Is it mean to go without our kiddos???

[Jenn1116]

Kaoden39, just wanted to say HI Neighbor! LOL

I just noticed this on another thread, and posted that I live in Fairfield. Now there's another one!!!

 

[kaoden39]

Kaoden39, just wanted to say HI Neighbor! LOL

I understand what everyone is saying. We do have AP's so we can go a lot if we choose. In fact we may go twice this month. We don't know yet but we might......lol We do live 6 hrs away so it is a drive but for us it's worth it. We are going to take the girls with us this weekend, they want to go so we are all going! YAY!!!

Hi Neighbor!

I always think about getting AP's but I am afraid that once I buy them we won't go again. That is how my luck goes.

Michele

 

[kaoden39]

so glad you are here with us today !

Thank you so much. Thank God.

Michele

 

[kaoden39]

I just noticed this on another thread, and posted that I live in Fairfield. Now there's another one!!!

Wow another person from the area. What a small world. "It's a Small world after all. It's a Small World after all." This is really neat and funny.

Michele

 

[pixiewings71]

I just noticed this on another thread, and posted that I live in Fairfield. Now there's another one!!!

Too funny!!!! I haven't seen anyone closer than Sac or the bay area until this thread! LOL I'm happy to see that there are at least 3 of us here! LOL

RE AP's, we didn't think we would use them either.....but it's the exact opposite! We do more because all we have to pay for is gas, food, and a hotel room. LOL We average once a month with these AP's!

 

[daisy_77]

We have gone to WDW w/o DD before. She was only 1 and had no idea what she was missing. In 2006, I went to WDW on a ladies-only trip and had fun, but would have had more fun if I had left my guilt at home. I felt bad the whole trip and even shed a few tears. WDW is very far and we can afford to go every other year...so no more WDW without DD. It is our family vacation place. DLR, on the other hand, is somewhere I could go without DD and be fine with it. It is closer than WDW and more accessible. I will miss her tremendously and will probably buy her lots of goodies. Actually, I am going without her on June 6-8 and plan on spoiling her with princess stuff that I get her while I am there.

Yes, I am quoting myself!

I decided to take my DD after all...yep, I just can't do it! Although, I can't do it....I do think taking a trip without the kids is a good thing every once in awhile.

 

[mommy2allyandaveri]

I'm in Sac, not too far away

 

[DevilDuckie]

Nope! We've done it twice. Once for our honeymoon and once for an adult only weekend. People kept asking if we were taking the Boy to DL with us when we got married... um... no. Honeymoon. No children.

It is a different sort of fun and now that he's older we'll likely not do it again, but we thoroughly enjoyed our trips both times.

 

[kaoden39]

I'm in Sac, not too far away

Hi neighbor! Sacramento's not that far.

Michele

 

[bouncy54]

Our kids are all grown up but DH and I still can't seem to unload the guilt and go without them!

 

[plain_jane_246]

Just go and enjoy!

 

[Grumpy Pete]

Our kids are all grown up but DH and I still can't seem to unload the guilt and go without them!

Sounds like you need to get in a 12 step program It is a wonderful thing to go with just you & your sweet heart. We've done it twice and it was so much fun. Now that the kids are mostly gone it's alot easier to do.

 

[mobopolo]

I think Walt himself would be shocked and disappointed. I thought Walt Disney dreamed up the Disney park because he wanted a place that his employee's and their families could spend time together (wikipidie). I guess you got to ask yourself why you love it so much. Was it because of the memories you made there with your family? What would you have thought, if your parents did this to you??? Just for a moment imagine your 7 or 8 and you parents just told you that they are going to Disney without you. How would you feel if someone said this to you?? "We are going and you're not". I truly think Walt would be sad by this... I can think of a lot of places that my husband and I could spend "couple" time together and Disney would not make the list and I LOVE Disney! But I love it for what it is based on, the Family. I brought this up to my parents and my Dad laughed and said "I hope they know that one day those same children will be picking out their Rest Home.....Remember that time Mom & Dad went to Disney without us! It's pay back time!!" I have to be honest, the first time I saw a TR on this I was shocked! My Mom just thought it was plan cruel and my husband who is not that crazy about Disney agreed. He said the thought had never crossed his mind. Going to the "Happiest Place on Earth, where Dreams Come True" ...without the kids??? Where's the magic the sense of wonder? Who would have thought?? Go to Hawaii, it's great any time of the year without the kids!

 

[Babystitch]

Err..I disagree, and think that's way too harsh . The entire Disney philosophy is based off of an open minded, tolerant attitude. If they want to go without the kids, I think Walt would lean toward a more understanding viewpoint. That's something I love about Disney.

First of all, no, I don't think you should feel guilty at all. Why do I feel this way? Because I grew up in San Diego (I'm 24) and my parents went to Disneyland without me when I was a kid, several times. And I'm fine with that. At the time, I didn't know exactly where they went..I did know that I got to go on some fun stays with my grandma, which, in retrospect now that she's no longer with us, are memories that I cherish. When they told me about it when I was a teenager, I laughed and thought it was great. I love my parents. They DESERVED that time together, in a fun place, relaxing, and doing what THEY wanted to do. After carting me all over the theme park and doing everything they could to make me happy time and time again..hats off to them for taking time for themselves. If a child holds a grudge over something like that when they are old enough to understand adult relationships (I mean teens or older) then I think that they are the ones being selfish.

My husband and I don't have children right now. I am very excited about taking my children to Disneyland someday. But I still plan on taking DL trips with my husband without my kids sometime. And I won't feel guilty about it.

Also-living in southern CA, there is no reason not to go to Disneyland for kicks as an adult w/o kids. There are plenty of fun things to do that don't revolve around having a child there. Other suggestions, like Vegas for example, get old and expensive fast!


So, from the standpoint of a child who's parents went to Disneyland without her, Go Have Fun!!

 

[kaoden39]

Thank you I couldn't have said it better myself. And I do believe that Disneyland is for children of all ages. My DH and I will be taking a trip without our children ages 12-15 in September.

Michele

 

[Judy from Boise]

My DH and i dated throughout all of the So cal theme parks, so I have lots of happy memories sans kids. The first time i rode Space Mountain was on Grad night 1978....defiantly no kids . Certainly did lots of church youth group trips growing up......so I guess many of us don't see it exclusively for families.

Of course i will admit that there is a special magic of going with your children.....it just isn't the only magic.

 

[mo3bys]

We are officially going on out 12th wedding anniversary in a few weeks with out our boys. Plane tickets are purchased We have deliberated back and forth many times about my boys and whether to take them or not. We were just there this past December for a whole week with our boys. The only reason we are going back is we are getting our annual passes with credit from our 8 day park hoppers. Otherwise my husband and I prob wouldn't of thought of going there for our anniversary. Our 6 and 7 year old are not mad or upset with us all all......trust me they would let us know if they were Actually I just asked my 7 year old why he was't mad that we were going and he replied to me, "Mom were not mad because we know you have never went there with just dad". All they want is for us to bring them back a star wars light sabor they saw last December that they really want. We have never been to Disneyland by ourselves or able to ride rides together and I think it will be fun. Yes I am going to miss my kids like crazy. But I know they will be ok with their grandparents. They will also be in school so they will be busy. We have set our minds to have a good time. We are excited to be able to sleep in (I don't think I have slept in for over 8 years now) We can go and do what we want and eat what we want and not have to worry if the place we eat at serves pb&j We are both actually getting excited. We are even going to take a tour bus to Universal one day. My husband has never been there. He is excited about that. And yes there are other places that we can go like Hawaii, my husband wants to go there too..But this year we want to go to disneyland. We would love to go to Vegas too but I have asthma really bad and all the smoke would kill me. That is why we are going to Disneyland. We want to have a magical anniversary. Yes I will miss my kids and still feel guilty because that is just who I am---I always put my kids first. But my husband and I need some time to ourselves. We are going to enjoy ourselves and have a great time We are even taking our boys back there in October before our passes expire this year. So my advise to anyone and my advise to myself is to have fun and enjoy yourself. And I also believe that Walt Disney made Disneyland for Children of all ages.
"To all that come to this happy place: welcome. Disneyland is your land."—Walt Disney

 

[mo3bys]

Of course i will admit that there is a special magic of going with your children.....it just isn't the only magic.

I too believe that there is nothing like seeing Disneyland thru my boys eyes. It is one of the most magical things ever. That is the one thing we will miss on our trip. But we will have our special magical moments too

Thanks Judy Very true

 

[mommaU4]

I love going with my kids!!

And I love going without them.

The sort of things DH and I do when we are there alone, is completely different then what we do when we are all there as a family. Can't compare the two AT ALL.

Both types of trips make me very happy, and form wonderful memories for me to look back on.

 

[pixiewings71]

I think Walt himself would be shocked and disappointed. I thought Walt Disney dreamed up the Disney park because he wanted a place that his employee's and their families could spend time together (wikipidie). I guess you got to ask yourself why you love it so much. Was it because of the memories you made there with your family? What would you have thought, if your parents did this to you??? Just for a moment imagine your 7 or 8 and you parents just told you that they are going to Disney without you. How would you feel if someone said this to you?? "We are going and you're not". I truly think Walt would be sad by this... I can think of a lot of places that my husband and I could spend "couple" time together and Disney would not make the list and I LOVE Disney! But I love it for what it is based on, the Family. I brought this up to my parents and my Dad laughed and said "I hope they know that one day those same children will be picking out their Rest Home.....Remember that time Mom & Dad went to Disney without us! It's pay back time!!" I have to be honest, the first time I saw a TR on this I was shocked! My Mom just thought it was plan cruel and my husband who is not that crazy about Disney agreed. He said the thought had never crossed his mind. Going to the "Happiest Place on Earth, where Dreams Come True" ...without the kids??? Where's the magic the sense of wonder? Who would have thought?? Go to Hawaii, it's great any time of the year without the kids!

Ummm, my parents went wherever they wanted on vacation and NEVER took us kids, did I resent them? NO, we understood that they needed a break too. They both worked extremely hard (still do actually) and only vacationed every 3-5 yrs. Their vacations we spent with Aunts, Uncles, Grandparents and we loved it. We asked our kids last weekend, "do you guys want to go with us or stay here?" It took them about an hour to decide and even then I could tell they weren't sure if they wanted to go or not. We are all really glad they did go, we had an amazing time!! BUT that won't stop us from not taking them if we want a big kids trip! Just because YOU don't think it's right doesn't mean that's the case for my family. We've only been once without them but they have suggested we go a few times alone, it's been their idea!! Why would they resent our frequent trips? Maybe my case is different than YOURS because we have AP's and go about once a month, my kids have no shortage of Disney in their lives right now, DL is our Happy Place, with or without the kids we love it! Call me selfish but I'm thinking ahead to our anniversary and hoping we can go alone and stay at the GCH!! Adults need alone time too, and if DL is where they chose to spend it's their choice to make. Walt wanted someplace for families to go yes, but I doubt he would begrudge us out love of his park, I'm sure he would be happy to know so many adults love it too!