I've been reluctant to post this but.. (Obesity related) The tragic ending.. Pg8...

[goofy4tink]

C.Ann....through the tears a prayer was said. My ds is just 30 and has to lose 50 lbs. himself. At least!!! He says he's healthy but we all know that things can happen. So, I said a prayer for your dd's dear friend and added one for my own ds for his struggle. I'll keep praying this morning. This is so sad and so preventable. It's not easy, I know...but it is preventable.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I hope everything turns out okay.

 

[treesinger]

I'm 6' 4", 280 lbs and diagnosed with diabetes when I was 29 (?). Now I'm 31. It's HARD to maintain that discipline to eat right, stay away from the fatty foods, especially SWEETS. Of all the damn things I would be addicted to, it would be EATING. I LOVe to eat, it's one of my absolute favorite things to do. On top of that, I'm pretty darn good baker. (ouch, I think I just sprained my ar patting myself on the back lol)
I hope that young woman can pull through this and stay in your DD's life. Here's another prayer to help her along!

 

[Robinrs]

Originally posted by snoopy
How sad. I'll pray for your DD's friend.

I never could truly understand why overweight people just couldn't lose weight until I gave up smoking. Now that I've packed on about 30 extra pounds, I see just how difficult it is to take weight off. Its given me a whole new understanding of how difficult it is. Quitting smoking was a breeze next to the struggle I've had over the last year trying to lose the extra weight I've put on. I guess one of the biggest hurdles is understanding that the weight loss is gradual and the results are not immediate. I imagine someone with a lot of weight to lose finds the task even more daunting.

Awesome post, cuz.

Reminds me of that walk a mile in my shoes thing.

God bless and many prayers for your DD's friend, C.Ann.

There is not an overweight person on earth who doesn't know the peril, just like any other person with an addiction or a crutch. If there was an easy way companies wouldn't be getting very wealthy off the get thin quick schemes that are everywhere.

 

[camper]

I'll be praying for your dd's friend. Thanks for the reminder to take care of our health. Even if it's not a weight problem, most of us have areas where we could treat our bodies better.

 

[FroggyinArk]

prayer said,, best of wishes to yuor dd and her friend,,,, as a 37 yr oild who has gained over 50 lbs in lat 8 months i understand the hardship,, my drs say they may not release me till i lose the majority of it sooo i may be i ntrouble, am ceratinmine is from inactivity, but i also tend to overeat so i know its goingto be a struggle,, thanks f orthe eye openers

 

[LauraR]

I'm pulling for your DD's best friend. I don't know what I'd do if I lost my best friend, and I'm praying your daughter doesn't lose her's.

 

[Nancy]

Good thoughts being sent to you DD and her friend and all families involved.

 

[dianeschlicht]

A prayer said for your DD's friend, and while I am at it, for my DS (6'4" and over 350) and his SO (5'6" and over 275).

 

[CEDmom]

I pray that she'll pull through this. Being overweight has so many emotional strings attached to it. I was overweight for a good part of adolesence and early adulthood. Nothing anyone said or did made me want to lose weight badly enough. It wasn't until I saw life passing me by that I decided I wanted to do something about it. That's really the key. You have to want to make life changes with every fiber of your being before success will really occur. It's also a life long struggle and committment. Believe me I'd like nothing better than to sleep in rather than go to the gym at 5:30 in the morning.

I truely pray that this young woman be given a 2nd chance and that something deep inside her will make her want change her life so that she can continue to have one.

 

[vald1977]

I just said a prayer for your dd's friend, C. Ann. Please keep us updated.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Prayers for your dd's friend, C.Ann. I agree with CEDmom...there's a lot of emotional stuff attached to overeating. Lucky for me I've been feeling up! It definitely helps. I hope she shows some kind of improvement soon!

 

[C.Ann]

They couldn't do the surgery they had hoped to do today - her breathing problems are still far too severe..

I was hoping the fact that she had made it this far meant that she wasn't as critical, but it appears I was mistaken..

Things are getting ugly with the family as well.. They live hundreds of miles from here - have never visited their DD here even once in over 10 years.. The young woman in question appointed my DD as her spokesperson (the one who should make all decisions) as well as listing her on her health proxy (as recently as the night she was admitted to the hospital).. Now the "family" is demanding that my DD NOT be allowed to visit.. I am SOOOO angry - BEYOND livid!! DD has spoken to someone at the Patient Advocay Dept. in the hospital and a legal battle may be right around the corner..

 

[DMRick]

The young woman in question appointed my DD as her spokesperson (the one who should make all decisions) as well as listing her on her health proxy (as recently as the night she was admitted to the hospital).

If she has your daughter as her Health Power of Attorney and listed as the health proxy (hopefully both done via lawyer or at least with a witness) the family can do nothing. I was at St Clare's tonight because I am the full POA and health proxy for a friend and she was suddenly hospitalized. The family has no say, although they tried. If she wanted them (and I wish she had), then she would have picked them. You would think the family would appreciate what your daughter is doing, instead of fighting her. Is the family here now? If not, your daughter would do well, to not even take their calls, and just have the hospital social service worker relay any messages to them.

 

[C.Ann]

Originally posted by DMRick
If she has your daughter as her Health Power of Attorney and listed as the health proxy (hopefully both done via lawyer or at least with a witness) the family can do nothing. I was at St Clare's tonight because I am the full POA and health proxy for a friend and she was suddenly hospitalized. The family has no say, although they tried. If she wanted them (and I wish she had), then she would have picked them. You would think the family would appreciate what your daughter is doing, instead of fighting her. Is the family here now? If not, your daughter would do well, to not even take their calls, and just have the hospital social service worker relay any messages to them.

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Sorry to hear you spent the evening at St. Clare's - hope all is well..

Yes - it's sad that she felt she couldn't choose her own family to take on this heavy responsibility, but there's some pretty horrifying history there that I won't get into on this board..

And yes - the family is there now.. However, the hospital has informed them that my DD will NOT be prevented from seeing her friend - she is free to call the ICU at any time and receive full medical updates and reports from the doctors - and if the "family" has a problem with that then THEY will have to go to court (which they are presently threatening to do)..

Of course just between you and me - I wish my DD didn't have this heavy responsibility on her (she has enough on her plate already) and I fear what will happen to her if she has to make a life and death decision, but the situation is what it is and all I can do is hope and pray that everything turns out okay and this young woman recovers..

 

[Pugdog007]

Oh great now Nightline is about obesity It's everywhere!

It is alarming that young children are now being diagnosed with Type II diabetes, unheard of a few years ago. We have become a fast food nation since women decided they wanted to work!

 

[battricia]

We have become a fast food nation since women decided they wanted to work!

I don't mean to start something on C.Anns thread, but PugDog007, you are WAY out of line with that comment. I think you might want to edit it out of your post completely.

tricia.

 

[Bear Necessities]

Originally posted by battricia
I don't mean to start something on C.Anns thread, but PugDog007, you are WAY out of line with that comment. I think you might want to edit it out of your post completely.

tricia.

ITA

 

[treesinger]

Originally posted by Pugdog007
Oh great now Nightline is about obesity It's everywhere!

It is alarming that young children are now being diagnosed with Type II diabetes, unheard of a few years ago. We have become a fast food nation since women decided they wanted to work!

If you want to start a debate about working Moms, then start a debate. It does NOT belong in this thread!

 

[treesinger]

Originally posted by C.Ann
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Sorry to hear you spent the evening at St. Clare's - hope all is well..

Yes - it's sad that she felt she couldn't choose her own family to take on this heavy responsibility, but there's some pretty horrifying history there that I won't get into on this board..

And yes - the family is there now.. However, the hospital has informed them that my DD will NOT be prevented from seeing her friend - she is free to call the ICU at any time and receive full medical updates and reports from the doctors - and if the "family" has a problem with that then THEY will have to go to court (which they are presently threatening to do)..

Of course just between you and me - I wish my DD didn't have this heavy responsibility on her (she has enough on her plate already) and I fear what will happen to her if she has to make a life and death decision, but the situation is what it is and all I can do is hope and pray that everything turns out okay and this young woman recovers..

I know you disagree, but I'm glad your DD is the decision-maker. It seems as if she is most likely to have her friend's interests at heart. I know it sounds like I'm trivializing, but it's better to do the right thing rather than the easy thing. From the sound of it, her family can't be trusted.