I just heard that you can do up to 15 people total (including you and your H2B). I am getting conflicting rumors on whether or not you can have kids for free or if they count toward your guest total. In addition, they say that you may or may not be able to have an outside photograher. I am very confused....if I don't want all of the items for the intimate, but want to take that money and put it toward something else, can I do that? (ie I dont need an officiant, so can I add that $ amt into floral, etc)