Is this rude of friends? (This will be long)

[Minnie824]

I've posted issues before...seems to be similar, but I wanted to see if I'm overreacting, or if you think this is as rude as I do. First, have to explain the people...we're all in our 30s, good friends since college, live within 3 hrs ish of each other...some closer to others in driving distance. I'll explain people in order of who lives where
A - lives furthest on one end, moving out of state 15 hours away. Works full time, not married, but moving with future husband. no kids
B - me lives closest to A...married, 2 kids, work full time
C - married, one child, stay at home mom
D - married, no kids, no job, recently decided to stop working
E - lives furthest on other end, married, one child, works part time, 3 days a week.

Ok, so A is moving, 3 weeks ago, we all decided to get together one last time, hang out, watch Lost maybe (before we knew it was a rerun!) on this coming Wed. Those with kids, need to make plans, plenty of notice. Planned on meeting at my house, cuz it was closest to A, who is still working full time, lots going on and is the one moving. Well, today, D calls A (on behalf of C and E as well) to see if we could meet somewhere closer. So now, the person who we are meeting to say good bye to, has to drive an extra 1.5 hours, because of the other 3. Apparently, E has a dr. appt (at 1pm) the next day for her DD and doesn't want to drive that far, and C and E, both DHs will be late, etc. They can't make it to my house by 7pm, but can make it to a restaurant by 6pm (which is only 30 min closer to them). A is hurt, she just wanted to see everyone before she left, and they're trying to make it convenient to them again! If I had to drive 3 hours away, and knew in advance, I'd make arrangements to see a good friend of mine before she left. I don't know, its hard to explain here, without everyone knowing the full story, but it really seemed pretty rude and selfish to me. Just needed to vent a little.

 

[Daisy Duck 5]

I wonder if C,D and E are somehow made at A for moving away from them.
What do you think B?

 

[ChrisnSteph]

If you are close friends, and A wants to see everyone before she goes, then the logical thing to do is meet at a place that's convenient for everyone. It sounds like C and E have legitimate reasons, I don't know about D. Why don't you offer to drive A, so that she doesn't have to? If E lives three hours away, that means she also has a three hour drive home. That's six hours of driving! Why don't you guys plan on meeting at a halfway point?

 

[SC Minnie]

Sounds like C, D, and E are used to your friendship world revolving around them.

 

[darrose]

Three weeks ago the plans where made and everyone agreed, right?
Expecting it to change to somewhere closer to them this close to the event is on the rude side. Three weeks ago would have been the time to speak up instead of agreeing.

 

[Keggy]

It sounds like they didn't like the original plan but never spoke up about it. That would upset me....

It does make sense to meet in a place that is central between A and E.

Kelly