DisneyPhD said:
See it gave us the same score, and I don't consider ourselves upper middle class. Middle class yes, we live in an area that has a mix of middle class (some have less then us, many A LOT more.) I guess I look at us as money conscious, always trying to save more. Of course this is based on one income, if I was working instead of SAHM our income would be higher, but I don't know if our score would be. For overall wealth they have 100,000 to 500,000 all the same. I see a big difference in that alone.
I will say that we I am very happy and thankful for what we have and want to save to be sure we can continue even with unforeseen events.
There was an interesting article in one of the personal finance magazines a few years ago about people whom the government considered "affluent". The definition of affluent was based entirely on income... and was someplace just over $100k I think. The gist of the income was that most people who were considered "affluent" only considered themselves to be middle-class. They worried about paying their bills, shopped at Costco, and took budget vacations. Basically, an income of $100,000 or a net worth of $1,000,000 isn't what it used to be.
I would consider DH and I to be Upper Middle Class for the following reasons: Both DH and I have BS's and DH has an MS. DH works full-time, but I am able to be a SAHM. We drive older cars, but our only debt is our mortgage. We are frugal with our spending, but consistently put money in retirement and college savings accounts. We have sufficient insurance to cover health, life, disability, cars, etc...
I would say that many of my family members are Middle Class: They have had some college. They feel that both spouses HAVE to work. They put money away in retirment accounts, but may have to work past 65 to assure a more comfortable retirement. They owe money on their home, one or more cars, and/or have some credit card debt. They may not have adequate insurance.
We live in on the wrong side of the tracks (houses are older and not "on the water") in an affluent area. Many residents here appear to be what you might more typically consider to be Upper Middle Class: they live in McMansions on or near the lake, own a boat, vacation in the Hamptons, have someone to clean their house and/or take care of the lawn, drive new luxury automobiles, etc... However, as I remind DH, "Yes, some of those folks are doing better than us financially. And in many cases, the husband is commuting 90 minutes each way to work in Manhattan. But a lot of those folks could be up to their eyeballs in debt and/or have no retirement funds and college funds. You can't just tell from what kind of car a person drives or what house they live in."
IMO, you're doing better than most people on this planet if have a roof over your head, food in your stomach, can afford it if a family member becomes ill, and don't lose sleep worrying over how you're going to pay bills.
Like you, I feel fortunate and thankful for what DH and I have. Yes, our hard work and frugality have paid off in a financial way, but I feel more fortunate about the FREEDOM that we have; the freedom that DH was able to quit his last job and be without work for 6 months while he found a position that suited him, the freedom to take the kids to the doctor any time their asthma kicks up, and the freedom to give our children opportunities (like sports lessons) that our parents couldn't afford for DH and I.