Is this a new trend?

[Frantasmic]

If the trend is among DIS posters, I'm glad my wife doesn't post here.

 

[Ub_Iwerks]

Around here I am considered a very young mother. I am 39 and have a 9th grader. My DD was talking to her friend's mother about the trip DD tok to France with my FIL. The friend's mother asked how old Grandpa was. At 63 he was younger than that woman's husband.

There are mothers in DD7's school who are (much) older than me with their first grader being their oldest child.

I guess I'm one of those "much older" mothers. My oldest son just started kindergarten, and I'm 43. I had my youngest at 39 and wouldn't have had it any other way. For some people, it's better to have kids young and for others it's better to have them when they are more "mature."

I've been a high school teacher/librarian for 15 years, and many of my students have toddler siblings. It's often the result of remarriage, but it's not a big deal at all.

 

[Sherri]

Around here I am considered a very young mother. I am 39 and have a 9th grader. My DD was talking to her friend's mother about the trip DD tok to France with my FIL. The friend's mother asked how old Grandpa was. At 63 he was younger than that woman's husband.

There are mothers in DD7's school who are (much) older than me with their first grader being their oldest child.

I am also considered the young Mom around here. I am 36 and have 9th and 8th grader. And you are right, my parents are much younger then a lot of the other grandparents.

 

[Just2554]

Well, in my family, it's only me (almost 20) and my sister (13). But I've noticed alot of this spaced out baby boom in my own life.

When I was a senior in high school, my best friend's mom found out she was pregnant. So now there's her (19), her brother (16), and her baby brother (1).

Actually, one of the girls that works with me has a pregnant mother and 4 other siblings besides. My coworker is 22; her mom is due in 4 months!

 

[AKLRULZ]

You wouldn't see that around here. Most of the Kindergarten Moms are in their 40s. At 33, I'm one of the youngest moms in the class...

Holy smokes that is what we're experiencing - my oldest son is a freshman in high school this year and I went to the orientation for football at the beginning of the year - I came home in shock! I told my wife we needed to be bald, fat, old and/or frumpy to fit in with high school parents!

We're definitely not the norm - we had 3 kids before age 30 and were done. Most of my oldest son's friends have parents 10-15 years older than us while my middle daughter and youngest son have parents just about our age.

 

[NMAmy]

I don't necessarily think this is a new trend. My sister is 10 years older than me and 13 years older than our youngest sister--I'm 43, btw, and my older sister is and has always been my best friend. My mom had lots of friends who ended up in the same situation--either due to failed birth control or remarriage. (My mom's was remarriage, btw.) There is only a 12 year age difference between my nephew and I.

Now, dd is almost 16 and since I remarried I've had lots of questions about whether we were going to have another child or not. Umm...no. I KNOW what teenagers are like and at 43, I feel too old to handle it sometimes! I can't imagine going through this when I am older.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

That is one trend I am happy to skip. My dd's are 5 years apart, not by choice.

At 41 I fit in well with a few of the 4th grade moms and most of 10th grade mom's.

 

[powellrj]

Its not the trend around here, but I never was one for trends! My kids are 23, 15 and 10 and dh and I have been married 28 years.

I was teaching ds #1 to drive at the sametime I was potty training dd. Talk about surreal. It made me realize that teenagers are just like toddlers, they are just bigger!!

We were the average age of the parents of ds# 1, a little older than the parents of ds #2, and the same age as the GRANDPARENTS of dd. When my dh had his BDay, my dd said that Logans grandpa was the same age as he was!! When we go to her school things the parents all look like my oldest DS and we look like all the grandparents!!

I guess a lot of it depends on the area where you live. Many of the kids ds#1 went to high school with already have a child or 2 and he is only 23!

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

Not for me! I just turned 40 and I have one that turns 21 next month and one that turns 17 in March!

I married my DH and he had a five-year old at the time, and boy did she wear me out! I thought she was going to kill me at first!

I am seeing that light at the end of the tunnel though, and I'm not liking the way it's starting to make me feel.

My youngest graduates next year and then she'll be following her sister to Texas Tech. It's going to be so strange to not have my daughters close to me anymore. It makes me so sad.

 

[pixiemomma]

I'll be 33 when my oldest enters high school. Still quite young to have another child. I have found having two very busy elementry age children (sports and school) and a newborn much more challlenging than two in diapers though.

 

[pigletz]

Right now I have an eighth grade uncle/nephew combination in the same class. The uncle isn't the youngest of his siblings either and the nephew isn't the oldest. I had this child's niece last year and another nephew the year before. He's 13 and his sister is 36.

 

[camreesmom]

I'm the oldest (40) in a family with 6 kids and my baby brother is the youngest at 26 so I grew up with this. So it doesn't seem strange to me to have 5 kids and the oldest (a set of boy boy twins) will be 15 next month and our youngest is only 3. A lot of the girls who graduated with me have older kids and are almost done with their youngest already in 11th or 12th grade. But then there are a lot who are like me with 2 or 3 yr olds. I can see advantages to both ways, being young still and having your kids already out of the house and having alone time with DH OR being older, more mature and financially stable when you have your children. Some days I wish the kids were all able to take care of themselves and other days I wish they could stay little forever!

 

[mickeyfan2]

Another theory: they're the infamous "helicopter parents" realizing that in a few years they won't have anything to do, so they need a new hobby.

 

[mickeyfan2]

If the trend is among DIS posters, I'm glad my wife doesn't post here.

 

[Becky2005]

Could be a number of things. I don't think it's necessarily a trend nationwide or anything, probably just locally.

I do know my DD's 3rd grade year was dangerous if you DIDN'T want to be pregnant, her teacher was pregnant, I was pregnant, one of DD's friends (who was also in the class) sister was pregnant, there were at least 3 other moms that were also pregnant. It becaming a running joke about that classroom.

Maybe it's just something like that in your area.

I know I have a 10 year age span between my oldest & youngest.

 

[Becky2005]

Thats here too...I dont think there was a parent in my daughters kindergarten class that was still in their 20's. But there are parents in her class that already have kids in college and high school and then another one in kindergarten.

That makes a huge difference -- I know when my little guy gets to Kindergarten, I'm going to be an "old mom" because he also has misses the cut-off so will be older himself where as when DD went I was considered on the younger side. I guess with my 2 middle ones, I'm just average right now with the 3rd & 1st grader.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

I hope to be through menopause when my youngest is in HS!

Lori

 

[Jpgirl]

No offense to those who have kids late, but Thank God it's not me. I just don't have those maternal feelings to want to have another when I have a 21 yr. old and a 19 yr. old. I love my kids and loved every stage they've been through (well except the 11-13 year old puberty stuff) but I can't wait to be an empty nester. I know I'm in the minority in my community but to each his own. I love the independence of not being tied to a schedule. I've seen quite a few pregnant moms my age (40's) in our high school too.