It's one of those day (and nights) for me...

[lucky_bunni]

Do you ever have one of those days where everything just hits you hard and you can't even go to sleep? That was today and tonight. It's like 5 am and there is no sign of me falling asleep anytime soon. Just too many things running through my head. It all started when I lost my job; It'll be 3 weeks this Friday. I had worked for this major corporation for nearly 5 years and they just abandoned me like it was nothing for them. I was a very dramatic termination and the events of that Friday, being taken aside and the meeting, just keep playing over and over again in my head. Every little detail. Then all the memories of my years there keep playing over and over again too.

I've got bills, my parents give me money to pay them, my bf and I are doing the best we can to get by and eat. I have a hard time taking money from my parents because they haven't been paying bills and giving me money since I was 16. I know they don't have a problem helping me out, I just feel a lot of shame. I keep thinking my termination was my fault and trying to think of everything I could have done to prevent it. Wishing I could go back a few months.

I've applied for to about 15 places now, and out of 15 I've had 1 call back and 1 interview. It was a great company to interview for but the interviewer said that about 50 people had applied for the position and expressed how competitive it was. They liked me, but did they like me enough? I'm supposed to hear back sometime this week regarding their decision but I can't count on anything. I submitted the first set of 10 resumes/applications the Monday after I was fired. They've been out there for near 3 weeks then, and only 1 call back. I'm just so frustrated right now, it's a terrible time to be looking for employment because everyones just been let go after the Holidays.

A lot of you have seen much more of me here on the DIS lately. It's because I've been trying to keep my mind off things and this is a free way to do that. In between cooking, sending applications, and classes, I post. I just need something to happen soon! I don't like not working. I don't like feeling stagnant. I need to start moving somewhere again.

Sorry for this gloomish post, I just needed to get some stuff out.

 

[poohandwendy]

That really stinks, I hope you find something soon. Keep sending out the resumes...it's like fishing...eventually someone will nibble...

Don't feel ashamed, your parents know how hard you are trying...and they probably have dealt with something in their own lives that they can relate to your frustration.

take care,
wendy

 

[Danauk]

I'm sorry to here things are not going too well for you. I'm sure if you keep trying you will get a new job soon. I'm also sure that it was not your fault that you lost your job, there was nothing you could have done diffferently to change that. Good luck finding a new job.

 

[poohandwendy]

And another thing, if you haven't already thought of it. On the next interview, even if the chances look slim (especially if your chances look slim), don't be afraid to ask for constructive criticism regarding your resume. They may be glad to give you pointers, even if they can't give you a job. Most people like to be asked for their 'expert' opinion, LOL.

You never know, you may even stick out in their minds when they are deciding also. (not saying your resume even needs any polishing, but it never hurts to get an opinion from those who are using it to decide your fate, LOL)

Good luck...

 

[Otimon]

Sending lots of pixie dust your way

Remember that nothing stays the same and your situation WILL change.

Keep a positive attitude, accept whatever help is offered, and hang in there.

 

[TigerBear]

Hang in there. I hope it won't be long before things get brighter!

 

[doxdogy]

Sorry to hear that you have been terminated from your job. Did you apply for unemployment? Termination doesn't necessarily mean no unemployment benefits. Put your resume out there on monster and other resume hosting sights. That is how I found the job I have now. Rather the company found me.

 

[FreshTressa]

Wow, I can imagine the stress!

Hang in there and good job wishes being sent your way

 

[lucky_bunni]

Thank you all for your encouragement and listening to me! I really appreciate it. It was just a really hard night and I needed to get that stuff out.

I'm pretty sure that unemployment doesn't apply if you are terminated. If anyone can confirm this it would be helpful. Do the rules vary state by state?

poohandwendy - that was a really good idea about have my interviewer critique my resume. On my next interview I may just do that. What have I got to lose?

Tressa - I love the smilie with the sorcerer hat on! That is sooo cool, I'm a big Fantasia fan so it's right up my alley.

Any more suggestions for me right now are more than welcome.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I think unemployment may vary state by state. In Virginia, you can get unemployment if you are terminated but it does depend on what you did to be terminated. Something like gross misconduct would bar you from unemployment benefits. The best thing you could do is to apply. The worst thing they will tell you is no. Also many states allow you to apply online. Pretty painless.

Have you thought about going to a temp agency for work?

Good luck in you job search!

 

[poohandwendy]

poohandwendy - that was a really good idea about have my interviewer critique my resume. On my next interview I may just do that. What have I got to lose?

Nothing, and you may gain! I heard about doing that on a talk show, LOL. The guy was talking about selling yourself and first impressions. His points with asking for a critique on the resume was:

a) everyone loves giving opinions, makes them feel important.
b) you will stick out in their minds by "asking" rather than just answering questions
c) you accept and welcome constructive criticism
d) you accept that there is always room for improvement (you aren't stuck in a specific mindset that is rigid and hard to train)
e) you are willing to take the initiative, you are committed to your goal, even if you have to do something uncomfortable to reach it
f) it makes you appear friendly and approachable
g) it will likely prolong the interview, every minute makes a difference in being remembered.
h) you may find that there is something on your resume that IS keeping you from landing that job

There was more, but those were the basics.

Glad to hear you are feeling better today...
wendy

 

[LadyAurora]

Good luck to you and I know how you feel.
I was terminated from my job in IL, and I was awarded unemployment.
They paid it for two years because the job I have now pays so much less than the one I was fired from.
And I still go over things in my mind about the old job, like if I had made decision X instead of Y, would I still have that job?
Sometimes it just takes over your mind, and things aren't better until the morning.
Good luck!

 

[phorsenuf]

Hey...sorry about your predicament. Here's a link to Ohios unemployment department. I linked the page as to who is eligible for benefits. http://jfs.ohio.gov/unemp_comp_faq/FAQ_elig_reason.stm#discharge
I hope this helps some. Can't hurt to try, all they can say is no.
I also thought the idea of posting on Monster is a good idea. What is your job background? There are so many of us here maybe if we know what we do something may click with someone.
Good luck to you!!

 

[nativetxn]

I sure hope you find the perfect job very soon. Sorry to hear that you have had these troubles recently.

 

[Alice28]

I'm sorry you're having a tough time right now.... I really hope a new job comes along soon, or at least that unemployment bennies will work out for you. Hang in there!

 

[JenBlaze]

Hey! Just a note of encouragement... My family just went through the same thing. My DH had been employed for 5 years and got laid off, just like that.

Good news, though - he wasn't unemployed for that long, relatively, and he found the job of his dreams. It was way better than the one he'd gotten laid off from.

I have no doubt that the perfect job is going to come along for you, too. *hug*

 

[Tony-NJ]

I'm sorry things aren't going that well for ya right now. I hope things turn around real soon. I would definitely check out unemployment. You've been paying into it since you've started working.