I've been reluctant to post this but.. (Obesity related) The tragic ending.. Pg8...

[SandraM]

Wishing you, your DD and her friend well at this difficult time.

 

[Pugdog007]

Originally posted by battricia
I don't mean to start something on C.Anns thread, but PugDog007, you are WAY out of line with that comment. I think you might want to edit it out of your post completely.

tricia.

Oh lighten up people! I'm a woman and I don't intend to edit the post... IMO it's true. When I was growing up I had a SAHM who cooked every night. I however, am a working Mom and we eat fast food a lot... after working 9-10 hrs a day I certainly don't cook when I get home! I haven't cooked anything that didn't come out of the microwave in years.

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

OH C.Ann, how terrible. a bad situation just getting worse. Thank heavens her friend listed your DD, because otherwise she would be completely out of the loop due to the "family". I know it is a heavy burden, and I will pray for all involved.

What kind of surgery are they wanting to do for her? Would you be comfortable putting out her first name? I would like to pray with her name. If not, I understand.

 

[ScarlettO]

Puggy-I started a sepeate thread so you can make your caring comments over there-'kay?



C.Ann.........so sorry your DD is going thru all this(hugs)

 

[keenercam]

Pugdog-- I also hate to jump in on C.Ann's thread, but you should speak for yourself. I am a full time working professional mom who has a fabulous DH who also is a full time working professional. Our kids do NOT eat only meals cooked from the microwave or fast food very often. One of us is home every night to cook dinner for them and I cook dinner for at least my immediate family at least one day every weekend. I also don't think this is the place for a debate, but --oh, please -- how can you generalize like that? If anything, the quality of my children's lives is SO much better because I DO work and because my kids see a woman succeeding in what was traditionally a man's profession.

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by treesinger
I know you disagree, but I'm glad your DD is the decision-maker. It seems as if she is most likely to have her friend's interests at heart. I know it sounds like I'm trivializing, but it's better to do the right thing rather than the easy thing. From the sound of it, her family can't be trusted.

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Well it's not really about doing the "right" thing - or the "easy" thing - it's more about my DD's own health issues right now - but I agree 100% that her family is NOT acting appropriately and if someone has to make difficult decisions, then it's probably for the best that they're not being allowed to do so..

Let's all just keep praying that the most difficult of decisions WON'T have to be made.. I haven't gotten any updates yet this morning so I'm trying to go with the "no news is good news" mind set.. I'll keep you all posted..

 

[C.Ann]

Can we all just continue praying for this young woman to survive this horrible tragedy and not get into the "why's" and "how's" of obesity?

I'd really appreciate that.. Thanks all!

C.Ann

 

[kasar]

Before checking in here I was thinking to myself that it was surprising that this thread has been going on for so long without any controversial comments.

Whatever we feel about obesity, diet, food-issues, working moms, etc. can all be dealt with another time and place. Right now there's a seriously ill woman who, for whatever reason, is suffering with obesity and C. Ann thought enough about us to give us a little wake up call. It worked, Ann - I've started yet another diet and exercise routine. Thanks, as tough as it is to hear about, I needed to see what can happen.

 

[figment95]

C.Ann
I am so sorry. I am praying for all of you.

 

[msdznyduck]

to you C.Ann and your DD. And prayers for her friend. I agree that the "how' and 'why's of obesity are not the issue right now. The issue is that she pulls through this, and hopefully will be the same person she was before. Maybe she will decide to do something about her weight then. (and I know that it will be difficult......I am 5'11 or so, and about 60 lbs more than I should weigh.) But if it doesn't happen, for one reason or another, she still will have your DD's friendship and support to help her over these trying times.

 

[CJK]

Oh C. Ann......... I just found this thread this morning. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Please do keep us posted. *hugs*

 

[4nana]

Oh my...what a sad situation.
Prayers are going out for this young lady, what she is going thru and for a good outcome. {{{hugs}}} to all involved.

Godspeed ^i^
~ Sandie

 

[canwegosoon]

Saying a prayer for her recovery, and strenght for you and your DD

 

[Disneylvr]

Prayers are being said for the poor woman and your DD. They are also going out to all of us (me included) that are battling obesity. It has been a lifelong struggle for me but thankfully I haven't had any of the health issues that your dd's friend has, yet.

 

[CEDmom]

Still praying for your DD's friend. Please keep us posted. I'm also praying that your DD because I can imagine this is a horrible situation for her.

 

[C.Ann]

DD just called me in near hysterics.. She has been at the hospital since 5:30 trying to get in to see her friend and guess what?

The nurses won't allow it !!!

Seems the "father" put up a big stink with them earlier today and demanded that only his family be allowed to see DD's friend.. He informed the staff that he is "in the process" of obtaining "legal guardianship" over his 31 year old DD and threatend to call the police if the nurses didn't adhere to his demands..

Unfortunately the social worker/patient advocate had already left for the day and the nurses would not listen to a thing my DD was saying.. It seems they're quite intimidated by this man and all of his threats and won't communicate with my DD at all anymore..

DD has an appt. with the social worker/patient advocate tomorrow and is hoping she will override the father's demands..

When and if this young woman wakes up, I'd love to be a fly on the wall when the family tries to justify why they wouldn't allow her best friend to see her for 5 minutes each day.. For all we know, she could be wondering already as the nurses have said there is a good chance that she can actually "hear" everything that is going on around her even though she's in a coma..

Maybe this is how they're trying to deal with their own guilt for never having been there for her when she was healthy !!!

 

[keerymom]

I'm so sorry for your DD. All of this additional stress on top of an already awful situation.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Good Luck and god Bless C.Ann
Thinking of you and yours

 

[Microcell]

If it helps, my DH's aunt, who is overweight got some sort of parasite that was flesh eating and she was very close to death- very and they had to do surgery after surgery and she lost so much skin they could not close her up due to lack of skin and she had to have gauze over her stomach for the better part of the 6 months she was in the hospital. She isa out now and getting better! I hope your DD's friend will have an easier time than that, but I just wanted to illustrate just how close people can get to death and have a miracle!

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by Microcell
just how close people can get to death and have a miracle!

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Thanks! That's what we're praying for.. It's been almost a week now and although she's still in a coma and still on life support, there IS brain activity and I think the fact that she has made it this far is very encouraging..