Is your Dad still alive?

[AustinTink]

He died just 10 months before my wedding. He never met any of his grand kids. He has missed so so so much over the last 12 years and it is hard to not be so damn angry about it.

Father's Day, while sad for me, has never been as emotional for me as it is this year. I am really feeling his absence in my life lately. I just really miss him.

It's so tough not having your Dad to walk you down the aisle. Mine died 1 month before my wedding. We wanted to postpone, but Mom wouldn't let us. She said that was the last thing he would have wanted.

 

[crz4mm2]

No. My "Dad" (actually step-dad, but only Dad I ever really knew) died in 1994.
The "biological" Dad died a few years later. I had got to know him a little by that time, but he was NOT my "Dad".

 

[minkydog]

My dad died about 6 years ago. i don't remember the exact date, but it was in late August. Dad and i had not been close for about 30 years(his choice) but we had about a month there at the end to say what we needed to say and ask & receive forgiveness.

I was lucky enough to have a second dad who came into my life when i was in my late 20s. Dave married my mother when I was 30 and he was everything that my own dad was not. He treated my mother with great respect and he love love LOVED her grandchildren. Whenever Mother and Dave came to visit us, he brought his tool box and spent the whole time repairing things and doing projects. When we found out that our son was severely disabled, Dave went to the local university and looked up medical books so he could try to understand more. He never drew a boundary between the grandkids--no "his" and "hers." They were aaaallll his. When Dave suddenly sickened and then died it was the worst day of our lives and we still miss him terribly.

 

[njmom47]

I voted "Other", and I had posted about this elsewhere on the boards today, but will say:

My adoptive dad passed away in 1980. Stepdad passed away in 2007. Biological dad very much alive, although I have only known him for 12 years.

 

[indimom]

Yes. He's 66 and doing great. Golfed 18 holes this morning with my hubby, son and nephew for a fundraiser. Then spent the afternoon at my sister's house as we all gutted a bathroom for a major renovation. He was in construction for about 50 years, ran marathons up until a few years ago, and enjoys basketball, golf, music and politics. He has always been a fantastic parent. We love him and hope to have a few more decades to enjoy him.

 

[anorviel]

My dad passed away 10 years ago next month. DH and I were talking last night about his passing. I still miss him like crazy, but ten years has helped with the pain of losing him. My mom married his best friend 7 years ago and my step-dad is like a second dad in many ways.

I always feel like I have to explain that part - my parents and my step-dad and his ex met and became friends when my mom was pregnant with me. Step-dad and his ex divorced a few years before my dad passed but the three of them (my mom, dad, and step-dad) remained best friends after the divorce. So having my mom married to my step-dad seems like the natural progression. One of my favorite, and most cherished, photos is of the three of them throwing confetti at my wedding. My step-dad has been a part of my life from the beginning and has been there for all of the important events, so I feel really lucky that I have someone to celebrate who has a shared history with me. I've always cared for him and loved him, so it's nice. In some ways, that history keeps my dad very much present and here for me.

Sorry - long post. I do miss my dad on Father's Day and I'm feeling all reflective and stuff.

 

[MamaJessie]

My dad died of a heart attack when I was 12 (20 years ago this August), he was 45. Father's day used to make me sad but now watching my husband with our kids makes it better. Mother's day was rough since it has only been a year since she died, so somehow now father's day stings even less, having just dealt with that.

 

[ugadog99]

No, my daddy passed away on October 28, 2009. My girls' daddy was killed in a car accident when the oldest was 3 and I was 6 months pregnant with the younger (ages now are 20 and 17). Needless to say, Father's Day is a day we skip around here.

 

[HelenePA]

No. He died the day I found out DS2 was a boy... he was actually supposed to come babysit the 3 others so me and dh could go together to the ultrasound.. he never showed up.. I was beyond mad Guess he had a good reason for not coming. He died of a massive stroke.. at the age of 58.

 

[kingdomheart2]

I lost my dad dec 7th 2007 he passed from a rare brain disease called moyamoya disease he was only 59, i miss him every day

 

[mrsheppo]

I lost my dad in September 1993. He died of a massive heart attack. I still miss him and my Mom very much.

 

[ols386]

My dad passed away 2 years ago. He had emphysema, lots of lung issues. I miss him every day, but especially on Father's Day.

 

[2girls4me]

Yes, thank goodness.

 

[starrzone]

My dad is still alive; actually, he and Mom are coming to the tail end of a 3-week group tour to Spain, Morocco and Portugal

I'm sure it's a bittersweet trip for my father; in 1969, he took a year off from college to backpack around Europe/Morocco (NOT a common thing for a young man from Canada's smallest province to do at that time!). A month or two after he got back, his own father dropped dead right in front of him in their kitchen, of a massive stroke, at the age of 51. My father has worked very hard his whole life; he has held a job since he was a child, and as a result of his wise decisions, was able to retire at 55. I can only wish to be 1/10 as successful as he was, and continues to be today. I truly love my father with all my heart

 

[Gigi22]

My Dad passed away of a massive heart attack--his one and only--in May 1985. He was 59. Then my DFIL died as the result of a car accident, six months later. He was 65.

 

[candykisses]

No. My Dad was killed by a drunk driver October 1982. The same accident that also paralyzed my husband. Dad was only 48.

We still miss him.

Of course my sons were born long after he passed. Recently they asked if he would have liked them. The tears started immediately and I told them, yes more than life itself.

They have a lot of his mannerisms. It makes me smile.

Wishing everyone warm, comforting memories.

 

[Planogirl]

My mother found my father dead of a heart attack on the floor one morning. That was about 12 years ago and it feels like it was just yesterday.

 

[castmemberb4]

My Dad left us when I was 5.
Died when I was 18. He was around, lived in the same town
in the years between, but I don't feel I really knew him.
Last night I dreamed that he spent the night at my house.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

My Dad passed when I was 8 months old....

 

[mrsstats]

No, it is 16 years on 6/28. Just went to visit his (and my mom) grave today. Can't belive it is that long. I can remember the day like yesterday. He had lung cancer.