Inspired by Pooh Girl 71 - Did you "dream" of your wedding day?

[flaps]

On several occasions I've come across the idea that every girl "dreams" of her wedding day, etc., etc..

Is that really the norm?

I never did. Not once. Well, unless you count having to work out the details of a wedding after I was officially engaged. But I'm not sure how I could have avoided it at that point.

I was more concerned about deciding what I should do with my life work-wise, and figured if I ever married, it probably wouldn't be until I was 30+. (I should have known when I ended up marrying at age 19 that NOTHING in my life was going to go "according to plan." )


Oddly enough, my spouse was dreaming of marriage since he was 10 years old. (And I'm the one? )


Anyway, what about you? Did you spend your days dreaming of when you'd wed your "prince" or "princess," or did love and marriage and family kidnap you while you were out on your lunch break?

 

[Blueeyes101817]

ever since i was little i have always dreamed about my wedding..im 19 and single now, so looks like ill have ot wait a while longer..but im loving reading e veryones stories!

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

I've inspired a thread! How cool!

Well I was a child of the 70's. I remember getting in lots of trouble at Christian school when I informed my 3rd grade friends that I was NOT getting married. I was going to have a career and I might have a live in boyfriend I got in big trouble.

So, nope, I never dreamed of a wedding. Though I will admit to getting all teary when I see the dream wedding with Cinderella's coach and all that.

 

[onecoolmama]

YUP! I knew from as long as I can remember where I was going to get married all the people I was going to have in my wedding and all.

I dreamed about the guy and what he would wear and I knew what type of flowers I wanted and the type of dress I wanted and a really long train!

I knew it was going to be black tie (all weddings in my family are) and I knew I wanted a black limo..not white.

The limo didnt work out..I asked for black and they sent white...and DH didn't look like what I had pictured..but all the guys looked great and the flowers were excellent!

I found the flower girl dresses at Macy's on clearence for $20! They were cute and simple!

But to answer your questrion..yes. DH was a little annoyed that he didnt have a say in a lot..but once the planning got underway..he was sooo glad!

 

[m&m's mom]

NO! Even when all of my friends were buying Bride's magazine and cutting out pictures, I was dreaming about a corporate career.
I am married but w/ extreme low fanfare. We invited all family over for our annual Halloween costume party and surprised everyone by getting married. Basically my wedding dress was a Arachania Black Widow Spider bride costume and my DH was Captain Hook.
Perfect for us!

 

[Manda1219]

Well I know what I want my wedding to be like, but I never really dreamed about it when I was younger.
The longer I'm with my boyfriend though, the more I see happening, not really dreaming about it though. I just have ideas of what I'd like it to be. (Although, I do still "dream" of a Disney wedding )

 

[browneyes]

Nope, I never dreamed about a wedding day. I'm not surprised your dh dreamt about his wedding day though. How old was he when y'all met, Flaps?

 

[tonyswife]

Nope. I wanted to get married in Vegas or Reno or something. But, when I got engaged, my mom was just so excited to plan a wedding that we had a big one. I have to say that I really enjoyed the mother/daughter time we had doing it.

I was never a real "girly-girl" so it was easy for me to sit back and enjoy the experience. My mom did most of the choosing and I think half the fun for me was watching her have so much fun planning. She never got to have the big wedding SHE had dreamed about as a child so it was kind of a second chance for her.

After all is said and done, I have nothing but great memories of my wedding day and I'm glad I didn't insist on eloping.

 

[LScot]

Nope. I was also kidnapped on my lunchbreak.

I did dream of becoming Mrs. Stack as a little girl but no wedding plans. And BTW, I didn't marry him.

I wanted to elope but DH didn't want to. He thought I'd regret it someday if we did. I know I wouldn't have (it has been 17 years). I did not enjoy the little bit of wedding planning that I was forced to do.

However, a WDW wedding might have been different!

 

[Trinity721]

I think when i was younger I dreamed about having the big fairy tale wedding with a carriage to ride in just like Cinderella, LoL!! But after I met DH in high school and then went through college, it seemed doing things simply would be best for us. My mom acted as my wedding planner, and she did an amazing job... I know it could have been a nightmare, but it turned out wonderfully and I wouldn't have changed a thing. Yes, a wedding is one of the most important days of your life... but it's what happens from that moment on that really matters.

 

[disykat]

As I told my then-to-be husband - "I've been planning this since I was in second grade, so back off!" LOL

My mom is an organist so I went along to many weddings and wedding rehearsals as a child. I usually planned what I would do differently! I didn't want bridesmaids, Dad walking me down the isle, etc. - and that's what I had. Very non-traditional, but long planned nontheless.

 

[Jolie C]

No, I didn't dream of my wedding day. (I also wasn't the type to write "Mrs. So and So" in my notebook at school over and over or to think up names for kids I didn't have... )

 

[Aimeedyan]

Yes, I did... my mom helped feed it, too, since she loved all things bridal and was once a bridal consultant. We attended weddings together, she bought me Bridal mags on occasion, and we visited the bridal shows on occasion as well. I dreamed and dreamed of it =)

It made my wedding planning SO much easier and less stressful, compared to friends who never gave it a second thought.

I dont think every girl dreams of it... just some =)

 

[liznboys]

No I really didn't! I never thought about my wedding until my dh proposed, so 10 months before the big day! lol!! I guess it just wasn't THAT big of a deal to me. (I would have been happy getting married with just the two of us on a beach in swim suits lol.) Now, having babies-THAT I dreamed about.

 

[tc]

I never dreamed/planned my wedding. I assumed I'd never marry (long story) so never thought about it. My daughter just got married, and she was a dreamer. She bought magazines, and talked with me, her sister and friends all the time about what she wanted. After her wedding, she pulled me aside and said her wedding was everything she dreamed. I was so happy for her.

My younger daughter also has dreams and plans, but they are so different from Sarah's. She does not want the traditional stuff. She's a child of the 70's, even though she was born in the 80's. She wants outdoors, daisy's, sundresses, and casual. That wedding sounds a lot easier than what we just went through with Sarah, lol.

 

[shmoogrrrl]

I always dreamed about my Honeymoon more than my wedding. I wanted itto be at the Contemporary at Disney World, and we'd spend at least a week there!

I am a bit (okay, a HUGE) tigger fan. Jeff knew about my Disney Honeymoon plans before he asked me to marry him. When he asked, he got down on one knee, popped the question and presented me with a tiny little tigger that had my engagement ring on his tail. Before I answered yes, I made him promise that he was okay with Disney World for a Honeymoon. When he said sure, I said yes.

I got my week at the Contemporary, and a three day Disney cruise!

As far as the wedding goes, it was fun to plan, but if I had to do it all again, I would get married at Disney with just family and close friends.