Inlaws found new way to hurt me...

[Robinrs]

I'm glad you two finally had the WAY TOO NEEDED conversation!

I'm not sure how I would've reacted to the "like it or not" line but since she accepted it that's a good thing.

I hope you two find a way to work out this nightmare. It'll be better for everyone involved.

God bless,

Robinrs

 

[Mercy]

RUDisney.... that is terrific! I'm glad to hear you are trying to work things out and had that long overdue conversation. I am happy to hear you MIL appologized, that takes swallowing some pride and that is not easy to do, sounds like you may have had to swallow some pride too. I hope this is the beginning of a better future with your in-laws.

 

[RitaZ.]

That's great to hear! It sounds like you all want the same things
It couldn't have been easy for her to "eat crow". She is a smart woman for choosing not to alienate her DS and her DIL and for apologizing.

I'm really glad it worked out for you. I had problems with my MIL and I tried having a conversation with her about our differences, but it had the opposite effect.

 

[TZMOM]

So sorry to hear about this!! IL's can be soo tough - as evidenced by the length of this thread.

My MIL was & I'm sure probably still is such a witch!!! My husband had been so twisted from growing up w/her & his alcoholic father that he just couldn't/wouldn't ever stand up to either one of them. He never wanted to see her, so he wouldn't, and then somehow it was my fault - never understood how that happened.

When I stood up to her (and my FIL) they "had a talk" w/my ex-husband and all was blamed on me (I wasn't included in the visit and my husband didn't have the stones to stand up for me)?!? They never helped w/our preemie son (we moved to FL to be near them - never will I do anything like THAT again, lived about 15 min. from them) so I was basically left alone as my ex travelled all the time.

Unfortunately, I had to "let my ex go" after our son was about 9 mos. old since I couldn't take it anymore. I tried to keep in touch w/her for my son's sake, but she's NEVER remembered his b'day, Christmas, ANYTHING, so I gave up after about a year. She did achieve her goal of breaking us up and has tried to do the same thing w/my ex and his 2nd wife. Thanks to my leaving him, his 2nd wife said she'd do the same thing and at least got him to move out of FL away from her tentacles - but the dysfunction lives on.

So - I don't know what to suggest in your case. I'd let my DH take the kids to see her w/o me. It's not worth your sanity to be treated as "not worthy" and I'm sure your kids pick up on that as well. I also wouldn't want my kids thinking something is "wrong with them" because your DH's family is so negative all the time.

Good luck how ever you decide to handle this!!! Sending you lots of for whatever you do.

Jane

 

[crazyforgoofy]

I'm proud of you for taking the direct approach. If you and MIL can continue to have honest communication perhaps things will be better from now on. And hopefully your husband learned a thing or two from all this as well.


:thewave: :thewave:

 

[faithinkarma]

I had not been back to this thread for a bit and just now read that youhad reached some form of resolution. I can't tell you how pleased that makes me feel.

Way to go ! And best of luck !

 

[Stepharoonie!]

 

[IMGONNABE40!]

A co-worker of mine resolves the IL problem by making sure he does not date women whose mothers are still alive!

 

[lindajo]

Originally posted by RUDisney

I went to sit by my DH at the table, but no one brought up the extra folding chairs. DH didn't notice that everyone but me had a seat. I ate at the counter, then went back to the living room with the kids.

Forgive me for saying this, please, but it sounds like you could use a little more support from DH in this situation. Maybe since he lived with those people for so long, he is used to the way they are? You should not have to put up with that kind of treatment, especially from family!!! I am so sorry your Easter was ruined....

 

[Serena]

It sounds like the beginning of a relationship here. It's nice to hear.