Is your spouse or SO *physically" attractive?

[Wishing on a star]

I guess I don't really get the whole premise of the poll????

Whether DISers feel their spouse is a 10 or not doesn't really have anything to do with this co-workers comments. Unless your whole premise is that every person, by definition, SHOULD feel that their spouse is a ten. Or, as quoted in the OP, is 'attractive'.

To me, whether tiggerjoe's wife is a 10 or not, or whether MinnieM's husband is a ten or not, (hypothetical names here!) really fails to address the real question.

I think that this guy is rude, crude, and socially unacceptable for making such comments. Constant prefacing every comment with, "my wife is unattractive..." completely negates any further statement!!!! What the heck does whether she is a 10 or not have to do with anything that he is referring too?

To premise every single statement with this phrase is, IMHO, disrespectful and demeaning.

Why not simply say the 'But' part of the statement without leaving out the negative preface? I think this guy has some real issues going on. Big Time!

Also, if the 'But' or ending, part of his statements are in the context that I am thinking they might be. Well, that is also demeaning, disrespectful, etc.

It sounds like this guy has some real personal self-esteem and identitiy issues of his own. I have heard that for some guys, they feel like the looks, or 'sexual attractiveness', of the woman on their arm is a direct reflection of themselves. Sounds like this guy is feeling like he has to prove some kind of point, or make some kind of excuses, or make some kind of apology, for his wifes looks!!!

Sad.

 

[daddydisneyworld]

I guess I don't really get the whole premise of the poll????

Whether DISers feel their spouse is a 10 or not doesn't really have anything to do with this co-workers comments. Unless your whole premise is that every person, by definition, SHOULD feel that their spouse is a ten. Or, as quoted in the OP, is 'attractive'.

To me, whether tiggerjoe's wife is a 10 or not, or whether MinnieM's husband is a ten or not, (hypothetical names here!) really fails to address the real question.

I think that this guy is rude, crude, and socially unacceptable for making such comments. Constant prefacing every comment with, "my wife is unattractive..." completely negates any further statement!!!! What the heck does whether she is a 10 or not have to do with anything that he is referring too?

To premise every single statement with this phrase is, IMHO, disrespectful and demeaning.

Why not simply say the 'But' part of the statement without leaving out the negative preface? I think this guy has some real issues going on. Big Time!

Also, if the 'But' or ending, part of his statements are in the context that I am thinking they might be. Well, that is also demeaning, disrespectful, etc.

It sounds like this guy has some real personal self-esteem and identitiy issues of his own. I have heard that for some guys, they feel like the looks, or 'sexual attractiveness', of the woman on their arm is a direct reflection of themselves. Sounds like this guy is feeling like he has to prove some kind of point, or make some kind of excuses, or make some kind of apology, for his wifes looks!!!

Sad.

so, howdja vote?

 

[Disney_1derland]

Just have to weigh in on this one!

I once had a 'friend' tell me that she could never be involved with my husband because she couldn't get past how he looks. I told her that was a good thing because he wouldn't have anything to do with her because she was a shallow person. Needless to say, that was the last time I spoke to her.

Physical beauty is not a factor for everyone, but likewise, there are some people who would choose appearance over personality, to each their own I guess.

I think if you truly love someone their looks do not matter, my dh is NOT my physical 'type' at all but there are so many other things that attract me to him that it has never been and will never be an issue.

 

[mommaU4]

I think if you truly love someone their looks do not matter, my dh is NOT my physical 'type' at all but there are so many other things that attract me to him that it has never been and will never be an issue.

I agree with you. I had never even really thought about it in these terms before, you know, rating your S/O. I am so far from a 10. Maybe into the negatives, but my DH tells me everyday how good I look and how pretty I am. Usually I make some self-depreciating comment because I do not agree with him, but it's nice to know that's how he sees me. And I feel the same about him, even though I know others might think we are crazy. But who cares.

 

[Rhonda922]

My DH is totally adorable inside and out!!

 

[KristaTX]

Usually I make some self-depreciating comment because I do not agree with him, but it's nice to know that's how he sees me.

Awwww . Don't put yourself down when someone, especially your DH, pays you a compliment. It takes practice, but most women need to practice accepting a genuine compliment from someone graciously without feeling the need to put ourselves down.

You say that he really means it when he says how pretty you are to him. Next time he says something about how beautiful you are, hug him, simply say "thank you, honey", and see how much better you both feel .

 

[Nickimouse]

I think my DH is HOT!! And he's a sweetie too!

 

[Tiggerlover91]

Didn't vote....don't feel I need to. As someone else said, what I find attractive and sexy, someone else may not. I will say this though, when my DH walks into my job with his motorcycle gear on, he does turn the heads of each female I work with! I've been told over the last few years since hubby has a little more "meat" on him, what a handsome husband I have. One friend just flat out said, "Your husband is hot!" I just smiled and said, "thanks, I think so!"

 

[mommaU4]

Next time he says something about how beautiful you are, hug him, simply say "thank you, honey", and see how much better you both feel .

Have you two been talking? LOL That's exactly what he always says!

 

[djcruz4fun]

My DW Nickimouse is not only attractive She is Hot.

After the first time I saw her on the basket ball court (Cheerleader)
I knew she was the one for me and now after 2 kids and almost 18 years she is still the hottest babe on the planet

 

[Wishing on a star]

Don't put yourself down when someone, especially your DH, pays you a compliment. It takes practice, but most women need to practice accepting a genuine compliment from someone graciously without feeling the need to put ourselves down.

You say that he really means it when he says how pretty you are to him. Next time he says something about how beautiful you are, hug him, simply say "thank you, honey", and see how much better you both feel .

I agree!!!!!

I am in no way a 10... or probably even a 5!!! LOL!!! When I do get a compliment, it is hard not to question the person, and to accept graciously!

This is so important! When a person gives a compliment, they are tying to be caring and to please. They hope to see a big smile and a gracious, 'Thank You, you are so nice!!!'

 

[Wishing on a star]

so, howdja vote?

LOL!!! Yes, I did vote! And I almost posted my choice... But then thought better of it.

My DH is probably a 7. Could easily be an 8 with just a bit of effort... I do find him attractive! And we are very well matched. But he is not quite a 9 or 10. But, I'll have to admit, that it would take one heck of a guy to get a 9 or a ten in my book!!! Like 'star' quality... The male version of an Angelina Jolie!

Really, this whole rating thing is just too much....

I think that men are far more visually wired than women are. They are much bigger on the rating system???

 

[Kahana-ri]

My DH is hot. Even when I am peeved at him I think - he's cute

 

[NMAmy]

I understand what PD is asking but I think it's really difficult to objectively rate someone I care so deeply about--the poster who mentioned trying to rate your kids' attractiveness had it right. I can't be objective about it.

I think dh is incredibly handsome. I gave him a 9 simply because since he's in his early 50's, he tends to appeal to a certain demographic of women--mainly us middle-aged ones--I don't think the younger girls would look twice at him. My female co-workers, the cashiers at the grocery store, and every woman in my family go on and on about how adorable he is. He's over 6' tall, in good shape, has very blue eyes, and a full head of white hair. Then he talks, and the English accent makes us middle aged women (who grew up reading romance novels) just swoon. His personality and the ways he pampers and cares for me is what makes him so swoon worthy to me, though.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

Just have to weigh in on this one!

I once had a 'friend' tell me that she could never be involved with my husband because she couldn't get past how he looks. I told her that was a good thing because he wouldn't have anything to do with her because she was a shallow person. Needless to say, that was the last time I spoke to her.

Oh my word!! Are you serious?!?!?! That is awful!! I would tell her that your husband couldn't get involved with her because he couldn't get past her attitude. BLECH! What a piece of work!

 

[Mermaid02]

Just have to weigh in on this one!

I once had a 'friend' tell me that she could never be involved with my husband because she couldn't get past how he looks. I told her that was a good thing because he wouldn't have anything to do with her because she was a shallow person. Needless to say, that was the last time I spoke to her.

Physical beauty is not a factor for everyone, but likewise, there are some people who would choose appearance over personality, to each their own I guess.

I think if you truly love someone their looks do not matter, my dh is NOT my physical 'type' at all but there are so many other things that attract me to him that it has never been and will never be an issue.

I would have told her that it's funny she should say that because my husband had just told me that he could never be involved with her because she was such a skank.

 

[VSL]

To me, my BF is a 10 all the way, but who cares what other women think of him?
I mean, I don't find Brad Pitt, Orlando Bloom, Tom Cruise, George Cloony, etc. at all attractive, although they would generally get an 8-10 rating from the general Western population

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Completely.

 

[Funniebunny]

When I met my DFiance it was kind of like a blind date. I had met him 3 years previously and spoken to him several times on the phone as he was my computer support person. He lived about 60 miles from where I live but we decided that we would go on a date anyway and see. Well I couldn't remember what he looked like at all and when I met him I have to admit that I wasn't totally blown away, but he had such a great personality and we got on like a house on fire. We have been together ever since and moved in 3 months ago. I now realize how attractive I find him, he may not be anyone else's cup of tea but I love him to bits.

 

[wdwmom2]

I would have told her that it's funny she should say that because my husband had just told me that he could never be involved with her because she was such a skank.

OMG, you took the words right out of my mouth!!!!

 

[Tigger_Magic]

I ain't arguing per se. You think they are a 10? Awesome. But statistically 23% of people are not 10s.

Given the U.S. population of 297,718,495 (according to the U.S. population clock), 23% would be about 68,475,253 people. Seems like a reasonable possibility to me. People magazine finds at least 50 to 100 people a year that are labeled "beautiful", so why can't 68 million more be 10's.

I, too, would be interested in your statistics and where they come from.