Is any other bride this stupid?

[wdwdancerwannabe]

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[momrek06]

First of all to you and calm down. Maybe sis did not realize there was a David's near you. And if David's does ship you a dress, I am SURE they will ship it very professional, so that when it arrives on your door-stop, it will NOT be all wrinkled and crushed as you thought.

And as far as her asking you to be in the wedding, well can I just say, I have read more posts and threads from family members being basically "kicked to the curb" when a sibling is getting married and NOT even asked...so kudos for her even asking you.

If it seems like I am taking her side I am not, I am trying to be very neutral. Just trying to make YOU feel better.

Good for you coming to the DIS and venting, that is what it is all about, venting, rambling and getting it all off your chest and out in the open.

I hope when DISer's come on here to your thread and post, whatever they may say will make you feel better. Hang in there, babe.

KAR

 

[dmslush]

Well, let's look at it...

Why are you NOT looking forward to the wedding? Is it because you won't be the size that you want to be, and don't feel comfortable in the dress that she has chosen? Is it because she is getting it paid for and you didn't? Is it because you are concerned about the person she is marrying?

Try to remember back to your own wedding, did you try to accommodate everyone's wants and needs, or was the day about you? Are you mad because she won't accommodate you?

In order to get past your animosity, you are going to have to figure out deep down why you are having a problem with this wedding.

FWIW, this is one reason why df and I are having an intimate at disney with NO guests invited (only ones there will be me, him and our dd). We are not willing to stress ourselves out because of other people's demands and guilt trips on OUR wedding day.

 

[wdwdancerwannabe]

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[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

I have to agree with the others. I'm really not sure what your sister did that was wrong. I've heard plenty Bridezilla stories and it doesn't seem like she's being one. She picked out flowergirl's dress that was a very reasonable price. And it was your decision not to wear the bridesmaid dress that she had chosen. As far as it being paid for, so what? I'm paying for my wedding myself and it's not because my parents won't (I haven't even discussed that with them), it's because I want to. So if my sister (who's 7 years younger than me) gets a free wedding when the time comes, I don't really care.

 

[luvsmickey]

I'm with you, wdwdancerwannabe. Actually, what I would do, I'd ask sis if she'd return the dress to her David's and then tell them you'll pick up the dress at the David's near you...that way no shipping is involved AND you can check the size to make sure it fits your DD! And I completely understand about the BM dress, my Best Friend is Pregnant and will be in my wedding, I have chosen a similar but different dress in the same color as my other girls. It has straps and of course an empire waist, but it is still made from the same fabric and has some beading at the top like the other gowns! I know that not every bride is the same, but I wanted my BMs approval since they're the ones wearing them. I chose several and they picked from that! I hope this helps, if not, good luck!

 

[Maggimus]

I learned from my wedding planning that Davids Bridal does not do returns. Somehow I got suckered into paying $300+ for my veil. As soon as it was rung up and I signed the receipt without looking, I went to my car, checked out the receipt-- waltzed back in- and low and behold... "We dont except returns".. I hadnt even made it out of the parking lot. I dont think my veil was anywhere near $300 worth- probobly could have made a similar one myself for close to $30. Oh well... you live and you learn.

 

[luvsmickey]

I learned from my wedding planning that Davids Bridal does not do returns. Somehow I got suckered into paying $300+ for my veil. As soon as it was rung up and I signed the receipt without looking, I went to my car, checked out the receipt-- waltzed back in- and low and behold... "We dont except returns".. I hadnt even made it out of the parking lot. I dont think my veil was anywhere near $300 worth- probobly could have made a similar one myself for close to $30. Oh well... you live and you learn.

Wow! $300 for a veil! I had mine custom made with beading and it was only $45! That sucks about their no return policy! Maybe they'll do an exchange since they don't need to actually get the money back, just need to pick it up at a different location? If not, I hope the sister is a good packer!

 

[wdwdancerwannabe]

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[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

I learned from my wedding planning that Davids Bridal does not do returns. Somehow I got suckered into paying $300+ for my veil.

I've budgeted $38 for mine.

 

[JonetteA]

Weddings are hard on everyone from the families to the bride and groom, and the friends in the middle. I agree with you just to take a step back. Quite honestly I know what you mean about being older and the dresses at David's Bridal. I tried to get something that would fit with everyone's body type and trust me when I tell you that is not easy and I had a small bridal party. I would tell your sister that you would like to be part of the wedding, but you would not feel comfortable in the dress. Ask her if there is something else you can do to make it easier on her.

 

[wdwdancerwannabe]

Weddings are hard on everyone from the families to the bride and groom, and the friends in the middle. I agree with you just to take a step back. Quite honestly I know what you mean about being older and the dresses at David's Bridal. I tried to get something that would fit with everyone's body type and trust me when I tell you that is not easy and I had a small bridal party. I would tell your sister that you would like to be part of the wedding, but you would not feel comfortable in the dress. Ask her if there is something else you can do to make it easier on her.

I can handle being older.....it's the FAT after baby part I'm having a hard time with!!

 

[Not so Dumbo]

I understand your frustration. It was rude of her to ask you to be in the wedding just hours after you had a baby....hello, that was your show. It was also inconsiderate and frankly, cold for her to tell you that if you don't want to wear the dress she picked out ( for good reason I might add) then she doesn't want you in the wedding. That in my opinion would be pretty hurtful. Now, as for the flowergirl's dress, $110 may not be a lot in the world of weddings, but it's still $110 for a dress. I'm sure you're thinking there are better things I could do with this money
Now, if I'm completely off base here and that's not how you feel at all, sorry for the intrusion, please ignore me. I know I didn't give you any contructive advice, but I just wanted to and say I understand.

 

[wdwdancerwannabe]

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[Not so Dumbo]

I understand about not being able to wear certain types of dresses. Most of the David's bridal dresses don't look good on me either. some of them could pass for nightgowns I even considered wearing a DB maternity dress just to hide my tummy Hope things with your family calm down soon

 

[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

That's so sweet! Thank you....
I really could care less about being in the wedding. She and the rest of my family are mad at me because I said, "I don't want to be in the wedding". That's not what I said. I just said that I can't wear the dress.

....Too, they're saying that I said I didn't like the dress. THAT'S not true. I just said I can't wear it. Just because I think a dress is GORGEOUS doesn't mean I'll put my body in it!

Thanks again for the

I just want to be clear: So it's just the matter of the dress that's keeping you from being in the wedding?