Is It That Hard To Ask? A Pregnant Vent ;)

[castleview]

Truer words have never been 'sponken'!

I remember leaving the mall when my daughter was about 8 weeks old. Rain had started pouring out of nowhere and I was covering up the stroller to keep her dry. A gentleman who was in his early 50s held the door for me and said "Keep that baby dry". I said "I know…forget about me…". He smirked and said "Yup, rest of your life!"

 

[LadyLvsTramp]

Oh! the hormones I remember being totally unreasonable during this time and I hope this gets better for you be gentle on yourself, remember this too shall pass...and just think how much you are going to enjoy sharing everything Disney with that little one......

 

[Liberty Belle]

All pregnancies are different and all women handle them differently.

I'm not a "walk it off" type of person. I tend to be more doting.

Anyway, yeah, pregnancy in itself is not an illness. And I'd guess almost all pregnancies bring at least some discomfort to the mother. Others though do bring serious illnesses with them. So I have sympathy for all pregnant moms.

I was sick. I dare anyone to say I was "only pregnant." And I didn't even have any of the serious, life threatening illnesses that can come with pregnancy. Throwing up over twenty times a day for 6+ months though (and having to be rehydrated at the hospital three times) is sick. I don't care how you look at it. It was miserable and most people did treat me differently. My co-workers were kinder and helped me more, as did my family members.

And that's not even mentioning the gallbladder crap I had, which turned into a life-threatening illness.

Even strangers were kind when they saw me sick, or pass out, at the store.

I'm thankful for that. In the midst of it all, if someone would have told me to "knock it off, you're just pregnant," I think I would have decked them.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

You ladies are cracking me up! I'm not a Pregzilla. I've always been an easy-going non-complainer by nature. I guess I keep bothering my grandmother with the "look at me, I'm pregnant" thing because although she's thrilled to pieces for me, she takes it so, well, like it's been there done that as opposed to my mom who already wants to shop for my maternity clothes when my belly is still flat. Even I'm not that bad! Maybe because I really really wanted to be pregnant and it happened so fast I've been acting like I'm the only pregnant lady in the world and wanting my 15 minutes of fame. I think I have 3 minutes left!

And to the lady who asked about the pregnancy gift my husband gave me, it's a Chamilia starter bracelet with 3 charms, our birthstones.

Now I have to be an average Jane and get to work!

 

[Liberty Belle]

You ladies are cracking me up! I'm not a Pregzilla. I've always been an easy-going non-complainer by nature. I guess I keep bothering my grandmother with the "look at me, I'm pregnant" thing because although she's thrilled to pieces for me, she takes it so, well, like it's been there done that as opposed to my mom who already wants to shop for my maternity clothes when my belly is still flat. Even I'm not that bad! Maybe because I really really wanted to be pregnant and it happened so fast I've been acting like I'm the only pregnant lady in the world and wanting my 15 minutes of fame. I think I have 3 minutes left!

And to the lady who asked about the pregnancy gift my husband gave me, it's a Chamilia starter bracelet with 3 charms, our birthstones.
Now I have to be an average Jane and get to work!

Nice thought, but how do you know what the baby's birthstone will be yet? I guess if it's different, you could always get another one later.

 

[sbsteel]

That sound? Is the sound of a snowflake somewhere softly falling.

Hers, not mine. While I think my kid rocks, I am very well aware he's just another baby to everyone else and would expect nothing more.

 

[SaraJayne]

Hmmmm....came from my doctor. I guess she was an old wife.

If it was true, every single woman that has a healthy baby/babies would have morning sickness.

They don't.

 

[snowywhite89]

Then I guess I shouldn't tell about the pregnancy gift my husband gave me before he left.

I thought the pregnancy was the gift he gave you before he left.

 

[robinb]

Oh God.
Listen. You have about 8 months left of being able to go out and do things without having to worry about whether or not the diaper bag is packed.

If you want my "pregnancy support" this is my advice. Skip the meeting at the hospital where you all sit around and obsess over something that women's bodies by and large handle naturally with only a little difficulty and go see a movie.

I see nothing wrong with the OP and Mrs. Darcy getting involved in a pregnancy support group. Being pregnant for the first time is exciting and scary at the same time and being with other people who are experiencing the same thing is a real blessing. Why would you care is she joined a pregnancy group? Belittling that kind of support makes you look mean-spirited.

I would recommend that that pregnant ladies on the thread find a group of other women who are are due the same month as you. I was part of a mailing list instead of an open forum like this one so there was a little more privacy involved.

 

[phorsenuf]

And to the lady who asked about the pregnancy gift my husband gave me, it's a Chamilia starter bracelet with 3 charms, our birthstones.

Hope he got it right with the new Zodiac signs and all.

So, mom of 4 checking in. I don't have one pregnancy tiara let alone 4!

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Nice thought, but how do you know what the baby's birthstone will be yet? I guess if it's different, you could always get another one later.

Well, if all goes on schedule, I'm due in mid September, so he bought a sapphire.

Hers, not mine. While I think my kid rocks, I am very well aware he's just another baby to everyone else and would expect nothing more.

Aw c'mon, I don't think and I won't think my baby is more than just another baby to everyone else. I love children, I work with them 5 days a week, little ones, and I love them all.

And to the nice poster who suggested a pregnancy thread, I looked for one but couldn't find any.

I'll try to keep my pregnancy topics down to a bare minimum, don't worry. I see how it can annoy some people.

 

[MariDisney]

Nice thought, but how do you know what the baby's birthstone will be yet? I guess if it's different, you could always get another one later.

I was just about to post the same thing. Babies come early and they come late (my DD was due Nov. 8th and came Oct. 19th...my sister's kids were each born in the month before their due dates). And, very very sad to say (because I've been there) sometimes you think they're coming and they don't come at all. I wish nothing but the most healthy pregnancy and babies for all of the pregnant ladies on this thread. But, I do want to caution against buying too many things too early on like birthstone items. I had one miscarriage at 13 weeks. We had already had ultrasounds seeing the heartbeat, etc. Now, God forbid a million times that it happen to anyone here. But, it does happen. I don't know what I would have done if I already had birthstone items.

I hope this post isn't offensive. I don't mean it to be. I just want to share my experience and remind ladies to be aware that early on things sometimes don't work out.

 

[robinb]

And to the nice poster who suggested a pregnancy thread, I looked for one but couldn't find any.

I'll try to keep my pregnancy topics down to a bare minimum, don't worry. I see how it can annoy some people.

You need to look on pregnancy or child related websites. The one I belonged to was through Pregnancy Today 12 years ago. Just like Disney bonds you to the people here, being pregnant and due in September will bond you to the people there. Plus, you can talk about pregnancy topics to your heart's content!

 

[castleview]

While the pregnancy groups and forums sound nice and bonding, am I the only one who gets a little paranoid here regarding too many strangers knowing I'm pregnant? Don't get me wrong, I was proud and pregnant but a little reserved also. Or maybe I just am freaked out because I was pregnant when that woman in Missouri was killed and her baby stolen from her body.

Didn't mean to crush anyone's good moods or advance pregnancy hormones, just sayin'.

 

[luvmy3]

While the pregnancy groups and forums sound nice and bonding, am I the only one who gets a little paranoid here regarding too many strangers knowing I'm pregnant? Don't get me wrong, I was proud and pregnant but a little reserved also. Or maybe I just am freaked out because I was pregnant when that woman in Missouri was killed and her baby stolen from her body.

Didn't mean to crush anyone's good moods or advance pregnancy hormones, just sayin'.

I never got paranoid, I mean I was out and about in public and working while I was pregnant, you can't make it more known to strangers than that

 

[sbsteel]

There's a thread here on the Community Board dedicated to moms-to-be.

Also, babycenter . com has a huge following and there's a board dedicated to each due date month. Go check out the August or September 2011 board (I'm not sure what month you're due), most all will be going through the same things you are. I still belong to my due date (now birth) board and while there can be drama, it's a wealth of support and knowledge.

 

[robinb]

While the pregnancy groups and forums sound nice and bonding, am I the only one who gets a little paranoid here regarding too many strangers knowing I'm pregnant? Don't get me wrong, I was proud and pregnant but a little reserved also. Or maybe I just am freaked out because I was pregnant when that woman in Missouri was killed and her baby stolen from her body.

Didn't mean to crush anyone's good moods or advance pregnancy hormones, just sayin'.

That probably stuck with you because you were pregnant when it happened {{hugs}}. I think that the odds of that happening to someone on a message board is very, very low.

 

[fairestoneofall]

I'm pregnant. I'm due in August. I feel like hell. I'm exhausted, I'm sick, on Zofran, and I'm in a crappy mood (among other things). I have a preschooler to take care of, and my husband works crazy hours at the moment. He's hardly ever home.

He helped me clean the house this weekend. I make grocery lists and he does the shopping. I manage to feed my kid and let the dogs out to pee a few times a day. I also manage to make the beds and keep us in underwear.

My family lives hours away and our friends have jobs and kids and lives of their own.

You'll live. I promise.

i so agree with all of this!

isn't it nice that it gets better? i'm pregnant with my third (due in june). the nausea and exhaustion was SO much worse with this one. plus, i'm a work-at-home mom (photographer) and had my busiest season during the first trimester. and i have two kids who need me. you know what. i sucked it up and muddled through, like so many of us do. it's life.

thankfully, i'm passed most of that. i still have nauseous moments (i get car sick--what is THAT about?) and bouts of being really tired. but i'm not a princess. i don't need to be treated as one. we've had some nights where DH picked up food on his way home because the thought of cooking... just no.

but now. i think i'm going to borrow on of DD's tiaras.

 

[castleview]

I never got paranoid, I mean I was out and about in public and working while I was pregnant, you can't make it more known to strangers than that

That's one thing. But I guess it depends on how much personal information is revealed on message board.

 

[Acklander]

While the pregnancy groups and forums sound nice and bonding, am I the only one who gets a little paranoid here regarding too many strangers knowing I'm pregnant? Don't get me wrong, I was proud and pregnant but a little reserved also. Or maybe I just am freaked out because I was pregnant when that woman in Missouri was killed and her baby stolen from her body.

Didn't mean to crush anyone's good moods or advance pregnancy hormones, just sayin'.

I belonged to a pregnancy support group while pg with DS11. We were the Dec. moms. It was nice to hear what others were going thru at that exact moment to know that everything I was feeling was normal. Around 8 months we had a cyber shower (names drawn and baby gift sent - we all opened them at the same time), and 11 years after giving birth, we still keep in contact on face book.