It is time for me to move forward!

MsDisney23 · Dec 28, 2005

I am now 16 months post-Pancreas Transplant and doing pretty good. I still tire easy, but have came to except that, and now take life just a little on the slow side. Overall I am doing GREAT!

Yesterday we layed MIL to rest. I know that I will miss her dearly. I told DH lastnight, that it is all over now, she is no longer in any pain. I told him that Mom would want us to go on and be happy, etc.

I told DH that I am ready to go ahead and take down the Christmas stuff and put Mom's things up. I am ready to get the house back to normal as well as my life.

So I am going to start today with everything. I will start soon to plan my trip to WDW. Mom knew how much I loved Disney and wanted to go back. It is time for me to move forward in life. :goodvibes

kaylajr · Dec 28, 2005

Great that you have such a postive attitude

Hoping 2006 is a wonderful year for you :goodvibes

Serena · Dec 28, 2005

Kitty, you do whatever you want to do. Just make sure and take care of yourself. For that matter, we all need to.

Does your Dh want to have something of his mom's out?

Disney Doll · Dec 28, 2005

I understand what you are saying. My DMIL died 4 years ago, about 2 weeks before Christmas. We had spent the 3 months before her death caring for her in her own home (which was around the corner from ours), with the help of my 2 DSILs and a DAunt.

We had Christmas, which was subdued but OK, and right after the New Year we went to Disney. It was a good transition between the difficulties of the previous year and a new start.

I agree, that your DMIL would want you to remember her fondly and look to the fututre. I know that's what I would want for my loved ones. I certainly wouldn't want them to get trapped in mourning for me. Life is for the living.

MickeysMommy · Dec 28, 2005

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chyam · Dec 28, 2005

Everyone handles grief differently and people move at different paces when it comes to it. When my mother passed, it was about a week later and I told my dad when he is ready to clean out her closets let me know I will help him.......we started that day, we took things out and he told me what was to go and what wasn't, perhaps your DH should be there when you do sort her things out. We had about 18 months notice that my mother was going to pass so I think we were more prepared for it and like you we knew she would be in a "better" place and out of pain. We packed all her things for the Hospice thrift store, since they had been so wonderful to her.
I understand how you want to get things back in order in your life too, but it is important for you to take it slowly as not to wear yourself out too.
Here's to hoping you have a better 2006 and your healthy stays on track!