In search of my body...not the one I ate!

[believen]

QUESTION FOR YOU: What thing is in your head right now that will be the answer to losing weight? A piece of exercise equipment? (Leg magic anyone) A diet pill? A trip to a fat farm? A therapist?

I want an eliptical!!!!!!!! I'm sure if I had one, I'd be on it right now, and would exercise faithfully everyday! But, I spent my birthday $$ on a cricut, instead.

My answer to the famous person, at a restauraunt? My first thought was Paula Deen, at her restaurant, eating her famous fried chicken. and she uses butter! So, that's my answer.

3Disneykids- The reason I'm doing WW is, I have all the info, guides, and such from '06 when I tried unsuccessfully to keep from gaining before it got out of hand. I wasn't ready!
I make a sheet with circles for each serving of each food group I can have that day and check it off as I eat them. I do the points, but would never eat a vegetable unless thats all I have left.
It should be very balanced and healthy, if you make good choices. However, I can stay under my points and make awful choices, which is why I do the circles and not just count points! Does this make any sense?????
I've had great results with WW in the long ago past, and I'm not going to meetings, ya'll are my new support group!

 

[HockeyKat]

Mr Kat actually has an even worse problem with weight than I do. This is both a curse and a blessing... because he also has the same problems with binge eating. A blessing because he does understand what I go through... a curse becuase for me as a weak wuss, when he jumps off the wagon I have a tendency to get run over by the wheels.

If I drive to Charlotte and kill my vendor, do you think they would let me DIS in prison?

 

[Debbie]

WEIGH to go, Kat!!!

I do think, though, that working from home has helped to create my ever-expanding tail end.

THAT'S the problem that I have right now. I am revamping my lessons to go on the SMARTboard,and spend hours on the computer. I've always had a caboose the size of a . . . .caboose, and this working on the computer doesn't help. At least when I do my lessons, I stand with the laptop on a cart. That's something, right?

Ok, for all of you who are good with your water....I HATE drinking water! I have a really hard time with it! Any tips? tricks? ideas?

Get out the refillable mugs and smile everytime you finish the mug. Those Blizzard Beach mugs are hu-mun-gous.

I was happy that it was about 1/4 of the size piece I would have normally eaten, but I think the injection of that sugar into my system re-awakened my carb loving self and I am now craving all types of breads and sweets. The veggies just don't look that appetizing at the moment... I am willing myself to be good and stay on plan, but it is not easy...

OMGosh! That's how I have been the past two days. I want something sweet. I want something carby. I want something crunchy that is not green and is not good for me.

Also, put a bottle of water with a green tea or decaf sweet or fruit flavored tea in the water for just a minute to add flavor.

Reading the ingredients is the beginning of purging your kitchen of the bad stuff.

Ain't that the truth!!!
DisneyWorld Delight, enjoy that cake decorating class. I love watching the food channel and reading recipe books when I am watching my weight. Not sure why, but it seems to help. Enjoy the reduced stress in your life for a few days, too.

I'm a happily married,(22 years) stay at home Mom. I've got three great kids, who don't cause much stress, just the average drama of teenagers. 3 years of college, no degree, I took a lot of aerobics LOL.

Oh can I RELATE!!!!

'87 first child
'89 2nd child
'90 3rd child

Oh, you had 'em close, too. My first three are '84, '86, '87, then I lost weight to have #4 in '91, #5 came along in '94, so I am still going through that teenage girl thing.

We will be guardians of her 3 children. 8,9, and 11. So, my family of 5 will become a family of 8! That sounds so simple-right????

God BLESS you, believen.
AKASnowWhite

What I *can't* answer is, if I have all this knowledge in my head, and I KNOW what to do (I previously lost 45 lbs on WW) why have I gotten myself into the position where my jeans feel like they've been shrink-wrapped to my body?

Jeans? Jeans? I keep telling DH NOT to wash the things, because then I have to figure out how to get them on without cutting off my circulation. Talk about your sausage casings! I'm another one who could teach the WW classes, I just can't get the act together [again] to do it for myself.

So, here I am, checking out Oprah. Today hasn't been too bad. I ignored the (good for you, dark) chocolate at the staff meeting and ate an apple instead. The test will be staying away from the fresh Italian bread-and French bread-that DH bought to go with the chili (homemade, so not tooooo bad) that we had for supper. And I have the veggies beside me for the snack attack. But I reeeeeeaaaaaaalllllllyyyyy want something sweet!

 

[VernRDH]

Here is a picture of me and DH in Nassau doing the Segways.

Don't I look skinny!! Its the knee pads (DH wanted to know if I could keep them after the tour )

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

Here is a picture of me and DH in Nassau doing the Segways.

Don't I look skinny!! Its the knee pads (DH wanted to know if I could keep them after the tour )

You look good. I need some knee pads. Something to disguise the way my thighs are sliding down over them.

DizneyDawn, where are you?

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

But I reeeeeeaaaaaaalllllllyyyyy want something sweet!

Step away from the sweets.

 

[goofyfan-12]

I made it to my weigh in and after all of my worrying, I lost 1-1/2 pounds!!!!!

I am so excited.... I am re-energized for the week ahead and can't wait to work out tomorrow...

Hope you are all having a great week so far... Thank you all for listening and providing support... You are just what the "diet doctor" ordered...

Talk to you all soon,
Goof

 

[3DisneyKids]

Way to go Goof! We are proud of you! Go Goofy, Go Goofy, Go Goofy (doin' "the dance" that no one overweight should EVER do.... )

 

[HockeyKat]

Here is a picture of me and DH in Nassau doing the Segways.

Don't I look skinny!! Its the knee pads (DH wanted to know if I could keep them after the tour )

Cute!!

I made it to my weigh in and after all of my worrying, I lost 1-1/2 pounds!!!!!

I am so excited.... I am re-energized for the week ahead and can't wait to work out tomorrow...

Hope you are all having a great week so far... Thank you all for listening and providing support... You are just what the "diet doctor" ordered...

Talk to you all soon,
Goof

Way to go!!

I just finished watching PoC-At World's End. I have to say, not that impressed... just seemed looooooong. However, I didn't eat at all during the 2.5 hours so I guess that is a good thing!

 

[3DisneyKids]

I just finished watching PoC-At World's End. I have to say, not that impressed... just seemed looooooong. However, I didn't eat at all during the 2.5 hours so I guess that is a good thing!

Absolutely! I live for the small victories!

I made it through the whole evening without snacking! That is a major accomplishment!

 

[SeptemberGirl]

Wow - so many posts! I read them all, but it's really late so I'm not replying to each one...I promise to catch up tomorrow! Just wanted to say hi to all of you and have a good Tuesday!

 

[Debbie]

Goof! Weigh to go!

Proud to say that I didn't eat the sweets. In fact, I didn't even have my bedtime arrowroot crackers that I normally have. Just to bed. A small victory, but a victory the same.

My goal today-other than drink my water-is to actually move during Biggest Loser: sit ups rather than sit downs; touch the toes rather touch the tush on the couch; raise the knees instead of raise the glass of wine; and kick outs instead of pig outs.

Off to school. Stay strong. (Almost wrote stray strong....but don't stray!)

 

[milestogo]

Please, Please, Please tell me that everyone of you watched Oprah yesterday???? Please find it now. We should join as a group the Oprah 2008 fitness challenge with Bob Green. It was a really good show and I just love Bob Green - he gets it. He gets this group! Go to Oprah.com and go the Oprah and Bob's 2008 best life challenge and tell me what you think.

I just happened to have spent the day yesterday cleaning my gym out from all the Xmas stuff that has been hidden for 3 months. I vacuumed the carpet and immediately did my abs. I have an entire gym in my home that I couldn't even see because we had been using as Santa's workshop. We, also, had some good weather for the first time in about 6 weeks, so I got out and worked in the yard for about 3 hours (listening to audio books.)

Now this might be a good tip for all of you, speaking of listening to audio books, this is how I walk and excercise. I reserve books online from my library and then listen to them while doing busy work. It keeps me moving through the story. Two years ago my goal was 20 books and last year I hit 25 books (I listen in the kitchen when doing really boring work, in the car, in the yard gardening and especially the excercising.) This may work for you and you may love them.

I have to say that right now, life here is pretty good. But we have some hard times ahead, as DH's grandma is almost 86 and is severe Alzheimers patient. They are trying to do immediate placement in to a nursing home for her. Grandpa is 90 and he can "manage" but should also be put into assisted living. The question is which one will die first and how soon after will the other one go? My FIL is the primary caregiver, does all the running around, dr's appts, etc. This has taken quite a toll on him too. And that's hard for DH, which in turn makes it hard for me (DH is an only child)

Dont' fret too much, my grandfather went into retirement home 5 years ago (at $3000 per month) and died this past Sept. at the age of 95. My grandmother is 93 and walks everyday and keeps on going. Unfortunately, the money was devastating. But even though he didn't know us anymore, we had the chance to say goodbye and felt comfortable when he passed on.

And on my side of the family, my father has turned in to an idiot who cares nothing about his family anymore as he is "living his life having fun" My mom died four years ago and he started dating about 9 months after she passed. He met "The Troll" (honestly, she looks like one , I swear). And now he wants nothing to do with his only two granddaughters since his troll doesn't like children. It is hard to explain to DD why her grandfather does not want to spend time with her anymore.

My DH's dad did the same thing, but then married another woman (1 year after her death ) but she has turned out to be great and has really pulled him back into the family in a way he never was before. He'll be back, he's just facing his own crisis.



We're off to Disneyland today, I'll walk from the parking lot to move my body.

 

[milestogo]

If you're ready to join Oprah and Bob's Best Life Challenge, Bob says there are five things that you must start doing today.
1. Get moving.
"That's the single most important thing," Bob says. "Most people cut calories, but you've got to lead an active lifestyle."

2. Stop eating two hours before bedtime.
"That alone is going to translate into significant weight loss," he says. "Build it into your lifestyle of what's your normal schedule."

3. Drink at least six glasses of water.
"Most people are dehydrated, and that hurts the weight loss process," Bob says. "Get your six 8-ounce glasses a day. …But if you're active, you've got to step that up."

4. Eat three meals, including a nutritious breakfast, and a snack.
Bob says restructuring your eating, especially to incorporate a healthy breakfast, is extremely important.

5. Eliminate alcohol (for now).
"You can add it back at a later date," Bob says. "Give it a month or two."

 

[Dizneydawn]

I've been looking forward to his leaving. DH is pretty demanding. We own a construction company. Custom high end homes and, now that housing is pretty sloooooow, we are doing more projects in the commercial world. DH is our company. He is so very busy and it falls to me to keep EVERYTHING else in line. I work in our office thru the week, but when you work for yourself, you are never really off. So, because he is out of town, the pressure in my life gets cut back somewhat. I am trying to not go hog wild. Because I can have lunch with friends and spend the whole evening at my parents playing cards and what not. Those things are just not possible when DH is around. I have to be available 24/7 to help my husband live his life.

Honey I just want to hug you. My good girlfriend who lives by me could copy and paste her face on your body and the story would be the same. I am going to be honest here so be prepared. I won't hold punches to give you a warm fuzzy...what I will do is be real with you from my perspective.

First of all DH and you are the company...not DH. It seems you are the woman behind the scenes but what good Theater production would be worth seeing if there wasn't the writers, the sound techs and the prop folks. Good gosh...we can't even have an Award show in Hollywood without writers. You do matter and you do play a vital role in your family and your company. You have to see it first and believe it if he has any prayer of doing so.

Secondly...I will be totally honest here so please don't think this is easy for me or you. My 17 years of marriage was abusive. Verbally and physically. I just realised this about 3 weeks ago having dinner with my sister and my best friend. I was giving all this fluff stuff for reasons my marriage failed...then the mirror and speakers came up and for the first time I saw and heard myself.
See...I always said..well he never hit me with a closed fist...or I usually didn't back down from the fight so I could have controlled my behavior. Or how about...he doesn't do "X" so it could be worse. I have taught classes to abused women and I have held lectures on being strong on your own...but the truth was...I couldn't see myself before.

Was my situation the worst...absolutley not....did I ever get bruises...no...did he usually appologize after....most always...did he do it in front of the kids...not their eyes...but we know their ears hear everything. Is he a horrible father...no....could he be better...yes but so could I.

That "I" there,....that was the kicker for me...somehow I was still thinking I was in control and somehow I was taking responsibility for him. I was making excuses because life without him was foreign...life without him meant I needed to be okay being alone....life without him meant being okay with the fact someone may never love me and being okay with him finally carrying his weight as a father. Would he ever do something with the kids on his own without me promting that wasn't sports related???

I kept thinking I was doing this for the kids...but the negative feelings they endured and rage they saw...was not good for them. It's like us fooling ourselves about a stupid twinkie. It tastes good...I enjoy it while I am eating it....but the long term ramifications are huge and does the 20 seconds of good outweigh the 30 minutes of cardio and the crying because my darn jeans don't fit??

Please God, know I am not telling you to leave him. I am not telling you to stay. I am just saying that for me...I had to look at my life for now and in the future and ask if it was going where I want it to go. Was it going to be better 20 years from now. Will he grow old with me and at the end of the day...will I lie in bed and know he is there because he wants to be...not because he has to be. Why is it that I could see my mistakes...acknowledge them and expect that from myself and yet...for him...give forgiveness and no accountability.

Talking to my counselor the other day...and she helped me piece one of the final puzzle pieces of my life. I stayed in this relationship because I had endured worse in my childhood, saw worse with my parents and knew that this marriage was not as bad as it could be. I am a survivor and to quit meant lack of strength in me. Again...fooling myself I held all the control.

Honey...I am so glad you are here and I am so proud of you for bearing your heartache to us. I will speak only for myself here...but I want you to be loved and be valued and be in a place where you live your life for you with him. Not for him and you lose the beautiful person who you long to be. Cake Decorator Extrordinare and all!



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My Dad died in August of '06 and my Uncle died July'06. Stress of that and I'm closest to my mom and aunt and all that entails. Both in good health, but Mom has mega memory problems and Aunt had never done anything on her own-bills, cars, banks, nothing!!!
I've gained over 40 lbs in a year- no health problems, they checked everything!!!!!! I just ate too much.
Now, I can't get any heavier and the stress keeps piling on, so somethings got to give! I'm determined and I know I can do it.
The newest stress, MIL, the best MIL, died of cancer on Thanksgiving morning. SIL(41) has cancer and is on hospice care. She has a crappy x-husband. Yesterday, she has a collapsed lung and her kidneys are failing.
We will be guardians of her 3 children. 8,9, and 11.
So, my family of 5 will become a family of 8! That sounds so simple-right????
So, Hi, I'm glad to be a part of this group. I still may read more than comment, but know I am cheering and laughing and crying with you!!!!!!!!!!

I'm doing WW, it's worked before and I think it's healthiest for me. I'm also walking for exercise.

I am so amazed at the women and men on this great thread. You will see the other side of this place in your life and I am proud of your decesion to step up and be a mother to 3 more. Maybe God gave you the extra cushion so when you run around chasing these 6 kiddos...you will not be accused of having an eating dissorder and we don't have to see you and Nicole Richie on People next month! :
You are at the right place for hugs and wishes and you will be able to leave an amazing legacy to your family when this life we lead is all over. How many of us will be able to show the way for our kids to grow healthy through adversity and the decesions to make good choices over the easy ones. You are my inspiration this week to stay strong and believe in the small miracles.

Your neices and nephews will be so lucky to have you as their care giver. So well said!

Delight--I could have written most of your e-mail myself. While I love DH dearly and we have a good marriage, he definitely causes me added stress--yes, this has definitely added to my weight gain, but I will write about that another time. When he travels for business, I feel like I am on vacation from one of my "jobs." So I get what you are saying.

I hope we all have a life someday where our vacation comes from falling into the arms of the one we are supposed to feel whole with..not whole when they are away. I too lived this...sad isn't it. I wonder how much of our Disney fixation at some level is the want for a belief in happy endings and a Prince Charming. Ya never saw even Beauty tell Beast to go for a long walk off a short Pier! How about Cinderelly telling her price to go find another shoe!!!

I TOTALLY understand what you just described of your DH. I love mine but having the me time is so nice sometimes.

Hmm, maybe amputation? How much does a leg weigh...

Paging Dr. Lector....Hannibal Lector... please come to the front office...we have a package for you to pick up.

Dawn, now you have me excited! Awww...shucks

I am a big Food Network Junkie. It is on all day Saturday at my house. I am coming to Orlando in Feb for IBS (International Builders Show). One of the side shows is going to a Dinner Impossible meal with (David?) Irvine. It is $65 and I am so torn about weather to go or not. It's $65. And it would take away from Disney time, but really, when will I ever get the opportunity to do that again? I guess the guests get to pick the ingredients and he will make them on stage, or some setup like that. I am assuming it will be taped. What to do, what to do?


Thanks to all for the understanding of the relationship with DH. It controls my every move and it's just plain exhausting.

Go to the show...love doing something for you and get a choke collar for DH to teach him to walk beside you...not in front!
(I was being nice there BTW...I could have said a shock collar! )

Well, I did something today that I've never done before. I found this thread and I read every page - every post, every word!

I laughed (a lot), I cried (well, almost...) and mostly I feel like I found some kindred spirits.

What an awesome way to start this relationship...you so kissed all the right places
Seriously...WELCOME !!!

So totally kidding! You are most welcome here. This ain't no elevator. We can squeeze as many fat girls (and one guy) as we possibly can.

Ahemm...Who you callin fat???

I just had this conversation with my husband. I know what I need to do! Guess what my dear, sweet, in shape, tall, looks better than when we married, that out eats me at every meal, husband said. Just do it! He so does not "get it"

Thanks for the

My ex was the same. Although his body changed also...old man's flat butt versus the plentyfull football player one he started with...

I go away for a few days and this thread just plum EXPLODES!!! Like when I try putting on some skinny pants.

DH and I had a wonderful time on our anniversary cruise. We spent time just lolling around, taking naps and enjoying ourselves and each other. We rode Segways in Nassau-(totally fun and something I never would have done had I not lost 50 lbs). We hung out in a semi private cabana on CocoCay. Absolute paradise. We met lots of wonderful people and made new friends. We ate, but not too much. We walked A LOT. All over the ship and islands. But we were glad to get home today to our DD, who we missed quite a bit.

I am scared to get on the scale tomorrow. I feel like I am retaining a lot of water, so I don't know how WI in will go.
You will be good because you enjoyed your time with your husband and that is something a scale will not show!!

And on my side of the family, my father has turned in to an idiot who cares nothing about his family anymore as he is "living his life having fun" My mom died four years ago and he started dating about 9 months after she passed. He met "The Troll" (honestly, she looks like one , I swear). And now he wants nothing to do with his only two granddaughters since his troll doesn't like children. It is hard to explain to DD why her grandfather does not want to spend time with her anymore.
So I will see your troll story and raise you a big ****...this story will be posted in a few minutes seperatley becaue I need all the milies I can get!

If I drive to Charlotte and kill my vendor, do you think they would let me DIS in prison?

We will demand this from our congressman and senators. We will not stop protesting until you are given your rights!

You look good. I need some knee pads. Something to disguise the way my thighs are sliding down over them.

DizneyDawn, where are you?

Had a crazy day...kept thinking I would have 2 hours to respond properly and did not find it! Missed you all and thank you for noticing I was MIA!

I made it to my weigh in and after all of my worrying, I lost 1-1/2 pounds!!!!!

I am so excited.... I am re-energized for the week ahead and can't wait to work out tomorrow...

Hope you are all having a great week so far... Thank you all for listening and providing support... You are just what the "diet doctor" ordered...

Talk to you all soon,
Goof

YOU ARE VERY GOOD WOMAN!!!! I am proud of you!!!!

Wow - so many posts! I read them all, but it's really late so I'm not replying to each one...I promise to catch up tomorrow! Just wanted to say hi to all of you and have a good Tuesday!

HI!!!

Goof! Weigh to go!

Proud to say that I didn't eat the sweets. In fact, I didn't even have my bedtime arrowroot crackers that I normally have. Just to bed. A small victory, but a victory the same.

My goal today-other than drink my water-is to actually move during Biggest Loser: sit ups rather than sit downs; touch the toes rather touch the tush on the couch; raise the knees instead of raise the glass of wine; and kick outs instead of pig outs.

Off to school. Stay strong. (Almost wrote stray strong....but don't stray!)

Good job...you are taking this the right way....one step away from the crackers at a time!!

 

[Dizneydawn]

So here is the story of my Dad.

I have a funny story about Dad's and who they choose after a divorce.
My Dad and my Mom got divorced when I was 19. I had been asking for this since I was 8 so please know I was not sad about the divorce itself.

My Dad dated a woman named Karen for about 5 years and she was pretty great but she couldn't handle his crazy temper and self- obsessed knowledge that he is the end all for opinions.

So about 3 months after they broke up...I was working at his company and in walked a hooker. Not a pretty hooker either.

She was wearing red stilletto pumps...a short red skirt...fishnet red stockings and a white and red shirt that showed her ample Double HH's. I am saying if you put your arms strait out in front of you...please play along...I am waiting....now see your wrists....yeah, that's where they ended.

So I am assuming she is lost....oh noo...she asks, "Is Dave here?" (Insert Texas Drawl that is nails on a chalkboard. So hoitty toitty and upitty. She actually told me she had to take voice lessons to try and undo her sexy voice. That when she was in mtgs with her Daddy's oiiiiiillll company...men would not pay attention but just sit and look at her mesmorised by her words dripping like honey off of a bee hive. No you pshycho...they were staring at your freakish chest.!!)

Good Gosh...I am praying she is buying a CCTV for her business. But nooo..this is who my Dad is dating.

Long story very shortened...I started referring to her as BIG TI*S. My kids would say.."Are we going to Grandpa Dave and BIG TI*S for Christmas?" Sick I know!!!

My grandfather who was the best man I know...called her Big Bo*bs.

I have all the sympathy in the world for those cursed with large breasts...but she flaunted these. Like saying she had fibromialgea and lupus so she could not wear a bra. She actually could tuck them in her socks for goodness sakes. She also refused to move quite often in narrow halls and when you tried to walk around her jubblies...say, "Don't make fun of your Dad's favorite toys." (They need a vommit smilie)

She and he got married in Vegas telling no one else.....she convinced him that myself and everyone who helped build his company were stealing from him and put a wedge in our extended family.

My grandpa died about 3 months after they got married...military funeral...and she actually stepped forward and grabbed the flag as it was presented. (My dad is 3rd of 5 children) I thought she was going to be shoved into the hole before my grandpa was. I would not pee on her if she was on fire in front of me right now.

So FF 3 years later...Dad is in serious health crisis...5 bi-passes etc...she gives him a Dear John...and he finds out she has gambled $800,000 away in a year...his business is gone....the house is in foreclosure and she had opened up 9 checking accounts to not get caught.

The evil side of me said serves ya right for not listening to anyone who said she is out for your money....but the good daughter side said...he needs help.
My sisters and I packed his portion...found a rental house and there he sat for 2 years.

Health gets worse..bi-pass on leg is awful and he should get amputated...but he can get on the computer. Enter:
Moona Luna (AKA MIRALUNA)
My sister calls her Sun Moon Buffet.
I am told she is roughly... ahemmm...my age...lives in the Philippines and is the love of his life.

Treyner's 15th Birthday was coming up...he says he is going to visit her for a month in January and should he tell the kids. I say no.

He ignores me and shows her pic to Treyner, saying "This is the girl I am going to see next month in the Philippines.".
Now her pic is like a passport pic...like a small school size pic...and she is roughly ...ahemm..my age.

Treyner says..."So you are going to the Philippines to adopt a child?"

If only I had a video camera for my victory!!

My Dad responds with..."No Treyner...I am going to visit her because we are dating."
"Ohhh" Treyner says.

Later when my Dad left...Treyner said..."I am sorry mom...I thought Grandpa had been watchiing that Sally lady on Sunday mornings that says you can adopt a child for like a quarter a day."

I love that boy!!!

End of story...he still likes her..I think she should get here...married to him..and give me 7 years of peace from the responsibility of his life! It is a win win for all of us!!

Hope ya laughed...I will have to dig up a picture of Big TI*S. She is a hideous beast I tell ya. If anyone is in Oklahoma..she is there now...she looks like a cross between Bozo the clown and well....I can honestly say I can't think of anyone that ugly.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

I will not eat the Wilton Rose. I will not eat the Wilton Rose. I will not eat the Wilton Rose.

 

[DisneyWorld Delight]

EWWWWWWWWW. That story was just... Where do I begin. With "Men are IDIOTS" or "Nasty Skanks?"

It's too bad you had to watch all that go down. I'm sure it was devastating. Men are idiots.

 

[3DisneyKids]

OMG Dawn! What a way for me to start my DIS day! You must, must, must post a pic of Big TaTas! That is too funny! Way to go Treynor, too! Great kid you got there!

It is amazing the things dads do (and to be fair, plenty of moms as well). My dad was substantially older than my mom (16 years). Apparently, that wasn't young enough for him. When I was about 7 he began an affair. He was a college professor and about 53-54 at the time. And whom did he choose? His 19 year old Teaching Assistant. Niiiiiice.

She was closer to my age! My brother and I called her Dog Face for years and years. The scary thing was that she had the same coloring as I do, so the (very) few times my dad would take us out together, waitresses would say, "What beautiful daughters you have..." (insert the vomiting smiley here!)

She herself and massive father issues (duh...why else would she be with someone so much older ) so she married him. Then when he got really old and ill, she left. She was in her late 40s and wanted to live the rest of her life; he was in his 80s and died alone.

Fortunately for me and the rest of my family, my mom married my dad (who is my dad in every sense of the word) and we really were able to have an ideal family life from then on. But those early years.....yeeesh!

Thanks, Dawn, for sharing the story of your marriage. You are an inspiration and sharing your life is sure to help others. I have shared a bit of my situation with DH and eventually I will share the rest. Yes, it is part of my weight struggle.

I go back to work today! (Yet another need for the vomiting smiley! ) Ah well, it's ok. I have a great teaching load this semester, so it shouldn't be too tough.

Stay strong everyone. We are doing this for US! This time, I am doing this for ME. And in making ME better, I will be a better mom to my kids...and so on and so on and so on.....

 

[Dizneydawn]

Wouldn't that be great.

Dizneydawn, I know what your telling me. And I thank you for your honesty. (You guys are nothing like Britany's entourage.) I am just not to that point. If I think about leaving, and having to live in Section 8 housing (not on my short list, kwim?), and working 40+ hours per week (nothing like working for yourself. good and bad.) having to find help with my girls, it's just not worth the trade off. Now, ask me in 20 years, hindsight being 20/20 and all, but for now...I'll keep running. Again, I'm not looking for pity. It is what it is. Which is 50% of the reason I'm overweight. I'll let you know when I figure out what the other 50% is.

I will not eat the Wilton Rose. I will not eat the Wilton Rose. I will not eat the Wilton Rose.

What is a Wilton Rose???
I know you are not asking for pity girl...you are a survivor too. You are perfectly good and I am glad you know that you can have a friend here to listen and give honest feedback. You deserve happiness however you want it.

EWWWWWWWWW. That story was just... Where do I begin. With "Men are IDIOTS" or "Nasty Skanks?" You are too funny.

It's too bad you had to watch all that go down. I'm sure it was devastating. Men are idiots.

OMG Dawn! What a way for me to start my DIS day! You must, must, must post a pic of Big TaTas! That is too funny! Way to go Treynor, too! Great kid you got there! He is funny.

It is amazing the things dads do (and to be fair, plenty of moms as well). My dad was substantially older than my mom (16 years). Apparently, that wasn't young enough for him. When I was about 7 he began an affair. He was a college professor and about 53-54 at the time. And whom did he choose? His 19 year old Teaching Assistant. Niiiiiice.
He thought youth=virility because he felt dead.

She was closer to my age! My brother and I called her Dog Face for years and years. The scary thing was that she had the same coloring as I do, so the (very) few times my dad would take us out together, waitresses would say, "What beautiful daughters you have..." (insert the vomiting smiley here!)
that had to be akward...was she nice to you?? I mean looking back as an adult...wheteher it was her idea or not...spending time with you was your Dad's responsibility....I just wonder if she was the main reason?
She herself and massive father issues (duh...why else would she be with someone so much older ) so she married him. Then when he got really old and ill, she left. She was in her late 40s and wanted to live the rest of her life; he was in his 80s and died alone.
Soo sad he never gotthe help to see his own issues.
Fortunately for me and the rest of my family, my mom married my dad (who is my dad in every sense of the word) and we really were able to have an ideal family life from then on. But those early years.....yeeesh!
How old were you when your mom got re-married?

Thanks, Dawn, for sharing the story of your marriage. You are an inspiration and sharing your life is sure to help others. I have shared a bit of my situation with DH and eventually I will share the rest. Yes, it is part of my weight struggle.
I think I have a very good idea of that rest...remember I too got into social work for a reason. Fixing others is so much easier than myself!
I go back to work today! (Yet another need for the vomiting smiley! ) Ah well, it's ok. I have a great teaching load this semester, so it shouldn't be too tough.

Stay strong everyone. We are doing this for US! This time, I am doing this for ME. And in making ME better, I will be a better mom to my kids...and so on and so on and so on.....

ditto