It would have been our 10th yr Anniversary...I feel..

[janette]

Just wanted to add, for the last 4 years and at least for the next our vacations have been to WDW & a camp in Montana. Children like going to places familiar, mine love our vacations.

We have just now started to plan to do some different things now that they are older and they aren't in the plans for a few more years.

My 12yo DD has this year for the first time expressed interest in a different vacation and she also went to Yellowstone park this year with friends while we were in Montana. My 10yo just wants to do the things we've always done.

 

[Kallison]

I think it is a wonderful idea. My parents always go somewhere on my brother's birthday. It's a really hard day for them, it makes them feel better to be out and about doing something away from home.

 

[Planogirl]

I don't understand why anyone would worry about where *Fantasia* chooses to spend her time. If it makes her and her kids feel better than I think it's a great idea!

 

[bumcat]

I think you should go. Why not? if it's what you want.

 

[poohandwendy]

I think it sounds like a wonderful idea. I did notice that you lost your husband 2 days before your anniversary date, that must have been very hard. This will obviously be a very difficult time of the year for you with those dates and the holidays, what better place to celebrate his life and your marriage? GO! Have a great time and hugs to you and your beautiful kids.

 

[delswife]

 

[yourtravelpro]

Originally posted by *Fantasia*
...Our Anniversary date is Dec 11. It would have been our 10th yr. Though he is no longer here, he is still here with me, in my heart and in memory. I just feel like I need to go out and celebrate on our special day. We honeymooned at WDW and we celebrated our 7th at WDW as well.

I kind of wanna go back to WDW with my children, but the only thing is that they will still be in school. I can do it during Christmas/NYE vacation, but it may not be the same it's not exactly on our Anniversary date.

I am not trying to find excuses to go to WDW again, we've been there already 3X this year and 3X last year.

I just feel like I need to celebrate our special day and it's even more special cause it our 10th yr. I just wanted him to know that I miss him and I will always love him and that he is not forgotten.

What do you guys think?

I think you should do whatever will make you feel better! I am so sorry that you lost your husband. Go to WDW and he will be there with you watching over you and your children. Make your plans, you have to go! You and your kids deserve it!

 

[yourtravelpro]

Originally posted by pw2pp
Why would you need a long vacation to go to WDW, didn't you move to Florida?

I would personally be very sick of WDW if I had gone so many times already, I mean, how many times can you go on the same rides over and over? So that is my personal opinion - I would NOT go again.

I am so sorry you are going through this, I guess it never gets any easier does it?

Why the harsh words to someone who is missing her husband???
What's wrong with you???

 

[palmtreegirl]

Sounds like a wonderful idea!

 

[DisMN]

I remember when you came back from the trip...the one your husband passed away on. So heartbreaking to read about what happened and it's been so sweet to see how well you and your children have done since that terrible time.
Your husband would be very proud of you I'm sure of that!

I say GO and feel his spirit as it hugs you at the last place you probably hugged HIM.

 

[pw2pp]

Why the harsh words to someone who is missing her husband???

I didn't think they were harsh words.
She asked what we think and I gave my opinion. If she wants to go then by all means she should go. I was just answering the question that she put out there for us (she asked what we think). How is that harsh?

YOURTRAVELPRO: Did you not read in my post, my KIND words to her and the HUGS?

Fantasia: I hope you didn't take my words as harsh, because I did not mean to be harsh at all.


p.s. Fantasia, I do love Disney too.
Have a good time if you do decide to go.

 

[olena]

 

[RaySharpton]

ºoº God Bless you, *Fantasia*, and your beautiful children. ºoº

ºoº I can not possibly imagine what you must have felt on that day that you were with your Dear Husband when he passed at Walt Disney World during your anniversary trip. ºoº

ºoº My heart goes out to you and your Dear Children. ºoº

ºoº There are many thoughts of love from your fellow DISers here. ºoº

ºoº I also think that whatever your heart decides what is best for you and your Dear Children to do will be the right thing. ºoº

ºoº I think that going to Walt Disney World would be a wonderful idea. I think that just being at Walt Disney World, visiting the different places that you and your Dear Husband visited would be a wonderful way to remember him. ºoº

ºoº Spending time at the resort and enjoying the different christmas decorations and activities either quietly or with great joy. ºoº

ºoº To walk down the beautifully decorated Magic Kingdom's Main Street as it is decorated in all its glory for christmas time. Watching the snow down Main Street. Watching the beautiful and heart tugging WISH fireworks, and the christmas parade with the dancing reindeer and marching toy soldiers playing their trumpets. ºoº

ºoº To watch the beautiful, inspiring Illuminations and Christmas Processional at EPCOT. ºoº

ºoº And you could work with your children's teachers to maybe do the homework and any tests early before you go to Disney. ºoº

ºoº And if financial situations are a factor, I think that spending time at home with your children looking at photos or home movies and celebrating your Dear Husband's life and love would also be wonderful. ºoº

ºoº As John, Towncrier, said, there will be hundreds of Disney loving people at Walt Disney World that weekend that you are thinking about going. We would all like to show our love for you and your Dear Children in any way that we can. ºoº

ºoº God Bless you, *Fantasia* and your Dear Children. ºoº

ºoº Sincerely, Ray ºoº

 

[Pooh93]

You do what you feel in your heart. Many {{HUGS}} to you and your children.

p.s. (Hello Ray Sharpton )

 

[zurgswife]

Originally posted by pw2pp
I didn't think they were harsh words.
She asked what we think and I gave my opinion. If she wants to go then by all means she should go. I was just answering the question that she put out there for us (she asked what we think). How is that harsh?

YOURTRAVELPRO: Did you not read in my post, my KIND words to her and the HUGS?

Fantasia: I hope you didn't take my words as harsh, because I did not mean to be harsh at all.


p.s. Fantasia, I do love Disney too.
Have a good time if you do decide to go.

I read your entire post also....I thought your choice of words was also extremely harsh.....The family is trying to figure out how to celebrate a persons life and remember them.......

Your added hugs seems very superficial after the opening statements...

Telly....a huge group of DISers will be there that weekend....whether you choose to meet us and have us support you is your choice but always know there is an invitation...(probably from lots of people).....I say GO and CELEBRATE his life and REMEMBER the join you experienced as a family in WDW...then make a few NEW memoiries to take back home....


LYMI

ZW

 

[JayBee]

Originally posted by *Fantasia*
Why?

I deleted my post after I realized your DH passed away at WDW. I still think 6 trips to WDW in two years has to get boring, just my opinion.

My father passed away suddenly when I was a teen and left my Mom with very little income and 4 kids in school. We never went back to "places we went to with Dad" to remember him for vacation,I fact our most memorablefamily trip was a year after Dad died - a huge "Out West" camping trip to The Grand Canyon and Colorado-wonderful memories with my Mom. THat was all I was suggesting-to let your kids experience more than a theme park.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Fantasia,
You need to spend those days however YOU want to spend them. And I totally understand wanting to be at a place that the two of you shared together. I know that if I was in your position, I would do the same thing.

God bless you and your family. And I pray that you find comfort and peace, no matter how YOU decide to spend those days.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

Fantasia, go if your heart says go. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks and don't listen to anyone else's "shoulds." If you went to WDW 15 times a year it's no one else's business. Don't feel you have to defend your feelings and choices.

Your children will remember time spent with Mommy and they'll remember Daddy through your stories and memories too. If you can afford to go, go. If you can't afford to go but feel you need to anyway, go. Life is short as you well know. Spend your time with your children the way you feel is best.

I have a dear friend who feels I spend too much time and money at Disney World. She goes to a gambling boat nearly every weekend and doesn't take her children. I don't tell her what I think about that. She has a right to live her life to suit herself. So do I. So do you. If being at Disney World on this special anniversary helps then I hope you will go and treasure each memory and moment.


crazyforgoofy

 

[huey duey & luey]

I agree completely with crazyforgoofy.
You choose to spend that day however you feel closest to your memories.
Tara

 

[pw2pp]

Your added hugs seems very superficial after the opening statements...

Zurgswife:
You don't know what is in my heart or the expression that may be on my face or my tone of voice. You read a sentence that I write...... don't like it and then judge whether I am sincere or not. For you to judge what is in my heart is what I would call "superficial".
I have PM'd Fantasia and again explained myself and offered her support. I never meant to sound harsh. She asked "what do you guys think" (regarding should she or should she not go to WDW).

I too, know what it is like to lose loved ones - I lost 3 siblings in one day. I lost both of my parents by the time I was 38.

I guess this is a true lesson of how written word can be so misunderstood on the internet, when you cannot see a person's facial expressions or tone of voice.

To Fantasia........ I am so sorry about this whole thing.