Is it wrong to put trash in your neighbor's trash can?

[Domo]

I am fighting a losing battle. All I can do is sign off by saying, if it were me, I would have extended the courtesy to those who need it. Yes, it's my moral compass and not everyone elses. But that's OK. Our own moral compasses are the only things we have going for us, save perhaps a rigid belief structure. So, yeah. This is a soft YAGE. I will probably read subsequent posts out of curiosity, but I won't grace the thread with any more narrative. Some previous posters have been hurtful, some have been insightful. A real melting pot. I don't judge any one else as not everyone is the same and I respect that.

Domo signing off from Domoland

 

[kimblebee]

So many sticks up so many butts on this thread LOL

I wish my life was so simple that I had the luxury of caring if someone used my garbage bin or not.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

So many sticks up so many butts on this thread LOL

I wish my life was so simple that I had the luxury of caring if someone used my garbage bin or not.

It’s not having a stick up your butt to expect your neighbors to be respectful of your property and belongings.

 

[mom2rtk]

It’s not having a stick up your butt to expect your neighbors to be respectful of your property and belongings.

But it's how some justify the behavior.

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

I don't care if it's a once in a while thing. Or if they are cleaning up the yard or roadway and need to toss a couple things in it.
(Note: We don't pay per bag or can here; it's a flat XX a month for trash and recycling.)

Now, if it became a weekly thing, then I'd just mention to them that I really don't have too much extra space (and for almost 8 years, we were overflowing both the recycling and the trash, due to doing home hemo-dialysis) and their trash needs to go in their cans. But I'd do it in a nice way, cause I try to not start spats with the neighbors.

 

[Hikergirl]

So many sticks up so many butts on this thread LOL

I wish my life was so simple that I had the luxury of caring if someone used my garbage bin or not.

So many people who have no respect for boundaries on this thread.
I wish my life was so simple that I didn't have to deal with people like that. Unfortunately it makes things complicated.
And no I'm not talking about garbage specifically, I'm talking about neighbors with the attitude that your things are theirs.

 

[kimblebee]

So many people who have no respect for boundaries on this thread.
I wish my life was so simple that I didn't have to deal with people like that. Unfortunately it makes things complicated.
And no I'm not talking about garbage specifically, I'm talking about neighbors with the attitude that your things are theirs.

I’m just not that possessive of my garbage can.

 

[Hikergirl]

I’m just not that possessive of my garbage can.

Maybe when you have to deal with someone who doesn't understand boundaries you'd feel differently.
And if you never have to, then enjoy that simple life of yours

 

[kimblebee]

Maybe when you have to deal with someone who doesn't understand boundaries you'd feel differently.
And if you never have to, then enjoy that simple life of yours

I DONT have a simple life. That’s why I said I wish I could waste time on whether or not someone put one plastic bag into my garbage bin. I’d rather it was in my bin than thrown on the ground.

 

[Hikergirl]

I DONT have a simple life. That’s why I said I wish I could waste time on whether or not someone put one plastic bag into my garbage bin. I’d rather it was in my bin than thrown on the ground.

But I guess your assumption about the rest of is right

Here's the deal, you can let whoever you want dump garbage in your can, walk all over your lawn, have loud animals while you are trying to sleep. Its all great for you.

 

[kimblebee]

But I guess your assumption about the rest of is right

Here's the deal, you can let whoever you want dump garbage in your can, walk all over your lawn, have loud animals while you are trying to sleep. Its all great for you.

LMAO didn’t you take part in my noisy dog thread over the summer?

 

[Poohlove]

I think the fact that OP is even asking hints at knowing that it is unacceptable. Admittedly being lazy as an excuse doesn't fly either. I know it's just a trashbag in someone else's can but it's the sense of entitlement that would piss me off. Like "Oh well, I am lazy and your can is right here so take my trash and wheel it to the curb too. Hey, maybe next time you can come take it out from my house for me..."

Where is used to live there was a single man who lived between me and an elderly woman (they shared a driveway), he generated very little trash as did she and he usually wheeled her cans out anyway so he told her to just put her bags in his can. I thought that was very considerate.

 

[DISNEYSQUIRRELS]

Not sure if this has been brought up but isn't it illegal to throw your trash in someone's bin if they are paying for private collection? I believe that would be considered "theft of service."

You really think ripping up someone's flowers is the same as putting a tiny bag of trash in their trash can as it waits to be picked up?

My sneaky neighbor did this for some time. I would leave for work & she would trot over & add her bags to my barrel. I PAY for my trash service & they alerted me when they noticed an increase in what was normally out, so I watched one day. It was weird, awkward & uncomfortable to have to go to her & ask her to stop. I think this weekend I will rake up all the leaves in my yard & then dump them in my neighbor's yard & see if they mind. It's just nature, so it should be fine.

 

[Hikergirl]

LMAO didn’t you take part in my noisy dog thread over the summer?

Yes I did, and my point is we all have our issues with neighbors and boundaries. Yours may be different than mine, but neither are wrong to have KWIM.

 

[kimblebee]

Yes I did, and my point is we all have our issues with neighbors and boundaries. Yours may be different than mine, but neither are wrong to have KWIM.

I agree, one persons big deal may be nothing to the next person.

 

[hereyago]

Where I used to live, we didn't pay for trash pick up and once it was on the street,, it became fair game.

Where I live now, we pay for trash pick up or hail it to dump ourselves.

I'd honestly wouldn't care as long it wasn't over flowing or something hazardous etc.

Now, if someone came on to my property before I put the trash out and I could see where it came from I would dump it back on their yard.

 

[DISNEYSQUIRRELS]

Where I used to live, we didn't pay for trash pick up and once it was on the street,, it became fair game.

Where I live now, we pay for trash pick up or hail it to dump ourselves.

I'd honestly wouldn't care as long it wasn't over flowing or something hazardous etc.

Now, if someone came on to my property before I put the trash out and I could see where it came from I would dump it back on their yard.

Who wants to open the bag to find out if it something hazardous, illegal, etc?
This is clearly a polarizing topic. I will say this about ALL of us, we found our way here over our love/interest in Disney, so we all have that in common!

 

[MIGrandma]

I agree, one persons big deal may be nothing to the next person.

So why didn't you just say that instead of saying so many people have sticks up their butts just because someone using YOUR trash can wouldn't bother YOU.

Personally I can't imagine using someone else's trash can without asking first, and if we lived in an area where everyone's trash cans were together then yes, it would bother me if someone used ours as well without bothering to ask first if it was okay. I would be more than happy to let them put their trash in my can, providing they asked first and if we didn't have more trash of our own we wanted to put in it.

 

[kimblebee]

So why didn't you just say that instead of saying so many people have sticks up their butts just because someone using YOUR trash can wouldn't bother YOU.

Personally I can't imagine using someone else's trash can without asking first, and if we lived in an area where everyone's trash cans were together then yes, it would bother me if someone used ours as well without bothering to ask first if it was okay. I would be more than happy to let them put their trash in my can, providing they asked first and if we didn't have more trash of our own we wanted to put in it.

Because I do still think some people need to get the stick out. All I said is that issues affect people differently, not that I agree with this specific issue.

 

[Hikergirl]

Because I do still think some people need to get the stick out. All I said is that issues affect people differently, not that I agree with this specific issue.

Unfortunately I'm dealing with a neighbor who doesn't respect other people's property. DH and I have let things go, many of our upstate neighbors seem to have an issue with respect and we thought hey no harm no foul. They can come and go through our "yard" and hike through our woods, ride their ATVs, bikes, walk their dogs, etc, anything but hunt basically. We never gave permission but we never confronted the people either. (We have cameras so we know who it is).
That was until this particular neighbor decided that since he couldn't use our property the way he wanted he would vandalize it (with a firearm). So after a year of seeing people coming and going on our property we decided to press charges against this guy. Now I don't want anyone there, at all.
Luckily this is not property where I live, but it is property where I frequent 6 months out of the year with my kids and friends and their kids, and now I have to worry that this neighbor who apparently is known to have issues respecting another person's property as well will retaliate in some way.
So again, while you may find someone putting a garbage bag in your garbage no big deal, I look at it much differently. I look at it as a general attitude that a person has. IMO them putting garbage in someone elses can isn't the only way they feel it is OK to disrespect boundaries. (No I'm not saying it will lead to them committing a crime, but IMO the lack of respect of those who do is the same lack of respect that the trespasser/vandalizer has). So, believe me when I say I would love to not be dealing with all of this and take that stick out