Inspired by the thread " how did you know your family was complete".......

[Iott Family]

How did you keep to the plan of no more buns in the oven? We are on #4 and sure we have all we wanted BUT I am only 30 and a tubal seems so FINAL at such a young age! So we are exploring less permanent but just as reliable BC. Im so wishy washy these days...we are in our 7th month.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

DH got snipped.

 

[Credit Man]

We were much older, but after our second, I took one for the team.

 

[castleview]

Know how you feel. I had #3 ten months ago and even though this one is a good guy, I feel like I'm ready to be done. I like sleeping, I like the kids being more independent and I don't want to commit financial suicide (live in the NE). However in another year, I'm sure I'll be feeling the urge to get pregnant again. My DH will probably do everything to make sure that doesn't happen.

 

[Tiffann4k]

I had a tubal ligation at 22 years old ...at the time it was a good idea because we were 22 & 23 years old with a 3yo, 2yo, 10 month & newborn. But the day after having it done I knew I made the wrong decision...I still feel a yearning to have one more baby. We are going to eventually get a tubal reversal and hope for the best, so for right now no more buns in the oven.....after my reversal hubby will more than likely get snipped after we have our one last baby

 

[Buckalew11]

DH got snipped.

Mine did too.

 

[holycow]

It is funny...I've had friends who've just known that they were going to have 3 kids or 1 but I've never been like that...we had 3 that were ages 23, 17 and 7 well last year I was walking around and I just felt like there was another one! Yikes! what was I thinking! well he's 5 months now but I know for sure I'm too old so we finalized it! lol he is just a sweet as can be and I can't imagine him not being in our family.

You are very young it do something so permanent (in terms of surgery etc..) that I would find an alternative until I was positively sure!

And congrats on your new little one! how exciting!

Holycow
lisa

 

[we3disneygo]

12 years ago next week we had the most beautiful daughter.....we never got around to baby #2 and we are a very happy family.

 

[mickeyfan2]

The snip is the way to go.

 

[palmtreegirl]

DH got snipped.

Same here.

 

[Bob Slydell]

When the time comes, I'll likely be taking the one for the team as well.

 

[tikilyn]

Dh and I are done! He's 33 and I'm 31 and we both know for sure that we don't want any more kids. We have a dd5 and a ds 2 and half. It just feels right to us. This might sound a little selfish but I like the way we were before we had kids. I mean right now I really can't do a hole lot of stuff without the kids. I miss the old days but love my two babies to death. Besides if I had a third dh would have to commit me. I would lose my mind for sure!

Dh is getting an early Christmas present from me. His big V is schedule on Dec.22nd (next thursday). He's taking one for the team this time. Gotta love that man.

 

[cardaway]

When the time comes, I'll likely be taking the one for the team as well.

Might want to think about making that two.

 

[kimwim8]

I'm one of those people that knew before even having kids that I only wanted 2. Not to say that if something happened now, that I wouldn't "want" that baby, but I was totally content with 2. So I had my girl, then my boy. Both great pregnancies with healthy babies - and I was done. I did wait until DS was 2, and then I had the tubal ligation. I've never looked back once. I have a lot of friends with babies...and I sooooo enjoy them!

Also, when I had my tubal, my GYN mentioned that if I wanted to have another baby, I could (of course, I don't know the process) have one implanted and then I wouldn't need the reversal. She said insurance might not cover some of it...and that I should go into the tubal 100% sure I don't want any more children. Which I did. Just mentioning that, since she had mentioned it to me.

ETA - I was 30 when I had my tubal.

 

[Bob Slydell]

Might want to think about making that two.

 

[robinb]

I always knew I only wanted one child, but I would not do something so permanent as a tubal.

 

[CharityLynn]

We too have somewhat decided we are done. We haven't went as far as a tubal or the big "V" but we are pretty sure we are done. I have told DH if he doesn't want anymore then he should go and get snipped but he has fears..lol. He thinks we are doinga good thing right now in terms of protection.

I myself have always wanted 3 children and somedays think I really waqnt one more. My son is 6 and we have a daughter together who is almost 3. But I then consider finacial and weight issues. I gained 76lbs with each child and have been working on losing it (lost 33lbs so far) I don't think I want all this work to be for nothing (although a child isn't nothing)

I have a fear that seeing how we haven't had any surgery our kids will be in their teens and oops Mommy's pregnant again lol/..man that would be a bit scary...

 

[MomofKatie]

It took us 2 years to get pregnant with DD, and 3 years to get pregnant again (sadly, I miscarried very early on). It has now been 4 more years, and no more pregnancies- we don't do anything to prevent it from happening, but also never wanted to do the fertility clinic thing- I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Since DD is now 7, I am happy with our little family just the way it is (and DH and I aren't getting any younger- thisclose to 40!), but I would be happy with one more shot at motherhood.

 

[PaulaSue]

Tubes tied an hour after vag birth with the epidual still in and tanked up. I was awake (ditsy with medicine) and I saw the tubed after cut to make sure it was done.

 

[jodifla]

IUDs are not used much in this country, but they are great birth control. After a month maybe of some initial discomfort, you have nothing to think about for another 5 years (or 10, depending on the model).

You can always have it removed if you change your mind.