Is this tacky for a bridal shower? *UPDATE* page 6

[laurajetter]

Any update OP?

Yes, sorry... I've been meaning to come back here for an update but hadn't gotten to it. All is well; I called my mom and asked if I could be honest with her. I told her I really didn't think Pizza Hut was appropriate for a bridal shower... It would be loud, impersonal, awkward to open gifts, not special enough, etc. I told her just because we have it at her house doesn't mean she needs to go overboard; we could keep it low key, The bridesmaids and I would worry about food and decorations and I promised her that I could come and help her clean up in preparation for it and that she shouldn't get overwhelmed (since she's technically not the host anyway).

For those wondering, I'd offer my house in a heartbeat but it truly is too small and feels maxed out at around 10-12 people, it doesn't have enough space for extra seating, etc. We will be inviting about 30 people so it wouldn't work out. The other bridesmaids live in various distant locations that really wouldn't be convenient enough. My mom's house is the perfect size and location.

She didn't really object and seems to be fine with it, probably because she must've seen how much I was against doing it at Pizza Hut, haha!

Thank you to everyone who took time to respond, it was truly helpful. I'm slightly nervous though that people will think it is odd, etiquette-wise, for the party to be at the mother of the bride's house...at least technically I'm the host so I'm just going resolve not worry to about it. It is what it is!

 

[Mickey Fliers]

Just as an aside....I have done several shower type parties and have used Costco/Sams as my go-to for "catering". Some croissants, chicken salad, veggie and fruit trays, cheese and crackers, and a lovely cake. All done. Best of luck!

 

[aprilgail]

Thank you to everyone who took time to respond, it was truly helpful. I'm slightly nervous though that people will think it is odd, etiquette-wise, for the party to be at the mother of the bride's house...at least technically I'm the host so I'm just going resolve not worry to about it. It is what it is!

I would think it more odd to be invited to a shower at a pizza hut than one hosted by mother of the bride!!

 

[Hikergirl]

Yes, sorry... I've been meaning to come back here for an update but hadn't gotten to it. All is well; I called my mom and asked if I could be honest with her. I told her I really didn't think Pizza Hut was appropriate for a bridal shower... It would be loud, impersonal, awkward to open gifts, not special enough, etc. I told her just because we have it at her house doesn't mean she needs to go overboard; we could keep it low key, The bridesmaids and I would worry about food and decorations and I promised her that I could come and help her clean up in preparation for it and that she shouldn't get overwhelmed (since she's technically not the host anyway).

For those wondering, I'd offer my house in a heartbeat but it truly is too small and feels maxed out at around 10-12 people, it doesn't have enough space for extra seating, etc. We will be inviting about 30 people so it wouldn't work out. The other bridesmaids live in various distant locations that really wouldn't be convenient enough. My mom's house is the perfect size and location.

She didn't really object and seems to be fine with it, probably because she must've seen how much I was against doing it at Pizza Hut, haha!

Thank you to everyone who took time to respond, it was truly helpful. I'm slightly nervous though that people will think it is odd, etiquette-wise, for the party to be at the mother of the bride's house...at least technically I'm the host so I'm just going resolve not worry to about it. It is what it is!

Sounds like everything will work out. Don't worry about what other's think about it being at the MOB's house, if they feel so strongly about it they don't have to go, which is a good thing because you probably wouldn't want them there.

 

[kirstenb1]

Glad it's all worked out. I agree with Mickey Fliers, about letting either Costco or your grocery store do a lot of the work food-wise. So much easier to buy some party platters of sandwiches, veggies, dips, fruit etc. I hope you have a great shower!!

 

[shoney]

Sounds like it worked out. Honestly, it being at the MOB's house wouldn't even hit my radar. I've been to tons of baby showers hosted by mom, including my own, so why should a bridal shower be any different.

 

[mamamary]

Sounds like it worked out. Honestly, it being at the MOB's house wouldn't even hit my radar. I've been to tons of baby showers hosted by mom, including my own, so why should a bridal shower be any different.

I agree

 

[Jhaberlein]

My shower was at my Mom's house. I only had my sister as MOH, and she lived in an apartment with 3 roommates at the time. Mom's house had been used for countless showers, baptism/First Communion/Confirmation, graduation parties, and other events for friends and family over the years, so I don't think anyone thought it was a breach of etiquette. I'm not sure many people truly follow "rules" any more. Just what works for the couple. I just received a wedding invitation with the registry info included, and I don't care at all. The only thing I've heard my family gripe about in recent years is not getting a thank you OR explanation of what they intended to do with the gifts after my cousins wedding was postponed indefinitely right after the bride's shower. They never broke up, just decided they didn't want a big wedding. They ended up getting married 2+ years later and only invited their parents and siblings.

 

[Vernie822]

FWIW I don't think it's weird AT ALL! My sister is my MOH and they were contemplating having it at my mom's house - that being said my sister is 19 turning 20 so her house is my parents' house. But I don't think that's weird in the least, especially given that you said her house is ideal for hosting.

Glad to hear you had a great outcome!

 

[Vernie822]

Just as an aside....I have done several shower type parties and have used Costco/Sams as my go-to for "catering". Some croissants, chicken salad, veggie and fruit trays, cheese and crackers, and a lovely cake. All done. Best of luck!

Yes!! We don't have Costco around here but Sam's has fantastic rolls, cake, cookies, etc.

 

[Forevermarypoppins]

What does the bride to be think?


IMHO, Pizza Hut is for kids birthday parties!!!

 

[laurajetter]

FWIW I don't think it's weird AT ALL! My sister is my MOH and they were contemplating having it at my mom's house - that being said my sister is 19 turning 20 so her house is my parents' house. But I don't think that's weird in the least, especially given that you said her house is ideal for hosting.

Glad to hear you had a great outcome!

Thanks, that makes me feel better! Sometimes the rules of etiquette can drive you crazy!

 

[laurajetter]

What does the bride to be think?


IMHO, Pizza Hut is for kids birthday parties!!!

Although the bride does know the date of the shower and helped me compile a guest list I wanted to keep as much of it a surprise as possible so she has no clue Pizza Hut was being considered as a venue. I have a feeling though she would probably appreciate a more private party so I'm glad it worked out the way it did, and she's none the wiser!

 

[minniecarousel]

My house is the party house, so bridal & baby showers were here for my daughters-in-law. Since it was all family & close family, no one batted an eye. (Had anyone said anything, they'd be hosting the next Thanksgiving or Chistmas!)

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Thank you to everyone who took time to respond, it was truly helpful. I'm slightly nervous though that people will think it is odd, etiquette-wise, for the party to be at the mother of the bride's house...at least technically I'm the host so I'm just going resolve not worry to about it. It is what it is!

If I were you, I'd totally ignore the posts about family not hosting. Where I'm from, the bride's family, including Mom, hosts the shower. No one would even consider asking a non-related MOH or bridesmaids to spend the money to host it. I had a household shower, rather than a bridal shower, but it was at my parent's house. They had (they're gone now) a huge home. Why not take advantage of it? Honestly, some opinions on who is supposed to host showers, etc. seem to be outdated to me & I'm not young.

 

[bellebud]

I've been to lots of showers at homes, I wouldn't think twice about it.