Is It That Hard To Ask? A Pregnant Vent ;)

[JOCAmom]

Not be treated like a queen, but maybe like someone who isn't feeling too well? I know I don't want to be treated like a queen, but like a princess would be good!

My grandmother keeps telling me "you're just pregnant" like it's the same thing as having a hangnail. It hurts my feelings, although she means no harm. Maybe by my next pregnancy (God willing) pregnancy won't be such a big deal anymore.

Who exactly are you giving birth to that you should be treated like a princess?

When I pregnant with each of our three children, I didn't get a tiara or anybody fawning over me. I was having my husband's child which was the most special thing to us. But other people, I was just pregnant. Something thousands upon thousands of other women have done before me.

Why do you think you should be treated as a princess?

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I don't actually feel like I should be treated like a princess, I just feel like one now that I'm pregnant. As for my grandmother, I guess she's getting tired of me calling to whine about every little thing, like I can't stand the smell of meat cooking, I have no appetite except for ice cream and whipped cream, I'm nauseous every day, I ask a million questions etc. My mom's more "sympathetic" but I think it's because I'm an only child and she still sees me as her little girl, as does my dad.

Trust me, I'll get over the princess thing, especially with all the responses directed at me here.

 

[mtblujeans]

 

[NHdisneylover]

Not be treated like a queen, but maybe like someone who isn't feeling too well? I know I don't want to be treated like a queen, but like a princess would be good!

My grandmother keeps telling me "you're just pregnant" like it's the same thing as having a hangnail. It hurts my feelings, although she means no harm. Maybe by my next pregnancy (God willing) pregnancy won't be such a big deal anymore.

Seriously?
I am thrilled for you that you got pregnant right away. That is wonderful. I am happy for you that you are expecting a much wanted little one. But, honestly, you have only known for what? 2-3 weeks that you are pregnant and in that short time you have made such a fuss about yourself in her presence that your grandmother feels the need to "keep" reminding you that you are only pregnant!?!?

The more you make a fuss over yourself the less everyone else wants to and the less they enjoy your company (which may lead to them avoiding you). There is nothing special and amazing about YOU being pregnant to anyone but you and your husband. That is just the way the world works.


I am trying to imagine a world in which all pregnant women are treated like princesses. I see a lot of pregnant women working and going about their lives every day. If they all expected royal treatment it would seriously disrupt a lot of basic transactions. I was behind one such woman in line at the airport (a pregnant woman who thought the world should treat her differently). She was loud and obnoxious while waiting to check her bag with Southwest ("I should be allowed pre boarding since i am pregnant--no one at Southwest cares about my condition"), annoying and argumentative about security (apparently pregnant women should not have to go through the metal detector or take off their shoes and, being pregnant, she just might not survive the flight if they toss her too large "liquid" yogurt) and then just didn't shush up about the plight of being pregnant for the hour at the gate. I travel often and she was one of the most irritating people I have ever flown with. There were LOTS of rolled eyes and annoyed passengers and crew. People who may have been inclined to help her were so turned off by her fussing that everyone left her as much alone as possible. Really, you seem like a nice girl--do not be that person.

 

[drag n' fly]

Don't worry as soon as that baby comes your 15 minutes will be up

 

[mtblujeans]

That's an old wives tale.

Hmmmm....came from my doctor. I guess she was an old wife.

 

[Hannathy]

I hope Grandma's a drinking woman cause she is going to need it!!

It's gonna be a loooong 9 months.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Your grandmother sounds like a woman with good sense. I guess there's hope for you after all.

Maybe by the time I'm her age and have her wisdom!



As for my grandmother not knowing what to say, maybe.
My dad is an MD and he wants me to join a pregnancy support group held at the hospital where he works. It's mostly first-time mothers and guided by a OB nurse. But I don't know it at this stage in my pregnancy if I'm ready to hear about every one else's concerns and worries...too scary for me because it might make me worry more. But in a way it does seem like a good idea. After my first OB exam, I'll probably feel more comfortable about joining the group.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I hope Grandma's a drinking woman cause she is going to need it!!

It's gonna be a loooong 9 months.

OMG that's not nice! I don't think I'm THAT bad!

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Hmmmm....came from my doctor. I guess she was an old wife.

My dad says nausea is caused by pregnancy hormone and some women are more sensitive to the changes than others. So wouldn't nausea mean the pregnancy hormones are kicking in and that's a good sign??

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

I wish I'd have known they were giving these out before I decided to stop procreating!

Then I guess I shouldn't tell about the pregnancy gift my husband gave me before he left.

 

[chloelovesdisney]

My dad says nausea is caused by pregnancy hormone and some women are more sensitive to the changes than others. So wouldn't nausea mean the pregnancy hormones are kicking in and that's a good sign??

Yes it's a sign that the pregnancy hormones are present but plenty of women have very healthy pregnancies with minimal or no nausea at all. It's indicative of pregnany, not the health of the baby.

I think it's something nice to say to women who are having morning sickness (that it's a good sign) much like people tell brides rain on your wedding day is good luck.

 

[Mrs. Darcy]

Yes it's a sign that the pregnancy hormones are present but plenty of women have very healthy pregnancies with minimal or no nausea at all. It's indicative of pregnany, not the health of the baby.

I think it's something nice to say to women who are having morning sickness (that it's a good sign) much like people tell brides rain on your wedding day is good luck.

I agree with everything you said!

 

[honugirl]

Not be treated like a queen, but maybe like someone who isn't feeling too well? I know I don't want to be treated like a queen, but like a princess would be good!

My grandmother keeps telling me "you're just pregnant" like it's the same thing as having a hangnail. It hurts my feelings, although she means no harm. Maybe by my next pregnancy (God willing) pregnancy won't be such a big deal anymore.

OMG, I was ROFL at this. I hate to tell you this, but even those of us who are sick very rarely get treated like a princess. We still have to work, pay bills, cook, do housework, go to school, etc. Feel fortunate that as bad as you feel, in 9 months it'll be over and you get to move on, not everyone is so lucky.

 

[NMAmy]

it never occurred to me that having an egg implant on my uterus made me royalty.

I was cheated out of my pregnancy tiara!

Don't worry as soon as that baby comes your 15 minutes will be up

Amen! That's when you walk into a room and you have become that woman who pushes the stroller.

I guess if you can get people to treat you like a princess when you're pregnant, then you should go for it. Because soon an extremely demanding tyrant will be treating you like his/her 24/7 servant girl and will expect you to cater to his/her every whim.

Does it seem to anyone else that the whole "It's My Day" Bridezilla thing has kind of morphed into the "It's My 9 Months" Mom-to-Be-zilla?

 

[NHdisneylover]

Amen! That's when you walk into a room and you have become that woman who pushes the stroller.

I guess if you can get people to treat you like a princess when you're pregnant, then you should go for it. Because soon an extremely demanding tyrant will be treating you like his/her 24/7 servant girl and will expect you to cater to his/her every whim.

Does it seem to anyone else that the whole "It's My Day" Bridezilla thing has kind of morphed into the "It's My 9 Months" Mom-to-Be-zilla?

YES!
HOnestly, I didn't even expect special treatment from my husband--just that he would help me if I really needed it and take care of things like his on dinner if he had to. I felt badly that I had to pawn of cleaning the cat box on him through to pregnancies (the cat came with me and he never liked cats)--but he never complained. He is a wonderful man who loves me very much and we both love our children very much, but neither of us ever thought to think of my pregnancies as some sort of extravanza necessitating offers of help, gifts, compliments, etc and needing to be spoken of all the time. Maybe we are just the weird ones (wouldn't be the first time).

 

[DeluxePrincess]

Then I guess I shouldn't tell about the pregnancy gift my husband gave me before he left.

Oh do tell! Throne? Personal masseuse? Live in man feeding you grapes?

 

[RitaE]

Maybe by the time I'm her age and have her wisdom!
As for my grandmother not knowing what to say, maybe.
My dad is an MD and he wants me to join a pregnancy support group held at the hospital where he works. It's mostly first-time mothers and guided by a OB nurse. But I don't know it at this stage in my pregnancy if I'm ready to hear about every one else's concerns and worries...too scary for me because it might make me worry more. But in a way it does seem like a good idea. After my first OB exam, I'll probably feel more comfortable about joining the group.

Oh God.
Listen. You have about 8 months left of being able to go out and do things without having to worry about whether or not the diaper bag is packed.

If you want my "pregnancy support" this is my advice. Skip the meeting at the hospital where you all sit around and obsess over something that women's bodies by and large handle naturally with only a little difficulty and go see a movie.

 

[castleview]

Oh God.
Listen. You have about 8 months left of being able to go out and do things without having to worry about whether or not the diaper bag is packed.

If you want my "pregnancy support" this is my advice. Skip the meeting at the hospital where you all sit around and obsess over something that women's bodies by and large handle naturally with only a little difficulty and go see a movie.

Absolutely. Enjoy these last eight months of just the two of you. And if he's away, enjoy just you. If you're wondering if what you're feeling is normal or not, read the Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy (read it anyway - What to Expect is good, but GG is just hysterical.)

 

[LaurenLC]

Don't worry as soon as that baby comes your 15 minutes will be up

Truer words have never been 'sponken'!