towards the couple)

You shouldn't bring a gift to this if you are paying to get in. One of my friends had one of these...to me it was a pain in the butt...the bridal party paid for everything (raffel prizes included) and made/bought/
SERVED all the food. (except liquor - it was a cash bar). This bride ALSO had a shower, which I personally found tacky but attended anyway...usually a jack and jill will take the place of it.

these are common in the south but becoming more popular in the northeast apparently.

 

[Elwood Blues]

It's a scam to get more presents.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Jack & Jill showers are where the bride and groom both attend their shower, and the male friends and relatives stay and give gifts.

It is quite common these days, and a lot of times women who have a lot of male friends, or close male relatives prefer this. Instead of the tradtional cutesy bridal shower stuff, it's more laid back, and like a big fun party.

A friend of mine had one not too long ago. She and her now husband opened the gifts together, and I actually sat a table that was all her guy friends (and her husbands guy friends).

It was neat.

 

[DebbieB]

I never heard of it until a business contact in the Hartford CT area mentioned to me that she was going to a "Jack and Jill".

 

[monkeyboy]

Originally posted by stinkerbelle
(so yes, you have to pay to get in)

Pay to attend a party and cash bar

I do not think I will be going to this, maybe I will say I can't get a date

 

[Elwood Blues]

Originally posted by monkeyboy
maybe I will say I can't get a date

Well.... you won't be lying then.

 

[stinkerbelle]

Originally posted by monkeyboy

Pay to attend a party and cash bar

I do not think I will be going to this, maybe I will say I can't get a date

this may not be the case with the one you are attending.
I guess it varys...but I know the one I put on was $15 to get in ($30 for a couple), $5 for raffel tickets, and whatever for liquor) There were no gifts brought...the bride and groom made quite alot of money off this too

 

[TigerBear]

I was in a wedding a year ago and gave the bride and groom a couples shower. I'm friends with both of them so to me it just made sense! We had fajitas and ritas and played all kinds of fun games. I truly think everyone, including the men, enjoyed the shower!!! One woman couldn't get her husband to come, but afterwards said that she knows he would have had fun! After the shower, the women (and gay male friends!!) went out for the bachelorette party. The groom had his bachelor party on a different night.

 

[cynsaun]

Ok, I thought this was something completely different.

 

[kidzmom3]

I have been to a few "jack and jill"showers. They were co-ed, held in a hall and had music and food. We did not pay to get in, we did bring a gift, however, once we arrived at the shower. They asked us to contribute to the "money tree", set up at a table. Basically a leafless mini tree that you tied some money too. At the end of the night it was full.

To me, almost as bad as the couple who bought the liquor for their reception, and made money off the bar.

 

[TigerBear]

There was no fee to get into the shower I gave - and no money tree. People brought gifts like any other shower. And no date is necessary.

 

[LScot]

I have heard of a couple's shower where they both get gifts but not called J&J. I haven't heard of one like stinkerbelle told of. Maybe just me but it sounds tacky.

 

[mt2]

I was thinking of something completely different too. My DM has a Jack and Jill shower/bathroom in her house. I'm dense this morning.

My brother and his ex wife had one of these. My brother got power tools, garden hoses, and that kind of stuff. Ex wife got pots and pans.

mt2

 

[Jenn Lynn]

My SIL is getting married this month and has had 3 showers. The last one was a couples shower given by 2 of her Bridesmaids for their friends. (She had 2 family ones before.) On the invite they asked for cash instead of a gift. The only reason I thought this was not tacky was because it was a all of their friends who they knew would not be offended.

 

[birdiesunshine]

Since DH and I have had one, I'd like to put my 2 cents in.

Instead of a stag and bridal shower our Jack and Jill was a shower for the two of us where guys, girls, family, friends anyone we would have invited to my shower or his stag could come. No one had to come as a couple if they didn't have a significant other. No one had to buy tickets to get in either. Our parents paid for the hall, dinner, open bar, and decorations. We had gambling, a raffle, a money wheel and a DJ. There were over 200 people and to the best of my knowledge everyone had a blast. People brought gifts, but not cause they were told to, just cause that's what they would have done had I had a shower or DH a stag. It's just a nice way for everyone to get together!

 

[Elwood Blues]

Originally posted by cynsaun
Ok, I thought this was something completely different.

Yea, that was my first thought too especially when the thread was started by monkeyboy.