Inapproriate PDA's

[Freyja]

OK I don't want to start a fight (I am weak) but I have read on another thread about inapproraite pubic displays of affection.
I wonder what these are.
I mean I would never full on snog/french kiss my husband in public but I was wondering what else may be considered inapproriate?

Interesting. I don´t see anything wrong with french kissing my husband in public and have done it at Disney many times. Never thought I would be offending anyone. Not that it would really matter. I won´t stop kissing my huband when I want to.

 

[mcco5543]

I do truly believe what PDA is offensive is truly in the eyes of the beholder. I also agree with whoever mentioned that if you go to Disney and are not aware of how you look to other people than that's just plain not paying attention. EVERYONE knows disney is a family place and I guess we all just have to think very carefully about how others see us. It stinks but It's the only way to keep it as family friendly as possible. I'm gay so every gesture I make towards my wife offends somebody in public (and sometimes in private). But I can't withhold all affection on my Disneymoon, still I will be trying very hard to remember the kids and remember different families have different ideas of what is a non offensive PDA.

p.s i'm glad to know that some families do a butt smacking thing. I would have seen that as innapropriate PDA, but so many families seem to be saying that it's "their way" I won't be offended now!

 

[Bellybee]

I personally dont have a problem with any public displays of affection assuming they remain outside the clothing and think the world would be a happier nicer place if there was more.
Just commenting really that my hubby and I dont french kiss in public.

 

[grandma jan]

OK I am a grandma and I will be holding my grandkids hands, they will get lots of hugs and kisses. My 13 year old grandson is a hugger, he has been this way since he was born so if you see a young man and an old lady hugging it is us!!!! Just want you all to be aware Also if they get smacked on the butt it is not a sign of affection....and it is never hard enough to hurt, just to get their attention!!!!!!

 

[Jrabbit910]

I am another person that doesnt mind certain PDA- people holding hands, kissing, smacking each others bums or anything "cute" like that doesnt bother me at all... A little love between people that love each other is NO BIG DEAL! I cant believe people can get offended w/ other people holding hands... ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?! Do you get mad when the characters holds hands too? Even the animals in AK show love and affection to one another...It would be a much nicer place if more people loved one another or the person that they are with...

 

[12kizuna]

I am another person that doesnt mind certain PDA- people holding hands, kissing, smacking each others bums or anything "cute" like that doesnt bother me at all... A little love between people that love each other is NO BIG DEAL! I cant believe people can get offended w/ other people holding hands... ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?! Do you get mad when the characters holds hands too? Even the animals in AK show love and affection to one another...It would be a much nicer place if more people loved one another or the person that they are with...

I'm not sure if I came accross that way or not, but I totally agree!
It's just the more "intense" stuff that I get offended with. I think there's a big difference between cute, and acts that are more of a private thing, like french kissing. It's just something that I don't need to see walking down the street, you know? Especially at Disney World.

 

[badblackpug]

...okay here's my thought...If you wouldn't do it in the same room as your mother or father...don't do it in public! (that goes for people of all ages!)

 

[2Princes2Princesses]

If what you are doing is enough to make those around you worry that your clothes will be coming off soon.......Don't do it in Disney.

I don't snog (Love this term) DH in public either, just because I really never have.

I do stand in line, maybe with an hand on his back, rubbing a shoulder or something.

I don't have a problem if a couple kisses in my vicinity. In a moving line, maybe, but more because they are holding us up!!!

Even a french kiss is fine to me. Just not a groping, panting french kiss.

 

[Freyja]

...okay here's my thought...If you wouldn't do it in the same room as your mother or father...don't do it in public! (that goes for people of all ages!)

I think that´s great advice

 

[goofy4tink]

Interesting. I don´t see anything wrong with french kissing my husband in public and have done it at Disney many times. Never thought I would be offending anyone. Not that it would really matter. I won´t stop kissing my huband when I want to.

See, this is the problem. What is accepted in one country, may be frowned upon in another country. Americans, basically, are pretty puritanical when it comes to expressing our innermost feelings. You can pretty much see that in the responses here. And we are always being told that when we are in different countries, different cultures, we need to amend our behaviors so that we don't offend the people of that country/culture. I find that many Europeans have a much more liberal expectation as to what is acceptable in public than we do here in the USA.

...okay here's my thought...If you wouldn't do it in the same room as your mother or father...don't do it in public! (that goes for people of all ages!)

My thought exactly!!! I have seen adults with their hands down their partner pants, I have seen them swallowing each other whole it would seem. I have seen questionable outfits, as well as questionable behaviors...all in WDW. I feel that I'm pretty liberal, but there are plenty of conservative people out there. Why do my feelings/behaviors get to take precedance over theirs? Wouldn't it be so much nicer if we all just moderated our behaviors while out in public?? Just pretend Nana is right behind us....no way am I going to risk that Nana smack up side the head!!

 

[Freyja]

See, this is the problem. What is accepted in one country, may be frowned upon in another country. Americans, basically, are pretty puritanical when it comes to expressing our innermost feelings. You can pretty much see that in the responses here. And we are always being told that when we are in different countries, different cultures, we need to amend our behaviors so that we don't offend the people of that country/culture. I find that many Europeans have a much more liberal expectation as to what is acceptable in public than we do here in the USA.



My thought exactly!!! I have seen adults with their hands down their partner pants, I have seen them swallowing each other whole it would seem. I have seen questionable outfits, as well as questionable behaviors...all in WDW. I feel that I'm pretty liberal, but there are plenty of conservative people out there. Why do my feelings/behaviors get to take precedance over theirs? Wouldn't it be so much nicer if we all just moderated our behaviors while out in public?? Just pretend Nana is right behind us....no way am I going to risk that Nana smack up side the head!!

Well, I would kiss my DH in public in every country of the world except where it is banned by law. I would also french kiss my husband in front of our parents, grand parents, etc.

Wit that being said, I also know plenty of Americans who would do the same. The US is a big country, with lots of people and very different behaviours between them

 

[mickeysaver]

OH, I just saw this post

Nevermind.

Can I just say that I really miss Gilda Radnor. Thanks for the totally appropriate and very cute referrence. Maggie

 

[mickeysaver]

Well, sorry folks, if anyone is offended at the sight of two chubby lesbians holding hands while walking through the parks, you are not gonna wanna see us. If you are offended to surprise a couple of chubby lesbians that are doing a quick lip to lip peck kiss in an out of the way spot at WDW, you are not gonna wanna be there to suprise us. If you have a problem with chubby lesbians hugging each other during fireworks at the MK, you are not gonna wanna see us.

Basically, we try our best to be respectful of others, but we are very much still in love with one another. I was blessed to have met this wonderful woman 8 years ago. She is the best friend, partner, and companion that anyone could ever hope for. I refuse to go without the little bits of PDA that help us to feel connected when we are together in public. It's bad enough that she travels for a living and is only home about 2 days out of the week for sometimes 3 months at a time. I just refuse to let the opportunity to feel close to her pass when we are finally allowed time together.

Sorry if this sounds like a soapbox speech, but I am getting too dang old to be jumping into closets for anyone. Maggie

 

[Mandygrrl]

I'm not so much offended by PDAs as I am by people wearing bathing suits to the regular parks because they might get wet on a ride. If I wanted to see everyone in their bathing suits, I'd go to the water park! Innapropriate clothing is much worse to me that someone french-kissing someone else.

Showing love doesn't bother me

However, I don't want to see actual love-making in the parks, either

Truthfully, I don't think I notice much what others are doing while I'm at WDW. I'm having too much fun!

 

[snusnu]

Well, sorry folks, if anyone is offended at the sight of two chubby lesbians holding hands while walking through the parks, you are not gonna wanna see us. If you are offended to surprise a couple of chubby lesbians that are doing a quick lip to lip peck kiss in an out of the way spot at WDW, you are not gonna wanna be there to suprise us. If you have a problem with chubby lesbians hugging each other during fireworks at the MK, you are not gonna wanna see us.

Basically, we try our best to be respectful of others, but we are very much still in love with one another. I was blessed to have met this wonderful woman 8 years ago. She is the best friend, partner, and companion that anyone could ever hope for. I refuse to go without the little bits of PDA that help us to feel connected when we are together in public. It's bad enough that she travels for a living and is only home about 2 days out of the week for sometimes 3 months at a time. I just refuse to let the opportunity to feel close to her pass when we are finally allowed time together.

Sorry if this sounds like a soapbox speech, but I am getting too dang old to be jumping into closets for anyone. Maggie

Rock on, sister. Everyone has a right to be who they are, and should never be made to feel that their love is any less valid or valuable than anyone else's. My husband and I also enjoy being affectionate wherever we are, especially as we are extra happy on vacation and don't get a lot of time to be together at home with our ridiculous schedules. Of course, our hands are not, um, out of sight, but we do hold hands, hug and kiss. I also can't help but smack his tush sometimes. It's just really cute.

 

[Robo]

Truthfully, I don't think I notice much what others are doing while I'm at WDW. I'm having too much fun!

The kind of inappropriate PDA that most guests complain about are the ones where the couple INTENTIONALLY find as "public" and visible a place as possible to display their turgid machinations.

Its the imposition and intrusion of the kind of activities normally reserved for private sessions, but instead offered up as "cheap-thrill" public displays.

There is no reason that a torrid face-sucking make-out session, lasting several minutes, MUST be performed in direct sunlight at 1:35pm on the fence surrounding the nearby Friendship (Friendship is the right word here!!) dock on the promenade of the World Showcase Lagoon.

This is what I saw a guy and gal, college-agers, doing this last week.

The point?
You can fill in anything you'd like.

Was I "offended?"
No.

I was disappointed.
Disappointed that these low-class urchins thought that they should flagrantly
display such crass behavior at a family park and not feel the slightest brush of conscience.

 

[Amy&Dan]

The kind of inappropriate PDA that most guests complain about are the ones where the couple INTENTIONALLY find as "public" and visible a place as possible to display their turgid machinations.

Its the imposition and intrusion of the kind of activities normally reserved for private sessions, but instead offered up as "cheap-thrill" public displays.

Yeah, a nice kiss, holding hands, a hug, nothing wrong with that regardless of the gender of either party. It natural and touching to see people enjoying the company of the one they love at Disney or anywhere else. But when my then 9 year old son and I rode the Sun Wheel at Disneyland (well DCA actually) and the couple in the car above us (as in right above us in plain sight) chose to have a full fledged encounter for what seemed like an eternity it was way too much for this mom. I have never wanted to slap two people so much in my life. My son's take? The lady was "scared" and had to sit on her daddy's lap. Thank God for naivete!

 

[Jalva22]

While I agree that certain behaviors are inappropriate in a family park, it just seems to me that somebody is "offended" about something seen or said or written in about half the threads on the Dis. Our society is getting me to the point where I absolutely can't stand that word. Maybe we should all just lighten up a little bit. Yeah, I'd rather not see it, and it's a family place. But it's sure not going to anger me or ruin my day, and I'll forget about it by the time I'm past them. Who really cares? And no, it's not going to scar my kids to see it either.

 

[pebbles]

It doesn't bother me, but then again, I'm not on the lookout for it. In my 30+ times to Disney I can count on one hand the times that I noticed intense PDA's. Much more disturbing to me are PDF's (Public Displays of Fighting) I'd rather see a young couple playing tonsil tennis than a Dad/Mom screaming at their children.

 

[GrumpyOne]

Most of the people who do the excessive PDAs (roving hands type) are seeking attention. Glaring and muttering just encourage them. Instead, set up the camera like you're going to take pictures.