Is this rude?

[emma'smom]

I sent this message to someone in response to an e-mail from them saying that a gift for my daughter's birthday was on the way:

"Thank you. That is very thoughtful. We'll look for it in the mail."

After I sent this message, I received a very nasty response about how rude and hurtful my message was. I just don't get it. What am I missing?

 

[dislal]

Maybe they didn't mail it

I would call or send another e-mail asking them what is up.

 

[brockash]

No idea. It seems polite, not rude. I'd e-mail her back explaining that you didn't mean to offend her, and ask what did offend her

 

[cmp1111]

It sounds perfectly reasonable to me - you're letting them know you're aware and looking for it. I'm so sorry!

 

[tchrrx]

I don't get what the problem is either. Let us know if you figure it out.

 

[agnes!]

I would pick up the phone and call them and ask what's up? Don't rely on e-mails and/or text messages.

agnes!

 

[CowboyCO]

Exactly what did her email say? There might be a clue there if you quote it verbatim

 

[Linzybrooke]

Thats a bizarre response...I would have looked at it as a confirmation that you knew it was coming. Not rude at all.

 

[daisyduck123]

I don't see how in the world your message could be hurtful.

I'm thinking maybe she "replied" to the wrong person & that wasn't meant for you?

I did that myself just this week....thought I was replying to DH in an email & accidentally sent it to a friend of mine.

 

[portocall]

I think that was polite... but perhaps they wanted some more chit chat or a pat on the back? Maybe they read your message wrong. I would have been happy to recieve a message like that.

 

[dementia412]

You gotta let us know what she says because I can't for the life of me figure out what's wrong or rude with that email.

 

[MeanLaureen]

Do they work for UPS and they took offense to the thought they would mail it?

 

[momrek06]

I sent this message to someone in response to an e-mail from them saying that a gift for my daughter's birthday was on the way:

"Thank you. That is very thoughtful. We'll look for it in the mail."

After I sent this message, I received a very nasty response about how rude and hurtful my message was. I just don't get it. What am I missing?

Maybe the sender of the nasty email sent that response to YOU by mistake and that nasty response was meant for someone else about something else????

 

[robinb]

I sent this message to someone in response to an e-mail from them saying that a gift for my daughter's birthday was on the way:

"Thank you. That is very thoughtful. We'll look for it in the mail."

After I sent this message, I received a very nasty response about how rude and hurtful my message was. I just don't get it. What am I missing?

What you are missing is that you are thanking them for the present before you even know what it is. That could be considered dismissive. They took the time to pick out something nice for your DD and you are saying "OK, well thanks then. We'll look for it." instead of "Thank you! We can't wait to see it! We'll let you know when it arrives .". I'm sure that you didn't mean it that way, but I could see how they would read it that way.

 

[lemondog]

I think your message was very nice and nothing rude about it at all! All I can figure is that maybe they think "We'll look for it in the mail" is your way of saying you don't believe they actually sent one???

 

[HelenePA]

What you are missing is that you are thanking them for the present before you even know what it is. That could be considered dismissive. They took the time to pick out something nice for your DD and you are saying "OK, well thanks then. We'll look for it." instead of "Thank you! We can't wait to see it! We'll let you know when it arrives .". I'm sure that you didn't mean it that way, but I could see how they would read it that way.

Maybe she does know what it is? We dont know if the sender told her what she got the niece.

OP I see nothing wrong with your email.. people get worked up over the silliest things

 

[Cool-Beans]

There is more to this story, isn't there?

 

[Califgirl]

Her reply could also have meant 'thank you for letting us know something is on the way', we look forward to seeing it. That's not dismissive at all.

I don't see anything wrong with your reply, and if she is a good friend I would call her and ask about it. After all, it wasn't your intention to offend her.

 

[Michelle67]

I just can't possibly see any way that email can be taken hurtfully unless someone is off their meds. I'm hoping the response was a mistake, and if not I think the person who sent it is psychotic.

All I can say is that I am eternally grateful that I do not know some of the people that people on the DIS know or are related to. This kind of stuff sounds absolutely exhausting to have to live with.

 

[perla75]

It sounds like there was some mistake or mix up & that confirmation may not have been from that person. Maybe that person actually didn't give the OP anything for the birthday & they thought the OP was being sarcastic or snide by saying "Thanks for the present"