Air Force Staff Sgt. Patrick Lee Griffin Jr., 31, of Elgin, S.C.
5-13-03
Assigned to 728th Air Control Squadron, Eglin Air Force Base, Fla.; killed in action near Diwaniyah, Iraq, when his convoy was ambushed en route to Baghdad.
Patrick Lee Griffin Jr. joined the Air Force five years ago to take advantage of education benefits. He was promoted to staff sergeant in February 2003 and deployed to Iraq in April.
Griffin, a data systems technician, was killed May 13 when his convoy was ambushed on the way to Baghdad. He had only been there a few weeks, said his stepmother, Paula Griffin, of Groton, N.Y. We thought the war was over with. She said her stepson married his wife, Michelle, in 1997; they had two children, Mackensie, 2, and Cory, 4.
Associated Press
EGLIN AIR FORCE BASE, Fla. The wife of an airman killed in Iraq says her husband never should have been there because of family emergencies, including his mother-in-laws terminal illness.
Staff Sgt. Patrick Griffin Jr., 31, was a computer geek whose two children, Corey, 4, and Makensie, 2, dont understand he will never return, said his wife, Michelle. He died May 13 when his convoy was ambushed on the way to Baghdad.
He had been gone three weeks when Michelle returned to their home on this Florida Panhandle base to find four military representatives on the doorstep.
I knew, she said. I told them, You came here to say something. Just say it.
When they did, she cursed, hit them and tore the ribbons from their uniforms, she told the Northwest Florida Daily News of Fort Walton Beach.
Her mother, who lives in Gainesville, had been diagnosed with terminal cancer in February and given six months to live. Griffin asked to stay home to help his wife. His request was denied. Last week, Michelles mother had surgery and her life expectancy is now a couple years.
I dont have any feelings or anger toward the men who shot my husband, she said. Pat and I had talked about it. We were going to kill their people. They were going to kill ours. Im mad that Pat was even there.
Two weeks after he left, Makensie broke her nose and Michelle got blood poisoning. Doctors wanted to hospitalize her, but she went home to be with her children.
Griffin asked for medical leave but was turned down. A week later, Makensie fell carrying a glass and cut her hand to the bone. When Griffin called, they argued about it.
He called again the next day to apologize and said he would be going to Baghdad. There was one more call the following day.
The couple met when Michelle was 8 years old and Griffin moved in next door in Dryden, N.Y. They dated as teens, married in 1997 and he joined the Air Force the next year. He died during his third deployment.
This time he had a premonition, Michelle said. He gave her numerous instructions on what to do if he should die.
Since his death, she had been trying to find out what happened. The woman driving his truck told her they had been blowing tires all day. The convoy stopped and they got out. Thats when a bullet went through his side and shoulder.
An investigation is continuing and Michelle plans to remain in the Panhandle, renting a house in Crestview, for a year to see it though.
Her husbands ground radar unit, the 728th Air Control Squadron, is due back in December.
When that plane comes in and Pat doesnt get off that plane, thats when Ill begin to have closure, she said. Thats when Ill know that its real.