Insulting "compliments"......

[Cindyluwho]

I have long naturally curly red hair and when I'm out with my daughter I hear, "You have the most beautiful hair. It's too bad your daughter didn't get your hair." So there's my daughter, with thick, straight, beautiful brown hair. Do these people not get that my daughter is listening to them? Cripes, she's 10 years old and this has been happening since she was a baby. My reply is, "She's so lucky, she's got beautiful hair, just like her favorite cousin Natalie."
Think people, THINK!

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

goodstarr-- I think I would say something like "Well that makes us even...I don't really think of you as pick your adjective ."

 

[Robinrs]

Originally posted by goodstarr
"You know, I don't really think of you as "black" " How does one respond to that?

I get that a lot, goodstarr... I wonder what they expect????????

 

[TalkisCheap]

I'm homeschooled. I have been homeschooled for 5 years and will be homeschooled till I go to highschool in a year. Playing softball last year, I was standing off to the side of home plate while a new pitcher warmed up to pitch to me. I took my batting helmet off to fix my hair. The umpire turned to me and said "I don't think I've seen you around school before, are you new?" So, I turned toward him and said "No, I'm not new, I'm homeschooled." Then he comes out with the killer, "You're homeschooled? Wow, you look normal!"


When he ever said that i felt like killing him! Normal?! Of course I'm normal! Just because my parents chose to take my out of the public school system and educate me in a different way does not make me not normal! Come to find out, one of my homeschooled friends recieved a similar remark. She told her parents and they complained to the school. Needless to say, he hasn't umpired one of my games since

 

[Cindyluwho]

Originally posted by goodstarr

"You know, I don't really think of you as "black" " How does one respond to that? "

Could they maybe think that they just think of you as a person, neither black nor white,etc. As a redhead, I get enough of the labeling, people assuming I have a bad temper, being called carrot top, being asked if ALL my hair is red (my standard reply to that is: "yes, I have it dyed to match and that's not too bad but the perm rods are he#$") I'd much rather people just thought of me as another person - not just a redhead.

 

[Serena]

Originally posted by coliebird
I had to resurrect this thread from page 3.

Here's mine (I hear it at least 2 or 3 times a week):

Your daughter is beautiful - she looks nothing like you. Gee thanks, am I that ugly? I know it is b/c she is fair with big blue eyes and I have dark hair, brown eyes and olive skin, but I hate hearing it. Can't people stop at she is beautiful?

I always got this too. I'm short with long curly brown hair. One daughter is tall with straight blonde hair.

 

[Kimickey]

"You know, I don't really think of you as "black" " How does one respond to that?

I get this one quite often: You don't talk or speak black.

How does one speak or talk black or white? I find this both statements above to be so ignorant

 

[binny]

ohhhh forgot one... when I first posted my pictures on the freebie board a few years ago someone said " WOW you are WAY younger than I thought!"

Like I come across as some ogre lady LOL