How could there be anything you don't know?
I can definately understand why TGM wasn't a help for you. And can understand why you're frustrated now about helping others. That really is a shame.
Yep, I'm gonna be one of the people armed with my little 4 x 6 cards with touring plan, hints, etc. Do I think I'm gonna miss the 'magic'? Nope! Why? Because all the info for me is just a guide. I'm one of those people that will go - "I know I read something really cool about this. Now what the heck was it?" and then spend the rest of the day mulling it over. That's why I want the tidbits of info. Aslo, my group is very indecisive. If I don't have some suggestions we'll spend half our day in the middle of Main St. going "Where do you want to head? No, where do YOU want to head? No honey, where ever you want to go is fine. No, sweetheart, let's do what you want" Trust me, its not a pretty sight.
Personally, I think whether or not a touring plan is commando is your approach to it. If you follow any plan as if it were the only way to do things then it will be commando. You can take any touring plan, UG, TGM or whatever and use it as a 'guide' and be very relaxed about it. I know I'll spend hours just watching the magic of small children discovering the characters and all the magic there. I know even though my daughter will be 11 that she'll love exploring Tom Sawyer island like I did at her age. There's magic in things that others won't see. Even though I'm going to be armed with all my cards, hehe, I'm not going to keep from enjoying that. Again, I really think its all in your attitude and approach to the information you gather to plan your trip.