Pea-n-Me
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I would like to hear the bio father's version of events.I'm looking for a news story or something that backs up these statements. Anyone found anything yet?
I would like to hear the bio father's version of events.I'm looking for a news story or something that backs up these statements. Anyone found anything yet?
The adoptive family hasn't spoken out since the gag order.
The fact that that baby was legally adopted into a loving home and was ONLY returned because someone had some American Indian blood in their parent line is a travesty of justice.
The father provided no support to the bio mother. He was in the Military, he could have married his "fiancee" ( he states they were engaged, she says he'd left her and he DID sign a document giving up parental rights "so he wouldn't have to pay child support ".) He could have married her, and given his wife and daughter insurance instead of welfare. He could have made sure his daughter had a box of pampers. But, suddenly 4 months and an established family later, he changes his mind.
It's a bunch of crap.
I hope the biological father wins, if they had done the right thing when his daughter was 4 months there would have been no trauma for the child. By dragging it out the adoptive parents have been the cause of the trauma. For the sake of the child parent bond they shouldn't see her again. It is going to sound cruel but if you find you are unable to have a child you should only be allowed to adopt if BOTH parents agree if one changes his or her mind and closes to raise the child that is how it should be.
I agree with all of this. Sad for the adoptive parents, yes. But the father filed when the baby was 4 months old - that (to me) isn't too long to realize you want to raise your own flesh and blood. The SC law that states a man gives up those rights by not supporting the pregnant mother are ridiculous IMO. I would also like to hear more of the father's side of the story, but I think it was a good thing that he requested a gag order - look at the publicity the adoptive parents/birth mother were garnering. How can the publicity be good for the little girl?
I'm not taking sides on this one because there isn't enough information. However, I can not give the father a pass on your comment. The time to decide if you want to raise your own flesh and blood is when you find out you fathered a child. He had 9 months of pregnancy to make that decision but he needed an additional 4 months after birth, so 13 months to decide if he wanted a child?? Should we give him another 13 months of time with Veronica before he decides if he wants to keep her permanently? I have zero sympathy or respect for him if he couldn't man up at the right time. That doesn't mean I don't support him if he was duped into signing termination papers. If so, he should receive full custody. He had a chance to prevent this from happening in the first place by telling his pregnant fiancee that he didn't want to be with her for the rest of his life but he wanted custody of their child.
I'm not taking sides on this one because there isn't enough information. However, I can not give the father a pass on your comment. The time to decide if you want to raise your own flesh and blood is when you find out you fathered a child. He had 9 months of pregnancy to make that decision but he needed an additional 4 months after birth, so 13 months to decide if he wanted a child?? Should we give him another 13 months of time with Veronica before he decides if he wants to keep her permanently? I have zero sympathy or respect for him if he couldn't man up at the right time. That doesn't mean I don't support him if he was duped into signing termination papers. If so, he should receive full custody. He had a chance to prevent this from happening in the first place by telling his pregnant fiancee that he didn't want to be with her for the rest of his life but he wanted custody of their child.
In general, I totally see what you're saying. However, given we don't actually know when he knew what...or, as you point out, what he was told..
They guy was in the military? You think he didn't have access to council? To read a contract before he signed it?
Good to see that you're not taking a side. Other than, of course, in the rest of your post where you take a side.
Sounds to me, like the father decided to use all the resources available to him. Decided to research, found facts that he could use to help his case, and availed himself of them.
As would anyone.
If this man knew his fiancee was pregnant and he waited 13 months to decide if he wanted to be a father, you will never convince me that he isn't a scum bag. Sorry if that appears as taking sides to you. I don't have to like him to admit that he should still receive custody if he was duped into signing termination papers.
I don't know anyone in the military but I assume they don't actually have access to counsel unless, like anyone else, they're charged with a crime.
Do they really have access to legal counsel they can call up for personal matters who will advise them, read documents, etc. for free because they're in the military?! That's... nuts, if that's true.
I would think anyone would do that before signing any papers stating they wouldn't contest an adoption.
Makes you wonder why he didn't do his research and use the available resources long before Veronica was born, doesn't it?
No, it just makes me think that he didn't feel the need to, until after he changed his mind.