Do you ever get obsessed!?!
Okay, stupid question since we are all
I was trying to work on some homework last night, and all that I could think about are some of the little things that are nagging me; you know those inane details that no amount of research seems to yeaild any answer to. Hopefully, you ladies can help me. If not, you can tell me that I am crazy and that I should get over myself!
(I) THE PLANS:
(1) The overall plan is that BF and I will arrive on Tuesday (I am secretly hoping for Sunday or Monday, as I am off work that Monday for MLK day anyway... . We will check into BWI on Tuesday. Wednesday I am thinking of doing a Bridesmaid's tea or something of the sort and a "welcome dinner" in the evening (probably at Chef Mickey's so it will be fun for everyone). Thursday is the wedding, which will be at noon, followed by a luncheon at the Grand Floridian Cafe. We will also be checking out of BWI and into the GF. Friday is "our" day to spend by ourselves; Saturday we may do a park with family and a lunch together, maybe at Biergarten in EPCOT, Sunday we leave for our four night cruise.
QUESTIONS CONCERNING THE PLANS:
How exactly does the bridesmaid's tea work? Are only bridesmaid's invited, or do you need to invite every woman attending the wedding in order to be correct (we have the Escape wedding, remember, so it won't be that many). Should you invite just the women on the Bride's side or does etiquette demand everyone.
Does anyone have any ideas for a bridesmaid's tea that is not tea? I was thinking maybe mini golf and a light lunch. Would this be too wierd? I know some of my girls would think tea was fun, but we would have more fun chasing balls around the mini golf course!
We intend for everyone to pay their own way on all group meals aside from the post wedding luncheon. How do you say so politely? Along the same lines, I am doing cards and pockets invites (as you have seen) with inserts. I would like to include the group meals on the inserts, but don't want to give the false impression that we will be paying for them, which could lead to serious awkwardness. Should I just leave them out, or spread them by word of mouth?
Finally, BF thinks we should plan something for the wedding night as well. I can see both sides of this. I think adding a dinner is overscheduling because I think our guests will feel that it is part of the wedding plans and they will feel obligated to attend even if they have no desire to. Some may only be at WDW for a day or two so I want them to have the chance to do the parks if they want. Also, I am afraid we will be exhausted. We love the Dessert party idea, but it is not going to work for us. I thought maybe a fireworks cruise (which could be awfully cold in January, and they may not be doing Wishes that night IF there is a P&PP), or (my favorite idea) everyone does their own dinner (BF and I could do GF Private dining or V&A's, which I love) and then we make a tentative plan to do a super casual meet for a drink. Is it okay NOT to schedule out the wedding night? I want to be gracious and accomodating, but I DON'T want to kill people by being too commando and scheduling their day from the moment they wake up until they go to sleep.
(II): QUESTIONS CONCERNING THE DETAILS
I am thinking of doing a scapbook type of guest book. My plan is to purchase a scrapbook (either 8x8 or 12x12: the one I want comes in 12x12 which seems large, but I suppose it will work) and do empty layouts for our guests, either one or two guests per page. I will have them write us messages on preassigned papers, and take self-pictures with my digital camera. Do I even need to bring the book? I want them to see what I will be doing with these things, but they obviously can't write directly on or in it, since the layouts will be in the plastic films. Also, this sounds mean but there is no nice way of saying it, I don't want the whole thing screwed up by a mistake. I am thinking that I will do the best I can to have everything set up the way that I want it. I will bring the book with the empty layouts inside (will just need to add the pictures and messages later). I will write up and explination of the project and directions for our guests and leave the materials on the guestbook table with someone watching over them to make sure (nicely) that it is done right. Does this plan sound okay or I am I being too control freak?
The music is killing me. I love the idea of the violin and think that using the iPod would be a PITA that I won't be able to handle that day. What do you need songs for? I know the seating (which shouldn't take long, I don't think; anyone have experience for an EW), the bridal processional, me walking down the aisle, and us leaving. Do the moms get a song? Anything else? Also, can they do any Disney song? I am thinking some of the BATB insturmentals?
We are going to do a staged cake cutting and toast and then have the cake at our luncheon. Can we still do the dance at SBP even if we won't serve the cake until later. We found the best song (for us) to do it to (which will require the iPod). If we can't that's fine but it would be nice if we could.
I think that is it for now! whew!
TIA for all of your help!
PS: if my PJ looks a little different, it is because I have done some minor editing. Due to circumstances, I am weeding out the drama. No worries, all is well.
As always, thanks for reading. You comments mean so very much to me and are truly helpful. You all are doing a public service by helping to keep this Bridezilla tame!
They don't have a lot of dresses in this color. 
. I really want to do Disney music for the ceremony (just lovely and toned down). Any suggestions are appreciated!
