Inspired by "race and relationships"

[3mtn-kate]

well this kind of came up a little on the race and relationships thread and i was just wondering

how would your parents/other family react if you came out to them?? like if you were gay or bi??

i'm pretty sure my grandparents would aboslutely freak and i think my parents would be really upset for a little while but they would get over it...

Discuss...

 

[HSMndLKfan92]

My parents wouldn't mind. They'd be supportive.
I'm straight, but I asked my mom this question when I was 12.

 

[princesskelz]

they would think i am high
i am not gay/or bi
i am straight
a ton of my friends have come out this year alone
i still love them and think nothing different about them

 

[HouseMD1120]

My whole family and I are Christians and strongly against it. We believe that love is for a man and a woman. They would freak out and I would probably be banned from the family.

That being said, I dont hate the LGBT community. I have many many lesbian and bi friends. I dont support what they are doing, but I dont punish them by not being their friend. I treat them the same I way i treat others.

I'm straight by the way

 

[Huit]

When I came out to my parents as bi, my dad didn't talk to me for a while. But I think he's forgotten. My mom didn't care.

 

[imabrat]

My mom is fine with it. My mom is from Europe and is VERY laid back with the gay/lesbian thing. She has always said she would rather me be gay and in a healthy relationship than straight and in an abusive relationship.

My dad would throw a fit. He would be VERY disappointed in me if I ever came out as gay/lesbian. He would most likely throw me out, and he has said so before. Heck, his only brother is gay and he also has HIV. My dad hasn't talked to his brother in YEARS, even in the past few years when said brother was going through a triple bypass at 36. My paternal grandparents would fer sure be rolling in their graves.

I, personally, don't have the greatest relationship with my dad. If he told me he'd kick me out, I'd move out. It would only encourage me more to be gay/lesbian. I would rebel big time. I'm not going to love by someone else's rules, I'm going to love however I want.


ETA - I have to add more because I had to leave early for tutoring.

 

[BabyPiglet]

Oy.

Well first they would tell me it was just a phase, and awkwardly try to change the conversation. I don't think they would ever accept or acknowledge it. I'm not sure if they would actually get angry or not, but I definitely think our relationship would ever be the same.

Of course they tell me they'd love me no matter what, but they're very prejudice towards a lot of things. Hell, my dad said he would not love me anymore if I decided to marry a person from another race.

I can't imagine the emotional battle gay people go through before they decide to come out, it must be awful. I hope that after the truth was out though, they'd at least feel a little better.

 

[Fatphil32]

My step-dad's homophobic.. so that doesn't help. Doesn't help that both sides of my family are pretty Christian and are both against gay marriage. I think they'd be shocked too if I came out and said I was.

But, I'm straight.

 

[AmandaSparks730]

My mom took it rather well. Dad never talked to me about it. I'm not sure he really likes *me* being bi much, but he doesn't mind that community.

My friends really don't mind at all. Most are bi or gay/lesbian anyway.

 

[Cinderelli16]

I'm not exactly sure what my parents would do. I think they'd be really REALLY upset with me.
They have always told me that it is NOT God's way. I honestly don't have anything against gay/bi people, they're still people and are no different than anyone else. But I'm straight so they have nothing to worry about.
I have many gay/lesbian/bi friends, one of my closest guy friends came out earlier this year, I totally seen it coming, but it kind of surprised me too when he first told me. We get along very well, and he loves Jason Mraz like me too, so it makes it even better. lol
Then there are about 5 girls in my gym class that are lesbian, and I happen to be friends with a few of them. We may not agree on some things, but we still get along pretty well.

 

[AliceinHalloweentown]

My parents would be fine with it.. my brother would make fun of me, but in the end, would be supportive.
My aunts, uncles, and grandparents would be very judgemental about it.

And my best friend told me she doesn't care at all.

On the flip side, I could care less who comes out, they're still my friend/relative.

 

[Babyjustrun]

They'd love me anyways.
My mother would be supportive, but I think she'd be a little uncomfortable. She always feels a need to make a rude comment when she see's two girls kissingon tv.

Dad, don't know, I've never asked. I'm sure he'd love me anyways.

 

[Hawaiidood]

Im pretty sure my entire family would pretty much reject me. They hate me enough for being the half hippy that I am. Its really too bad, I try SO hard to be not like them, and I REALLY try to help them see that just because its different doesnt mean it should be shunned. I hate it when people are that way. Anyway a bit more on Topic, I VERY much like the girl side of the gender spectrum. Ha ha i may seem overly anti-guy with my love of soft songs, some chicky flicks, and actually WANTING a relationship instead of sex, but im just different from the stereotypical guy, and hopfully a beautifull girl will sometime see that and then I can make her my own

Ha ha that entire paragraph was just random.

 

[imabrat]

Oh, and I am straight. Being gay/lesbian is not for me at this point in my life, although I have no problem with anyone who is.

And FTR, my parents opinions are the same if I married out of my race (white). My mom just wants my SO to treat me right, she wants me to be happy. My dad would FLIP if I married a black man. He has this strong prejudice against blacks, and it's shameful.

 

[3mtn-kate]

My mom is fine with it. My mom is from Europe and is VERY laid back with the gay/lesbian thing. She has always said she would rather me be gay and in a healthy relationship than straight and in an abusive relationship.

My dad would throw a fit. He would be VERY disappointed in me if I ever came out as gay/lesbian. He would most likely throw me out, and he has said so before. Heck, his only brother is gay and he also has HIV. My dad hasn't talked to his brother in YEARS, even in the past few years when said brother was going through a triple bypass at 36. My paternal grandparents would fer sure be rolling in their graves.

I, personally, don't have the greatest relationship with my dad. If he told me he'd kick me out, I'd move out. It would only encourage me more to be gay/lesbian. I would rebel big time. I'm not going to love by someone else's rules, I'm going to love however I want.


ETA - I have to add more because I had to leave early for tutoring.

thats good

oh yeah i forgot to say that i'm straight...but have in the past kind of questioned it. like i know i'm straight but i think i might have had a crush on a girl at some point...but i'm not sure what it means

 

[Shelton123]

I'm straight. My parents would probably disown me if I was gay/bi. They're mad enough that a couple of my friends are lesbians. They're ok with gay people, but I think they're faking it to make me think they're not complete homophobes. They're both racist too. They're not in the KKK or anything, but they get mad when I go out with a girl of a different race, which is often. I realize everyone is a litle bit racist as it says in my signature, but they make pretty big judgements.

 

[::Snow_White::]

They wouldn't care if I was.
My mom and I got on this political stuff and she said she agreed with gay marriage so I know she wouldn't mind.
I don't think anybody else would really care either.

I'd have more problems with friends than family.

 

[Huit]

They wouldn't care if I was.
My mom and I got on this political stuff and she said she agreed with gay marriage so I know she wouldn't mind.
I don't think anybody else would really care either.

I'd have more problems with friends than family.

They say they don't until you actually are.

 

[Axel]

Ahahhahaha. Well. Given the current status of having not seen my gay uncles for four years (ever since I first found out I had uncles on my dad's side...) because they conveniently don't get the invitation to any of our parties until after the fact. Well, I'd probably be looking for a motel.

So, because of that fact (and my knowledge that I just don't have the money to support myself right now) I'm closeted to my family and out to the rest of the world as Bi.

 

[KidGoofy]

I am straight but I dont have a problem with Gay/Bi relationships...my parents would think I was in a phase or the would feel kind of awkward.