Is this a tacky thing to do at a baby shower?

mefordis

If you can dream it, you can do it.
Joined
Jun 23, 2006
Messages
8,472
I was at a baby shower last Saturday and one of the friend's of the mom-to-be started passing around a stack of envelopes and a pen, for people to address their own thank you card envelope! I thought that was extremely tacky! I was wondering if they were going to pass around a sheet of paper for us to write down what we gave! But they didn't, thank goodness.

Anyone else think this is tacky?
 
The first shower where they did this, I thought it was tacky. I have since changed my mind - it's a good way for the shower hostess / friend to help out the mother-to-be when it is clearly a busy / stressful time in her life. Plus the mom might not have everyone's addresses. It doesn't take anything away from the meaning of a thank you note.

Denae
 
Yes. It's tacky.

And this is from someone that HATES sending thank you cards. Actually I never send them if the person is present when they give me the gift and I open it in front of them. I said thank you at that time (and meant it of course!). Why the note? But if you are going to send a note, address it yourself, or ask a friend or family member to come over and help one afternoon if you have a lot of them.

Or do what I do and use the printer to do it! Then I just have to hand write the note! :teeth:

As always, this is just my opinion, I could be wrong!
 
Mmm.. I have been to tons of baby showers and we have ALWAYS done this. New Mom's to Be have alot on their plate and what takes you two minutes to do, would take alot more for her.. I guess I never thought about cuz we have just always done it that way? <shrug>
 

I have been to several showers that have done this. They usually then have a "drawing" with the envelopes and give a larger door prize to whoevers envelope is drawn. I don't thing it is that uncommon in some areas.
 
I think it's a great thoughtful thing to do for a mother to be that's going to be overwhelmed.
 
I have been to several showers that have done this. They usually then have a "drawing" with the envelopes and give a larger door prize to whoevers envelope is drawn. I don't thing it is that uncommon in some areas.
Same thing here! I don't find it near as tacky at a baby shower as I do at other types of showers. Something about bringing a baby into the world makes it a whole lot different for me.
 
I think its a great idea and wish someone would have done it for my shower 13 yrs ago!
 
I think it's SEEN as tacky by some but I wish it weren't. These women having showers are about to have babies. Its the same with bridal showers too. Everything is hectic and crazy. If it's one less thing for the mom to be or bride to be to have to do, I say go for it. I am now 4 days from my wedding with a MILLION things going on and I am searching high and low for addresses for people who gave me things so that I can send thank you notes. I just wish someone had done it for me, either on envelopes or had all of them written on a piece of paper. Things are so insane right now, I'd be ecstatic for that tiny bit of help whether people thought it tacky or not.

People spend so much time worrying about whats tacky and whats not, and being offended by stuff, and not enough time thinking about the intentions of the person who is doing said "tacky" action. Sounds like someone was just trying to save the new mom some time and hassle. What's so horrible about that?
 
Tacky? Probably....but sometimes tacky works. I wish someone had done it for me when I had my baby shower 8 years ago.
 
I don't think it is tacky. In fact I would probably write on the envelope to not even bother sending a thank you card. :) The mom-to-be has enough to worry about.
 
They did this at my cousin's baby shower. I didn't see anything wrong with it. It's a good way to make sure you have the correct addresses of all your guests and to make sure you don't miss sending a thank you card to anyone. It's not like you have to write out your own thank you card or anything...just your address. :confused3
 
Yes, I think it's tacky. If a woman has time to write thank you notes, then she can take an extra 2 minutes and address the envelope herself.
 
I think it's tacky. Someone took the time to compile all the addresses so invitations could be sent. No reason that same person can't print out the list of addresses for the mother-to-be. Writing out thank you notes is not the epitome of bliss but the guests took time to buy a gift and took a day to celebrate you -- I don't think it is too much to ask that a mother-to-be or bride write (or print out labels and stick - which is what I did) addresses onto an envelope for a thank you.
 
I guess I'm just not easily offended. :confused3 I couldn't possibly care less.
 
The first shower where they did this, I thought it was tacky. I have since changed my mind - it's a good way for the shower hostess / friend to help out the mother-to-be when it is clearly a busy / stressful time in her life. Plus the mom might not have everyone's addresses. It doesn't take anything away from the meaning of a thank you note.

Denae

I'm sure someone has the addresses, because they sent the invitations. Also, if the friend really wanted to help the mom to be, she could help her address the cards herself. I just felt like saying, "That's okay, I don't need a thank you card." Because that is what was going through my head. I felt like offering to write the darn thing myself to further help her out!

Writing thank you cards comes with the territory of receiving gifts, sorry.
 
Writing thank you cards comes with the territory of receiving gifts, sorry.

She still IS writing the thank you cards................
 















Receive up to $1,000 in Onboard Credit and a Gift Basket!
That’s right — when you book your Disney Cruise with Dreams Unlimited Travel, you’ll receive incredible shipboard credits to spend during your vacation!
CLICK HERE













DIS Facebook DIS youtube DIS Instagram DIS Pinterest DIS Tiktok DIS Twitter

Back
Top