involving a minor, would you assume what we fear?

[Lorix2]

My friend's DD has a friend her age (8). Things she is telling my friend are concerning her and she tells them freely without any prodding from her.

* the mother's boyfriend watches her dress.

* she vomits every night, but medically there is no problem found according to her mother when my friend asked why. This girl has slept over and vomited there too.

* when the girl does sleep over, she tried to encourage the daughter to have both of them go sleep with my friend's husband which my friend found odd and told them absolutely not.

* she tells my friend that someone visits her at night in her sleep but she doesn't know who.

* days later she told my friend that she knows now that it is an angel that comes to see her at night and it's a male.

* my friend asked her if the angel talked to her and what it said and her reply was "roll over".

There's more I can't remember exactly, but I'm wondering what you would do in this situation? My friend is afraid to cross a line and have this family turned upside down, but....there's a girl that may truly be in trouble. I thought maybe telling the school counselor anonymously what she's been told was a good place to start.

Over reacting or reason for concern? My gut tells me she's in trouble.

 

[DizGeek]

Wow! Get involved...call the cops...definatley do something! ASAP!

 

[Traveliz]

She absolutely must report this information...in most states if the school suspects something they are required by law to report it. The state may also have an anonymous line to the Dept of Child and Family Services...either way something needs to be done now.

Good Luck
Liz

 

[Robinrs]

This is not an overreaction at all, this is an obvious cry for help. Someone has to get this investigated NOW.

 

[KingsFanInRI]

most definitely get involved. FAST!

 

[slo]

I can't say exactly what I would do, but I would do something and tell somebody. If you don't, and find out something happened that you could have maybe stopped you will never forgive yourself. I don't want to sound mean, but you really need to take some action.

Good luck, and keep us posted on how everything is going so if any of us encounter this same situation we will know how to handle it. I really believe this board is very helpful to many people and hearing how this is going can be very beneficial to many people.

Good luck again!!!

 

[Dan Murphy]

I fully agree with those above. Hope it is nothing, but sure sounds like it could very well be something, not nice. So good for you to be concerned.

 

[RadioNate]

Sexual abuse if far to common to ignore these signs.

Schools are obligated to report any suspected abuse so I'd start with her schools or have your call the local department of children's services herself. The will not disclose who made the initial call.

If there is nothing going on thier lives won't be turned upside down. If there is something happening it would be in the girls best interest to be removed from the home.

This girl reached out to her friends and her friends mother, it's time to take action.

 

[mom2grace]

It sounds like the little girl trusts your friend.

She probably needs to make the call to child protective services herself. Some agencies can't address "heresay" reports.

Most children don't make things like this up, and the physical symptoms are overwhelming.

Make the call, save the child!!!!!!! I don't want to sound dramatic, but your friend is probably the only adult this girl has confided in.

I used to work in a job that had interaction with child protective services. In many states, it's a felony not to report, no matter who you are.

If she's afraid, tell her to use a pay phone at the mall!

Good luck!!

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Yes. I would be very worried. Get involved. At the very least, tell the girls mother.

I hope the girl is okay. Please, please help before it is too late.

 

[KatelynnsAuntie]

There are red flags all over the place here. I'm actually surprised your friend hasn't said anything to the girl's mother yet. She owes it to the girl's mother to say something. Think of it this way: wouldn't you want to know if your daughter was saying these things? I mean, there is definately something wrong here.

He watches her dress?

She vomits all the time?

The "angel" says "roll over"?

Please encourage your friend to say something to the girl's mother. To say nothing would be a true injustice to this little girl who is in obvious need of some help.

 

[Disney Doll]

Call DCF

 

[VampHeartless]

Call NOW!!! This is not something to fool around with...

Hell, PM me with info and I'll call myself.

 

[snoopy]

How horrible. I agree with the others, your friend is obligated to report what she has heard.

 

[eeyore45]

Call, call the school annonymous and talk to their social worker! The calls to the children's welfare should also be annonymous.

The problem is trust. You dont trust anyone to do anything, and then you are up a creek without the paddle...

think of the child. The people she trusts do nothing. No one believes her. NO ONE. As a child this is her norm.

Call.

I had a friend I knew was abusing alcohol. Not her kids, her house was immaculate. She drank...

I called the school and just said that my concern was over the childs' welfare. I had called my friends doctor, but I worried about the child...

 

[Microcell]

I had a Girl Scout training about reaching out to girls and developing a good relationship with them as a leader now, in brownies, because an astounding number of girls are abused by the time they reach puberty. They were saying that if you have twenty girls you could have ten that are abused!!! I am very wary now that I heard that. That is between school and home!! That is how many are reported. They think it is higher. I always error on the side of caution.

 

[lisajl]

Sorry, when I read this, I wanted to vomit.

If this is true someone needs to help this child.

Please tell your friend to call someone and get an investigation started.

P and Pd to that family.

Lisajl

 

[eeyore kelly]

CALL!!! Social Services, DCF, who ever but call!!!!

 

[bratray]

please get involved and help this child
it is the right thing to do & you will feel
good about yourself for trying to help an
innocent child

good luck

 

[cnids00]

This makes me sick to my stomach, please do something, anything. I only have one daughter, she is 9 now and she is my only child, I won't be able to have any more.

I have always said that if anyone touched her, I'd hunt them down, she is my all, my miracle, she is a part of me.

There are way to many signs showing this child needs help, please please let us know!! This is awful and I can not for my life understand, never will, how some people are towards children.

I'm so concerned, please let us know what happens!!!!!!