Is this strange or is it just me?

[OurBigTrip]

So, this boys parents are going to sleep in separate bedrooms without each other for this whole vacation?

It's a week - I'm sure they'll survive.

Giving up sex for a week is the price they pay for keeping the kids from having sex.

 

[Ofinn]

Because I was looking for input on whether the BF's parents behavior was strange or if it was normal...exactly as the title of my thread said. I wasn't looking for parenting advice or to start a huge argument between other posters.

Your big mistake was asking for advice on these boards. Everyone on these boards knows how to raise your kid better then you do. This board is full of perfect parents....at least they think they are. Sorry you for the abuse you have taken. I think your probably a great parent and don't really need the advice of total strangers. Good luck.

 

[ChickyRootie]

Your big mistake was asking for advice on these boards. Everyone on these boards knows how to raise your kid better then you do. This board is full of perfect parents....at least they think they are. Sorry you for the abuse you have taken. I think your probably a great parent and don't really need the advice of total strangers. Good luck.

did you seriously just claim that she's been 'abused' by others after she willingly posted about a controversial subject and got honest opinions??

 

[Mad Hattered]

sorry....my bad. I thought someone said bunny.

 

[Networth]

Well your being nicer than I would be about the situation. I have brought friends and family and paid for everything because we are well off financially (hate the word rich), but I would never just presume I could book a vacation for someone without getting their or their parents permission even knowing that the potentially wasted money would be no sweat off our back. We have have so many points from from CC usage each month I can't remember the last time I actually paid in cash to fly somewhere. It's the point that no one asked or told you from the start they just assumed. I see you talked to the parents but you asked for opinions and I still say it's weird and that's coming from someone who can afford to waste a room/ticket. I am paying for my fiancé's best friend husband and two children to come stay with us at the GF this December I asked before I booked their room. Not asking seems crazy.

I don't have children yet but if someone bought my child especially there BF/GF's parents airfare/tickets/rooms for a trip without telling me, their would be a major issue. The fact they are bringing 2-3 teenage "couples" and one of these "couples" has only been together for 3 months seems very strange. Honest opinion they are teenagers and the parents don't sounds all that responsible(they didn't even bother to ask/mention, how hard is that? I would wonder what the real sleeping arrangements will be once the trip gets going. Also it New Years who said you wouldn't want your child around to celebrate the holiday?

Point being everyone gets to parent how they want but IMO what they did is craziness.

 

[ChickyRootie]

sorry....my bad. I thought someone said bunny.

Oh no. Totally no 'bad' here...I was actually looking for said bunny. I'm soo glad you found her!! We shall call her squishy!!

 

[linzjane88]

It's a week - I'm sure they'll survive.

Giving up sex for a week is the price they pay for keeping the kids from having sex.

Note to self....never ruin a vacation by bringing anyone who needs a chaperone

 

[akadada]

Whether you're a mom or dad, read Strong Fathers Strong Daughters (among many other evidence based research on raising teens) and you'll understand why my reaction to this is you should absolutely not let your 15 yo daughter go on this trip...while you immediately need to be confronting all the other appauling breaches by the boyfriends parents.

Good luck. I'm sure you'll make the right decision to protect your child, which at 15, she still very much is.

 

[boltfan]

Well your being nicer than I would be about the situation. I have brought friends and family and paid for everything because we are well off financially (hate the word rich), but I would never just presume I could book a vacation for someone without getting their or their parents permission even knowing that the potentially wasted money would be no sweat off our back. We have have so many points from from CC usage each month I can't remember the last time I actually paid in cash to fly somewhere. It's the point that no one asked or told you from the start they just assumed. I see you talked to the parents but you asked for opinions and I still say it's weird and that's coming from someone who can afford to waste a room/ticket. I am paying for my fiancé's best friend husband and two children to come stay with us at the GF this December I asked before I booked their room. Not asking seems crazy.

I don't have children yet but if someone bought my child especially there BF/GF's parents airfare/tickets/rooms for a trip without telling me, their would be a major issue. The fact they are bringing 2-3 teenage "couples" and one of these "couples" has only been together for 3 months seems very strange. Honest opinion they are teenagers and the parents don't sounds all that responsible(they didn't even bother to ask/mention, how hard is that? I would wonder what the real sleeping arrangements will be once the trip gets going. Also it New Years who said you wouldn't want your child around to celebrate the holiday?

Point being everyone gets to parent how they want but IMO what they did is craziness.

Actually, these parents are extremely overprotective. They won't allow their kids to do anything without them. They actually were angry with us for letting the kids be alone in the living room to watch movies while we were upstairs cleaning out the closets. This is one of the reasons I don't worry about supervision on the trip.

 

[niffer5150]

Actually, these parents are extremely overprotective. They won't allow their kids to do anything without them. They actually were angry with us for letting the kids be alone in the living room to watch movies while we were upstairs cleaning out the closets. This is one of the reasons I don't worry about supervision on the trip.

stop with your actually informed knowledge! can't you see people are busy letting their imaginations run wild?!?!

 

[Networth]

stop with your actually informed knowledge! can't you see people are busy letting their imaginations run wild?!?!

Yeah because we are supposed to know the inner workings of a family we have never met and who have been brought up and been talked about on a internet message board, give me a break lol.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

It's not a 15 year old going away with 'another family'...it's a 15 year old child going away with her BOYFRIEND of 18 months...booked by his wealthy parents who didn't even respect OP enough as the child's MOTHER to INFORM her of the trip...You seriously would be fine with this? Look, you obviously have decided that, for whatever reason, you dislike my posts most of all out of the several other posts that have stated basically the exact same things that I've said in different ways...whatever. You are saying that I'm over-protective...perhaps, I'm just running my family in a way which is appropriate for US. The OP asked an opinion and I was giving it...you then saw fit to attack me, for what my 'opinion' indicated to YOU as what kind of parent I must be...In all honesty, I'm sorry, but I do not think it's appropriate for a 15 year old to go away with a boyfriend, In my opinion that is too young...perhaps, being the cool, hip, non over-protective, mom that you must be maybe your 15 year old has a job, and perhaps can pay for an unplanned pregnancy, or I don't know comes and goes as they please...great...but in my 'backwards' child rearing my over-protected little prisoners are doing things like going out to the movies in groups, playing softball with her friends, and painting each other's nails at sleepovers while giggling about boys they are too shy to talk too yet...you're right. My daughter is going to have a lot of problems...she's growing up WAY too slow...(said no mother...EVER.)

I'm sorry but

 

[NewRVLady]

Actually, these parents are extremely overprotective. They won't allow their kids to do anything without them. They actually were angry with us for letting the kids be alone in the living room to watch movies while we were upstairs cleaning out the closets. This is one of the reasons I don't worry about supervision on the trip.

How did they even know this

 

[carrie1626]

Well, my DD (15) has been with the same boyfriend for almost 18 months and his family loves Disney. She's also been friends with his younger sister even longer. The family is quite well off (they own some national chain restaurants) and travel to Disney a couple of times a year. Unbeknownst to us, they invited our daughter to go to Disney December 31st-January 7th. They have already booked the flights and the rooms at the Contemporary. Now, we like this family and have no problem with her going (she'll get to go twice in 2 months as we're going in November!), but wouldn't you think they should have asked us prior to buying her an airline ticket? And we thought that once they knew she told us that they would call, but still no word. Would you call them or just continue waiting for them to call you?

Pick up the phone- NOW!
It's all hearsay until they confirm the info with you.

 

[AmyB2006]

It' like virtual Hunger Games.

So I am just going to assume that all the Mods are standing in line for Gringotts.

Stop stop... LOL Seriously, any time parenting topics come up the claws come out.

OP... I think it's slightly strange that they didn't at least check or speak with you before they bought her airline ticket, but if you trust her and their supervising skills, I would let her go too if it were me.

 

[Luvchefmic]

Pick up the phone- NOW!
It's all hearsay until they confirm the info with you.

see below from page 6

Okay...I just got off the phone with BF's mom. They did book the flights with travel insurance in case someone cancelled, and as for the rooms, the mom has one room with the girls and the dad is with the boys. And as for money, they said that they were paying for everything and not to worry about sending any with her (but of course we will send something). She apologized for not asking permission, but said they are so used to DD being there that they feel like she's part of the family. I feel so much better about this now and I'm sure she'll have a great time.

 

[mefordis]

Our kids go back to school Monday, Jan 5. Your post said the trip is Dec 31 - Jan 7. If your daughter is missing school, shouldn't the mom have asked you before booking the ticket and assuming you were okay with her missing school?

Sorry, either way, IMO not clearing this with you first was disrespectful.

 

[AmyB2006]

Originally Posted by boltfan
Okay...I just got off the phone with BF's mom. They did book the flights with travel insurance in case someone cancelled, and as for the rooms, the mom has one room with the girls and the dad is with the boys. And as for money, they said that they were paying for everything and not to worry about sending any with her (but of course we will send something). She apologized for not asking permission, but said they are so used to DD being there that they feel like she's part of the family. I feel so much better about this now and I'm sure she'll have a great time.

Missed this. Glad you got it sorted out. I'd be ok with this arrangement as well.

 

[L&Lfan]

So, this boys parents are going to sleep in separate bedrooms without each other for this whole vacation?

Maybe they'll hook up during the day when the kids are parkstorming. As others have said, for goodness sake it's only for a WEEK!

 

[boltfan]

How did they even know this

Our kids are honest with us and he told his mother.