Is it Wrong to want to Plan???

[ThreeMusketeers]

Okay, I really need some thoughtful advice here.

I want to Plan on getting pregnant Next March. By planning I mean, setting aside some money, getting a bit healthier, ect..ect..and starting to " TRY" next March. He on the other hand thinks that I am CRAZY for wanting to plan on anything a year ahead of time! And won't even commit to a month or even a time period to start trying b/c he dosen't want to "disapoint" me if something changes btwn now and then. WHAT?? I plan vacations like 2 years ahead of time, why wouldn't I want to start planning to start trying for baby #2 for next year?? I am very confused and I am curious as to what other people thought.

 

[Mercy]

I don't see anything wrong with planning. If things change, then so be it. I think planning is a smart thing.

 

[F1Julie]

I think you are smart to plan. It's a great idea to get your body ready to get pregnant. I knew I wanted a Spring baby and I planned for that. Sure enough, my DD was born in May.

 

[ryka]

We are planning right now. We are saving money up and our trying to find a bigger house. I already have 2 kids so we really need a bigger house. ( he has no kids)I'm also trying to lose some weight before I get pregnant ( never really lost it all from the last baby). I don't see anything wrong with planning.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Nothing wrong with it.

Not the same as those who are generically waiting until they can afford it or whatever. (b/c then it may never happen) Perhaps hubby is thinking along those lines of your planning.

However setting aside some money and getting your body healthy are actually responsible things to do. Allows you to save for clothes as well as setting up the nursery and any lost income from maternity leave (should you be going back to work).


My hubby is going for college spacing. He wants a year break between tuitions. So men plan too.

 

[rt2dz]

I kind of understand where he is coming from.

I was planning on baby #1 to start trying in Dec, figuring it would take 3-5 months to get pregnant. He was born in Feb, yes 2 months after we were planning on start trying.

Baby #2 was decided to start trying when DS#1 was 7 months, figuring a couple of months--a nice 18 month age difference. Yeah, right. They are almost exactly 3 years apart. That's two years of trying.

Decided that 3 years was a great age difference. Yeah, DS#3 is only 19 months younger than DS#2.

In other words, plans of this sort, don't always work out. It's not like a vacation--there's a little bit more to it. He just doesn't want to get any hopes up. But, of course, start preparing. It's all in the semantics.

 

[Lyn5]

My first child was a fall baby and I suffered through a very warm spring, a super hot summer and a hot fall It was VERY uncomfortable. So, the next time I planned and DD arrived the first week of May...I was a much cooler mommy

 

[littleteapot]

Plan all you want, and to give you the best chance, read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. Be Blessed!

 

[littleteapot]

Nothing wrong with it.


My hubby is going for college spacing. He wants a year break between tuitions. So men plan too.

We will have 4 in college at the same time, oh my goodness.