Internet Relationships.... can it work? UPDATE HE"S MARRIED!!!!!!

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

My really good girlfriend is involved in a really weird internet relationship. From what I gather, and she's not spilling much, is she met him on a message board I would guess similar to this. The emails have progressed to phone calls, and talk of meetings. I keep telling her to bag it, but of course, she doesn't hear me. I just worry for her...so many kooks out there.
Do you honestly know of any good relationships started on the 'net?

I know I should MYOB, but I have trouble with that

 

[Papa Deuce]

I'll be with my wife NINE years on next Saturday... we met from MY online ad.

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

There are weirdos out there, but a lot of good people as well.

I actually have two nephews who met their wives online. Seems to be working out ok for them!

Also, a bit different, but I have a group of girlfriends who I met online, a similar board to this, and we've taken trips together each year for 3 years now. They are some of my best friends. So, it can work.

Be very careful with these dating meetings though. Good luck to your friend.

 

[Aidensmom]

I have a friend who met their spouse online, on one of the dating service sites. They have been married for almost 10 years.

 

[LoraJ]

On another message board that I post on, quite a few people have become couples from there. We all like the same band though, and most met each other at concerts before they started going out, while others were set up.

ETA:
I have actually made some good friends through that same message board.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

I'll be with my wife NINE years on next Saturday... we met from MY online ad.

Is that right PAPA? Hmm that's great.

 

[lovemygoofy]

See that handsome soldier in my picture?? Guess where he found me..... lol
All by accident but still from the same place lol Tell her to use caution and long distance is hard if they are far apart

 

[pearlieq]

It sure can work! DH and I met online and will be married 5 years this May.

Times are changing and a lot more people are meeting online. It's a great way to get to know someone. Sure, there are plenty of kooks online, but there are plenty of kooks in bars, at singles mixers, in grocery stores, and at churches. You're online. Are you a kook?

I certainly wouldn't encourage her to not pursue the relationship just because they met online. Do you know anything about him? Is there anything else that's making you nervous or just the fact that they met online?

A few simple precautions keep things safe. Encourage her to chat on the phone at least a few times before agreeing to meet. Encourage her to make their first few meetings in public places, preferrably somewhere well lit or during the daytime. Remind her to take her own car and meet him there the first few times. As with any guy, she just needs to trust her instincts.

 

[cuterlt]

We met online on AOL in 1996, and will celebrate 9 years of wedded bliss in June!

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

Add another one to the list. I met my DH online over 7 years ago and I've never been happier. Love @ AOL....a wonderful thing

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Wow it's been a long time since I was in "the game" I guess I was more traditional, I met my men in bars

I think I worry because of the distance and she seems to really like him. She lives in NY and he is in Ohio. There are kids involved as well. Apparently they were friends for a long while. So I guess I should just but out.

 

[azgal81]

I think that with any relationship some work and some don't just like when you meet someone not on the internet. I have one friend that met this guy on the internet, they dated for awhile, got engaged, then he turned psycho, she broke it off then he stalked her for about six months (he was scary). I have another friend that met his girlfriend on one of those dating sites and they have been dating for awhile.

I think meeting someone online has a little more risks then meeting them at a club or something just becasue you won't know what to expect. I think that if you want the relationship to work it can.

 

[disnygoof]

Count me on the list - met my DH online, will be married 5 years come July!

Times are changin' for sure! You do have to be careful, but if you spend time and really get to know the person, it can be great! Think -- all you do for a while is talk! Getting to know the other person before the whole akwardness of going on dates really helps. I know when I first "met" my DH in real life, it wasn't awkward, it felt as if I'd know him my whole life.

Your friend needs support right now. Do tell her to be careful, but be open-minded, too!

 

[Papa Deuce]

Is that right PAPA? Hmm that's great.

Yep, that is right. And I had a cool proposal, too. I placed an ad in a London Newspaper to ask her to marry me. We were going to London anyway, so I "showed" her the ad while at dinner with friends... Well, actually her friend did the showing for me.

 

[Ready to go in Ok]

Add me in! Met DH online 6 yrs ago. I did date another guy I met online before meeting DH, and it didn't work out well at all. But not because of the internet, he was just crazy. I would suggest to your friend that when meeting, make him come to her state, that way she will be on home turf.

 

[sajetto]

Do you honestly know of any good relationships started on the 'net?

Yeah, MINE Marrying that gorgeous man below next year all because of my profile on Yahoo.com

 

[DVC Jen]

My sister met a man on the net.. they are now married.. happily.

 

[MosMom]

I met my husband on the internet and we've been married for 10 years this year. We didn't meet using a dating service or in a dating room. Just a regular chat room and we hit it off. I was friends with friends of his and it snowballed from there.

Considering we're 10 years on and still going strong I would say that it can work.

As long as she meets him in a safe place and uses her noggin, she should be fine.

 

[Disney_1derland]

Dh and I met in a chat room. He im'd me, told me to read his profile because it was almost word for word identical to mine. We talked on the phone within a week, met within a month and he moved in 2 months to the day after we met. We've been married 6 years, together for 8 and all is well.

 

[Sleepy]

My brother met his wife on the net. A message board with a similar interest. They have been married about 6 years and have a 2 year old child.